Mine abit same.
No baby yet but I ask my wife come over stay for 1 night she show the sian face. she don't hate my parents but she's not comfortable to stay at other ppl (mine) place other than her house.
Although this is a small issue , even my parents also don't mine she don't stay here but once in awhile come stay for 1 night at least don't show the sian face...my side is probably one of the more accommodating family liao...knn if she go marry other ppl see the in-law will allow husband and wife to stay separate place anot.
I stay with my in-laws for 1 year after our marriage as our BTO flat haven't come yet.
After giving birth, I forced her to moved back to my parents place as we need my mum to look after my baby son...
Once my son hits 18 mths old and my flat ready liao, my wife die die wanna moved to our new house liao, now her mum living with us helping to look after our son and she is much more happier...I am ok with her mum too but she is very loh soh and naggy and really can non stop keep repeating same thing over and over one but my mum die die cannot stay with us...
I find men more 随便 and we don't bear grudges, anything oso can adapt but sinkie women very hard, abit wanna make noise liao, my mum always offend her unknowingly with her words last time and so until now she hated my mum...
Good luck to u bro, dealing with mum and wife can be a nightmare...