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Old 04-07-2020, 04:07 PM   #1
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Need advices on dropping out of university

Hello! I'm currently in Year 2, going to be Year 3 soon. I'm studying in a healthcare-related course and just started my internship. I realised that I did not like the job scope and found it to be extremely stressful for me. Hence, I have thoughts of dropping out of this course.

I had similar thoughts when I was in Year 1, yet I decided to stay on and at least get a degree then find a different job in the future especially since school fees were not cheap. Now, I have a feeling that I may not be able to last till I graduate. I still haven't talked to my parents about this yet, and I'm afraid they will react negatively as my mother previously told me not to drop out once I've chosen a course.

Any advices on this?
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Old 04-07-2020, 04:39 PM   #2
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Speak to your sch admin staff before the next sem starts. Worst case just extend graduation by 2 or 3 sems. But its fine to me if its needed
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Old 04-07-2020, 05:40 PM   #3
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Hello! I'm currently in Year 2, going to be Year 3 soon. I'm studying in a healthcare-related course and just started my internship. I realised that I did not like the job scope and found it to be extremely stressful for me. Hence, I have thoughts of dropping out of this course.

I had similar thoughts when I was in Year 1, yet I decided to stay on and at least get a degree then find a different job in the future especially since school fees were not cheap. Now, I have a feeling that I may not be able to last till I graduate. I still haven't talked to my parents about this yet, and I'm afraid they will react negatively as my mother previously told me not to drop out once I've chosen a course.

Any advices on this?
IMHO.

I am not sure are your fees subsidized. You may want to find out if you drop out now, will there be any impact if you take another degree or diploma.

Also, consider the impact it will have on your CV and job hunting as your future employer may ask you about it.

Internship is just a small part on the long journey. I would say to strive on as if you graduate, you are a graduate and that will open doors to opportunities, regardless of what you might be doing later on in life.
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Old 04-07-2020, 06:00 PM   #4
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IMHO.

I am not sure are your fees subsidized. You may want to find out if you drop out now, will there be any impact if you take another degree or diploma.

Also, consider the impact it will have on your CV and job hunting as your future employer may ask you about it.

Internship is just a small part on the long journey. I would say to strive on as if you graduate, you are a graduate and that will open doors to opportunities, regardless of what you might be doing later on in life.
Yes, I do have MOE tuition grant for school fees! However, the cost of the school fees are still not cheap, in just Year 1, my parents paid about 10k :') Although I called it an internship here, it is something like clinical rotation where I will be placed at certain places to learn and work. I still have 3 more after this placement, hence I am really afraid of the anxieties and stress that will come as they are definitely more difficult to pass than my current one. I am also having a hard time dealing with anxieties, stress and nightmares already.

Thanks for the advice!
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Old 04-07-2020, 07:07 PM   #5
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Question is if you choose to drop out, what are you going to do? Find a job using your highest qualification of diploma or A level? Or apply for another uni course next year? Then what course are you going to choose and how sure are you that the same story will not happen again?

I did pull out of uni after 1 year and went for another uni and course. I took it like a 2nd chance and not going to let the same story repeat itself but there's still that uncertainty whether I was going to regret this or not. In the end I was much happier in the 2nd uni and now working in a related sector.

It sounds like you are from the healthcare sector. I think there was a time when you were very passionate about helping others which was why you decided to pursue this degree course. Look at the wider picture, what caused the sudden loss of motivation? Stressful situations will always be there regardless of where you go. You've to find a way to manage it.

You can also try to take some time to explore other career pathways that this degree course can lead you to, if frontline healthcare is what you are trying to avoid. Best thing is to speak to people who are in the industry, maybe you might find someone who had been through the same dilemma as you.
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Old 04-07-2020, 10:37 PM   #6
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I am also having a hard time dealing with anxieties, stress and nightmares already.

Thanks for the advice!
See a counsellor. Learn to cope with the anxiety and stress.

Ask yourself, if it's in a different environment, will you also be exposed to anxiety and stress.
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Old 05-07-2020, 12:39 AM   #7
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Hello! I'm currently in Year 2, going to be Year 3 soon. I'm studying in a healthcare-related course and just started my internship. I realised that I did not like the job scope and found it to be extremely stressful for me. Hence, I have thoughts of dropping out of this course.

I had similar thoughts when I was in Year 1, yet I decided to stay on and at least get a degree then find a different job in the future especially since school fees were not cheap. Now, I have a feeling that I may not be able to last till I graduate. I still haven't talked to my parents about this yet, and I'm afraid they will react negatively as my mother previously told me not to drop out once I've chosen a course.

Any advices on this?
It is a tough, but not a hopeless situation.
One very important note is that you need not end up doing the work as what most people with that qualification do! You definitely do not have to do the type of work that you are doing during the internship! There are many other jobs that you can do with your qualification. Also, with that basic qualification you can even go for a master degree program in another field. Cheer up!
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Old 05-07-2020, 09:13 AM   #8
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Thank you for all the replies! I'm having difficulties in coming up with a backup plan too. I totally have no idea what I am interested in. I joined the course for the sake of having an degree and for the iron rice bowl. I thought I had the passion in helping people, but I realised that it wasn't the case. I think I don't have much empathy for people.

The stress and anxieties that I have likely stems from my poor foundation as I couldn't focus in studies. It was extremely difficult for me to find motivation for my current course, not even wanting a good gpa could motivate me.

I know there are definitely other careers I can go for, not limited to this profession. That was my original plan, where I continue so I can get a degree and find a different job.
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Old 05-07-2020, 09:49 AM   #9
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Thank you for all the replies! I'm having difficulties in coming up with a backup plan too. I totally have no idea what I am interested in. I joined the course for the sake of having an degree and for the iron rice bowl. I thought I had the passion in helping people, but I realised that it wasn't the case. I think I don't have much empathy for people.

The stress and anxieties that I have likely stems from my poor foundation as I couldn't focus in studies. It was extremely difficult for me to find motivation for my current course, not even wanting a good gpa could motivate me.

I know there are definitely other careers I can go for, not limited to this profession. That was my original plan, where I continue so I can get a degree and find a different job.
IMHO.

I would say that you already have a good plan which is why it you would have difficulties coming up with a "better" backup plan.

It is good to know now that you do not have a passion to help people, rather than knowing it later.

If it is your realization that you do not have empathy, perhaps it is time to develop some? I would say empathy works both ways - if i do not have some form of empathy, I may not take time to reply to you? Or it could be my passion to reply to you because it is a logical.

I would say on stress and anxieties are common - just some people handles it better than others. Since you have identify these causes, do spend some time to find reduce them, e.g change lifestyle, healthy lifestyle or eating, etc.

If all else fail, $ could a be form of motivation.
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Old 05-07-2020, 10:30 AM   #10
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Since you posted here, you are here for advice. Why not share
a. what you are studying?
b. what you do not like about it?
c. what you like about it? There are some things that you must like? or else, you would not have pass Year 1.
d. what detest you so much about your course?
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Old 05-07-2020, 10:38 AM   #11
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If you don't know what to do for a backup plan and your family doesn't print money and you're not planning to rob a bank, I would say the safe option would be to stay where you are currently. Endure it, finish the course. Get that qualification which will open lots of doors even if it is not in the healthcare industry. Rather than wasting the past 2 years by pulling out, knowing that the same thing can happen again because you're not certain of the alternative plan.

That endurance and torture will make you come out a much stronger person at the end.

Attaining that healthcare related degree is already a good backup for your future. Post-COVID, they might revamp the whole industry altogether, hopefully with better pay and benefits for healthcare workers. Touch wood, at the next pandemic, you get retrenched in whatever you're doing, you can easily move back to the healthcare with that qualification. By that time, you will put all your anxieties aside with healthcare because you have a family waiting for you to put food on the table.
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Old 05-07-2020, 02:50 PM   #12
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Since you posted here, you are here for advice. Why not share
a. what you are studying?
b. what you do not like about it?
c. what you like about it? There are some things that you must like? or else, you would not have pass Year 1.
d. what detest you so much about your course?

I'm currently in allied-health course in SiT! Sorry, I prefer to keep the exact course to be kept confidential.

I didn't like the huge responsibility and making of important decisions. I understand that all jobs has responsibilities and decisions that has to be taken but I prefer to be someone that takes instructions from people and follows them. I also have communication issues where I get extremely drain out talking to patients.

I'm not sure what I actually like about the course. I think it's basically the salary and not worry about unable to find a job in this field. However, my thoughts have now changed to "having a lower pressure job with lower pay will be better for me" instead. In Year 1, I kept the option to drop out away because I knew how expensive the school fees are, didn't want to disappoint my parents and I haven't experience a stress level that would reach this level. I had a huge emotional breakdown for 2 days with me crying on the way home and having thoughts of suicide.

The course itself isn't something I detest. I dislike the career itself. I know that I didn't research enough about this course before joining it, so I can only blame myself for that. That said, it is rare for people to find a job they really love.
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Old 05-07-2020, 02:59 PM   #13
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If you are a student and fresh grad, you won't be the one making important decisions and taking on 'huge' responsibilities as an intern / at work.

Having said that, just go see a counsellor and learn to manage your anxiety and stress. If you can't manage these and your own emotions, it doesn't matter what job or career you do.
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Old 05-07-2020, 03:15 PM   #14
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I'm currently in allied-health course in SiT! Sorry, I prefer to keep the exact course to be kept confidential.

I didn't like the huge responsibility and making of important decisions. I understand that all jobs has responsibilities and decisions that has to be taken but I prefer to be someone that takes instructions from people and follows them. I also have communication issues where I get extremely drain out talking to patients.

I'm not sure what I actually like about the course. I think it's basically the salary and not worry about unable to find a job in this field. However, my thoughts have now changed to "having a lower pressure job with lower pay will be better for me" instead. In Year 1, I kept the option to drop out away because I knew how expensive the school fees are, didn't want to disappoint my parents and I haven't experience a stress level that would reach this level. I had a huge emotional breakdown for 2 days with me crying on the way home and having thoughts of suicide.

The course itself isn't something I detest. I dislike the career itself. I know that I didn't research enough about this course before joining it, so I can only blame myself for that. That said, it is rare for people to find a job they really love.
I know friends who are in a healthcare related course experiencing like you and advised my friend to seek school counselling.

Its courageous of you making this decision and it isnt easy.

Anyhow, you can also explore the possibility of a gap year while you reapply to other courses. You can use the time to take a breather and reflect and rexamine your life goals

Whatever it is i wish u all the best!
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Old 05-07-2020, 04:56 PM   #15
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Hello! I'm currently in Year 2, going to be Year 3 soon. I'm studying in a healthcare-related course and just started my internship. I realised that I did not like the job scope and found it to be extremely stressful for me. Hence, I have thoughts of dropping out of this course.

I had similar thoughts when I was in Year 1, yet I decided to stay on and at least get a degree then find a different job in the future especially since school fees were not cheap. Now, I have a feeling that I may not be able to last till I graduate. I still haven't talked to my parents about this yet, and I'm afraid they will react negatively as my mother previously told me not to drop out once I've chosen a course.

Any advices on this?
Don't drop out. U will regret. A degree is better than no degree..
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