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Old 29-09-2018, 11:03 PM   #136
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if theres really a god and he ask me to sacrifice half of my life to give my mum a chance, i would do it.....
i know u would, because i would too. dont dwell too much on it and hope for the best

im sure your mum will fight on
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:04 PM   #137
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hi bro tks for asking, just click my name on the left and find my posts if you want to know.

edit: post no 9967 in pt1 thread.
sorry to read about your mum's stage 4 colon cancer. i will pray for your mum.

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Old 29-09-2018, 11:06 PM   #139
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sorry to read about your mum's stage 4 colon cancer. i will pray for your mum.




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Old 29-09-2018, 11:07 PM   #140
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want to ask those of you who know, and i will discuss with my boss tml, unpaid leave can only be taken once i use up all my annual leave or can be dispense if i have a good reason?

i know diff company diff policy just want to know.

tks in advance.


i know u would, because i would too. dont dwell too much on it and hope for the best

im sure your mum will fight on
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:08 PM   #141
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trueblue82, spend more time with her, she needs people by her side now.

u can just be there and hold her hand whether u choose to talk or just keeping quiet... im sure you know
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:08 PM   #142
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trueblue82, spend more time with her, she needs people by her side now.

u can just be there and hold her hand whether u choose to talk or just keeping quiet... im sure you know
Yeah agree with this.
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:09 PM   #143
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want to ask those of you who know, and i will discuss with my boss tml, unpaid leave can only be taken once i use up all my annual leave or can be dispense if i have a good reason?

i know diff company diff policy just want to know.

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Hi trueblue, in govt sector where im working, i need to clear my paid leave first then can take unpaid leave
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:10 PM   #144
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want to ask those of you who know, and i will discuss with my boss tml, unpaid leave can only be taken once i use up all my annual leave or can be dispense if i have a good reason?

i know diff company diff policy just want to know.

tks in advance.
depends on company/boss. but i was ready to quit my job

weigh your options really, i can only tell you...... jobs are aplenty and u can find other routes, but only got 1 mum

u can find part time jobs, start own biz, do freelance or slowly find job. im sure u were not in as bad as situation as me - owe some money and father is sick as well

just think what's more impt for you and what would your mum want you to do and which would you prefer say 1 yr later or 3 yrs later

to me i didnt need to think, i was ready to resign anytime

discuss with your boss, usually will use your leave first.....
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:11 PM   #145
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want to ask those of you who know, and i will discuss with my boss tml, unpaid leave can only be taken once i use up all my annual leave or can be dispense if i have a good reason?

i know diff company diff policy just want to know.

tks in advance.
yes. usually that is the standard practice for most companies.
clear your annual leaves then take unpaid.

my advice is try to hold on to your job as long as possible. cancer may or may not be a long drawn battle and since you mention your mum do not have private insurance coverage, money will be an issue going forward. FYI, if hospice is required, the cost is a few Ks per month even after subsidy (I forgot the exact costing but it is not cheap). the cost is ridiculous but I believe it can be further reduced depending on means testing. but you don't pin too much hope on it unless you are really the bottom 10% income earner or something liddat.

I'm fortunate to have a understanding supervisor who close one eye during my adhoc absence (without taking any leave) and till the very end I simply just disappear from work totally. I estimate I probably MIA from work around 4 mths but still getting paid because my supervisor didn't report my absence.
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:11 PM   #146
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sch life is like this. when you work maybe less time.

want to ask those of you who know, and i will discuss with my boss tml, unpaid leave can only be taken once i use up all my annual leave or can be dispense if i have a good reason?

i know diff company diff policy just want to know.

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you can try compassionate leave. but normally ppl take vacation leave to keep the matter private.
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:13 PM   #147
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i was lucky my boss was understanding. i took a total of about 1.5mths of leave and 2-3 weeks of half days

i can only tell you, do what you think is right and wont make you regret...... u can google for that also (how people make their choices)

to me it was easy choice, since u are prepared to give half your life to her im sure quitting a job is nothing

just talk to your boss nicely about your situation, sometimes will allow u to work from home/hospital, but i can also tell u the same thing - u wont rly have the mood
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:15 PM   #148
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anyway TS, if you need support let me know i can go down tomorrow, just pm me

i was in the same position and i totally understand how you feel
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Old 29-09-2018, 11:17 PM   #149
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sch life is like this. when you work maybe less time.



you can try compassionate leave. but normally ppl take vacation leave to keep the matter private.
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Hi Trueblue82,
Please try to ask your Mummy to keep a positive mind. A positive mind can help in the prognosis.
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