Very demoralized seeking solace here
Dear All,
Posting my thread here as the audience is mature and some may even go through the pain and suffering like us.
About us.
A couple close to 40, wife few years old than me.
Married for 7 years and still trying a baby.
Did IUI, failed
Wife had miscarriage 9 weeks this via natural
The first IVF cycle did fresh at KKH, failed
Then we try frozen at KKH, failed
Just completed her second IVF eggs retrieval.
My wife had mild OHSS, was suffering, too unwell to do the implant, earliest also 2 months later.
Just this month had few people close to me all having good news.
Everyone having good news except us. Am feeling very demoralized:
What we already did
My wife still determined. However, I am losing hope due to our age and the amount of money spent and time taken. Also, the pain she has to endure when preparing egg retrieval needs to self jab. We are just middle-income earners, not holding senior positions in our job.
After the failed first cycle frozen cycle she mentioned adoption. I am strongly reluctant, rather be childless than adopt. She says wants a girl to look after us when we old. My wife is a single kid, parents are overseas. Here only a handful of friends and colleagues. Doesn't socialize a lot due to us being childless.
Am now also afraid to go friend's gathering, CNY, baby 1 month/ 1 year ...
Dear All,
Posting my thread here as the audience is mature and some may even go through the pain and suffering like us.
About us.
A couple close to 40, wife few years old than me.
Married for 7 years and still trying a baby.
Did IUI, failed
Wife had miscarriage 9 weeks this via natural
The first IVF cycle did fresh at KKH, failed
Then we try frozen at KKH, failed
Just completed her second IVF eggs retrieval.
My wife had mild OHSS, was suffering, too unwell to do the implant, earliest also 2 months later.
Just this month had few people close to me all having good news.
- Cousin had a second kid, son.
- Cousin had 5th kid.
- Best Friend became a father today
Everyone having good news except us. Am feeling very demoralized:
What we already did
- Acupuncture
- TCM herbs
- House fengshui seen x2.
- Went Catholic Church
- Went Shuang Lin Temple at Toa Payoh
- Went Guan Yin Temple
- Went some master to appease ancestors, wishing for good luck
My wife still determined. However, I am losing hope due to our age and the amount of money spent and time taken. Also, the pain she has to endure when preparing egg retrieval needs to self jab. We are just middle-income earners, not holding senior positions in our job.
After the failed first cycle frozen cycle she mentioned adoption. I am strongly reluctant, rather be childless than adopt. She says wants a girl to look after us when we old. My wife is a single kid, parents are overseas. Here only a handful of friends and colleagues. Doesn't socialize a lot due to us being childless.
Am now also afraid to go friend's gathering, CNY, baby 1 month/ 1 year ...