Sad dating story

kuronie

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I really hope you are right in your analysis about people pleaser and Low self esteem.

but I know that I am not a creep or some bum. So I am trying to think of the bright side that I didn’t do something so wrong for her to outright end all form of contact with me.
Do not downplay yourself. If she ghosts you and didn't give you any reason, it doesn't mean there's any fault with you. She doesn't appreciate you, it's her own loss. Don't need to beat yourself up over it. There's always another one out there :)
 

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I don’t know leh. Actually before her, another girl did the same thing. Only removed me from following her, but she still followed me.

is this the trend now?
You're asking "is this the trend now?", means you often match with girls who like to put pics on social media?

You never hear what some edmwer bros said about girls who are active on social media, e.g. Instagram?

And no need to think about the reason for her removing you from her insta lah. When she does that it means she doesn't want to consider you anymore. Just move on.
 

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Do not downplay yourself. If she ghosts you and didn't give you any reason, it doesn't mean there's any fault with you. She doesn't appreciate you, it's her own loss. Don't need to beat yourself up over it. There's always another one out there :)
Thanks. But this is a cliche line leh haha
 

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You're asking "is this the trend now?", means you often match with girls who like to put pics on social media?

You never hear what some edmwer bros said about girls who are active on social media, e.g. Instagram?
moi think nowadays very normal to add each other ig before meeting ba :o
 

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You're asking "is this the trend now?", means you often match with girls who like to put pics on social media?

You never hear what some edmwer bros said about girls who are active on social media, e.g. Instagram?
Oh. She is not those that post actively on ig. She deleted her account after she got cheated on. Then this was her new account.

I am wary of girls who keep posting on ig though. Dated one, felt like she was using my money to post the nice food for other ppl to enjoy.

about the removal part.. what I meant was she don’t want me to follow her, but still follow me.
 

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Do not downplay yourself. If she ghosts you and didn't give you any reason, it doesn't mean there's any fault with you. She doesn't appreciate you, it's her own loss. Don't need to beat yourself up over it. There's always another one out there :)
Actually it’s more of my loss than hers. Out of my league remember?
 

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Sounds like a good thing for you if that happens. When that day comes, you will have the chance to decide.
Erm, don't quite think have good impression with this kind bah. Abruptly cut people off and still leave a tail end there give people false hope. Its seems quite like is fishing, or as some say keeping spare tire. Its not really that sincere toward the relationship, so even if happen, might have to think twice what is the intention or agenda. :s22:
 

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Do not downplay yourself. If she ghosts you and didn't give you any reason, it doesn't mean there's any fault with you. She doesn't appreciate you, it's her own loss. Don't need to beat yourself up over it. There's always another one out there :)
and most importantly never take them back. if they can ghost once they can ghost again. so if they do it once then its goodbye time!
 

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Where else?

can think of office, friend matchmake

If you have a hobby, join a group. And I don't mean hobbies like drinking at pubs. And if you have a religion and go to church/temple etc regularly, you may also meet someone of similar faith as you.
 

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If you have a hobby, join a group. And I don't mean hobbies like drinking at pubs. And if you have a religion and go to church/temple etc regularly, you may also meet someone of similar faith as you.
I got think of going church haha. But now all these don’t have sub groups. Unless someone can intro
 

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Erm, don't quite think have good impression with this kind bah. Abruptly cut people off and still leave a tail end there give people false hope. Its seems quite like is fishing, or as some say keeping spare tire. Its not really that sincere toward the relationship, so even if happen, might have to think twice what is the intention or agenda. :s22:
Ya don’t have to take them back. But if they re ask you to be their stead, then you know that your value went up.
 

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I did consider if I am dating out of my league. She’s a doctor but I am not. Coz I am slightly older than her, I am earning roughly same as her. But overtime, the wage disparity would be greater when she specialises.

I have already worked very hard to my best abilities. But after doing the maths, it’s seems that she can easily fall into the top 20% income earner in a couple of year, while I have a glass ceiling that maybe make me at top 40% income earner.

she did tell me that she wants a really successful husband. But I am not someone who can fulfil her idea of successful.

I did consider all these before la. But also do not want to live a life of regrets that I did not get out of my comfort zone and dated someone out of my league.

while I have no regrets in asking her out, one of my biggest regrets now is not studying hard enough to be a doctor. Although now got programs such as 2nd degree for doctor, the odds to be one is Low and it costs a lot in terms of study cost and cost of not working.

it is within my ability to date others from other professions other than medicine. But right now, I have this feeling of sadness and feels kinda depressed like life has no meaning if I settle for something that I can do better with.
Likely chiu too needy for her, doctor is very busy people :o
 
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