Actually what's the benchmark? And what's the point?

[IAmChiobu12M]

Been seeing a lot thread about relationships or girls wanting too much etc.

So I'm curious what's the benchmark? And what's the point of having a relationship or even marriage or even family.

Girls keep saying girl power and we deserve better, hence we should have high standards and daringly demand but if men are not buying it is pointless. It takes 2 person to agree to come together.

Similarly, a lot single bbfa always say they wish to have a girl even hiew them. Yet there are another camp keep say rs is burden, single is best.

And honestly at this stage and even as a female, I also think rs are quite pointless. Even if the best piak, strongest passion, thickest love will also eventually withers.

And having said that, I'm sure many, (at least in sg context), people are not even happy in a rs but why they stay on? Caz bto lor. We are in an environment where housing keep pricing us out so to catch up, many decided to play the bto game by getting someone, if not single need wait 35yo.
And doesn't mean ballot will get too. While resale is so expensive. Let alone private properties.

But even those who successfully attached or married end up also have other problems. Guys scared wear green hats or WC, girls scared end up nothing and become single mother suffer.

Lai edmwers, give your wisdom on this endless loop.

 

[NintendoSwitch]

Been seeing a lot thread about relationships or girls wanting too much etc.

So I'm curious what's the benchmark? And what's the point of having a relationship or even marriage or even family.

Girls keep saying girl power and we deserve better, hence we should have high standards and daringly demand but if men are not buying it is pointless. It takes 2 person to agree to come together.

Similarly, a lot single bbfa always say they wish to have a girl even hiew them. Yet there are another camp keep say rs is burden, single is best.

And honestly at this stage and even as a female, I also think rs are quite pointless. Even if the best piak, strongest passion, thickest love will also eventually withers.

And having said that, I'm sure many, (at least in sg context), people are not even happy in a rs but why they stay on? Caz bto lor. We are in an environment where housing keep pricing us out so to catch up, many decided to play the bto game by getting someone, if not single need wait 35yo.
And doesn't mean ballot will get too. While resale is so expensive. Let alone private properties.

But even those who successfully attached or married end up also have other problems. Guys scare green hats, girls scared end up nothing and become single mother suffer.

Lai edmwers, give your wisdom on this endless loop.

Some might think it means infinite bonks wif chiobu. Like your choi chou ish yr exclusive use for infinite hugs and sniffs. Reality ish once got ring liao ish close factory liao.

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Some might think it means infinite bonks wif chiobu. Like your choi chou ish yr exclusive use for infinite hugs and sniffs. Reality ish once got ring liao ish close factory liao.

Infinite piak just need 1 HIV ggwp.

 

[jinsadndepress]

Happy can alr ...

Human r social creature ...

As long as she happy chiu n chiu happy her can liao ...

Only when wan compare ish when problem start coming

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Happy can alr ...

Human r social creature ...

As long as she happy chiu n chiu happy her can liao ...

Only when wan compare ish when problem start coming

But if not happy yet got entanglement how?

 

[dambio]

Some might think it means infinite bonks wif chiobu. Like your choi chou ish yr exclusive use for infinite hugs and sniffs. Reality ish once got ring liao ish close factory liao.

Nowadays is, u dunno wat she has done b4 in d past. Let who go in b4 Liao.

Esp some uni girls now. Some r sugar babies or do tat type of part time. So if they nv tell their potential other half n kept him in d dark abt Her past. Then good luck.

Or as some woman likes to say now. My past doesn't matter!

 

[jinsadndepress]

But if not happy yet got entanglement how?

Mean rushed into rs lor ...

Look for peepur that can enhance chiur life , not for the sake of having peepur around ...

 

[luffix7]

+1 sappork

 

[Tloslm]

Mean rushed into rs lor ...

Look for peepur that can enhance chiur life , not for the sake of having peepur around ...

Enhance means in material form and lifestyle ?

 

[televisione]

Eventually, love will fade and disappear, seeking a wealthy man makes much more sense in life.

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Nowadays is, u dunno wat she has done b4 in d past. Let who go in b4 Liao.

Esp some uni girls now. Some r sugar babies or do tat type of part time. So if they nv tell their potential other half n kept him in d dark abt Her past. Then good luck.

Or as some woman likes to say now. My past doesn't matter!

While some whole life also don't even have chance piak once unless through paying. Jin kelian...

 

[_zeph_]

Nowadays is, u dunno wat she has done b4 in d past. Let who go in b4 Liao.

Esp some uni girls now. Some r sugar babies or do tat type of part time. So if they nv tell their potential other half n kept him in d dark abt Her past. Then good luck.

Or as some woman likes to say now. My past doesn't matter!

thats why up until a few decades ago, dads are very strict in their daughters movement and interaction to prevent their daughters from making bad decisions. as a man these days, her past will come to haunt you.. e.g her exes and chads who she is still in contact with, bad cc debts that will become your problem..etc

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Eventually, love will fade and disappear, seeking a wealthy man makes much more sense in life.

Finally someone agrees to my values. A lot girls like to act one say no la I with him for love kns for money just admit. And most guys also fkx up one kind. Say don't like gold diggers but always find high maintenance chiobu. Then girls like me who openly admit we are practical and want rich man say we don't know how to pretend or gold digger. Life is hard man. Some guys complain why rs n marry 2 diff person. Yet when meet someone openly say want a more transactional rs run far far.

 

[_zeph_]

Happy can alr ...

Human r social creature ...

As long as she happy chiu n chiu happy her can liao ...

Only when wan compare ish when problem start coming

or when you found out she might do certain things in bed with her previous exes but refuse to do it with you as her husband. haha, imagine that, paying full sticker price but didnt get what the other guys got for free.

 

[Atilas]

There is no standard benchmark. My benchmark might not work for others as our experiences and perceptions are different.

I was happy that I had met someone who I was comfortable living a life with, despite not having much physical attraction on the first physical meeting.

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

thats why up until a few decades ago, dads are very strict in their daughters movement and interaction to prevent their daughters from making bad decisions. as a man these days, her past will come to haunt you.. e.g her exes and chads who she is still in contact with, bad cc debts that will become your problem..etc

Honestly stereotypes always say men are more problem or dirty and messy (literally and figuratively). But recently I been observing real life I see that actually most guys (at least those I seen la) are quite neat and simple minded leh. Whereas is girls that are messy, emotional, problematic etc.

I been to a few overseas school trips and I went to guys room and girls room. Is always the girls room like warzone.

 

[5adisticD3vil]

get a cat..... or a dog
less fussy

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

get a cat..... or a dog
less fussy

I prefer get a pet name interest and dividends. Minimal maintenance and maximum profits.

 

[mewmew]

funny huai girl like to tink they deserve this deserve that, be self sufficient ish the way

 

[Vinda99]

BTO, green hat, infinite piak, single mother, HIV, entanglement, all these are just things that may or may not happen to you.

Some ppl meet the right person the first time, some after maybe 20. There is no 'point' to look for in having a relationship or marriage. You want, go ahead, dun want, can still have a very happy FA life.

Even when you meet the right person, doesn't mean everything will automatically fall in place swee swee for you. There will be problems, there will be challenges. The right person will stay to work it out together, the wrong person will leave. Leave liao how? Won't die also what. Just move on lo.

Bottomline is you won't know what will happen, whether you will be happy or not. Just thinking about the possibilities is just a thought experiment.. when the thought ends, chiu are back in EDMW.

If you feel you deserve something, go out and get it. If you want to meet ppl, you have to put yourself where there are people. Sometimes a change of environment helps, whether it is a new job or a new country.

No wisdom from me here, but you seem like you are bogged down by some things in your life. Hope I have said something of use to you, and that things get better for you.