Been a month...realise I still like her alot

[plpl20]

She likes another colleague?

Honestly I don't know, I only know she like another guy.

 

[f-o-f!]

At the year end I think. You are right, maybe she really see work as work and colleagues as colleagues, not friends. Jut focus on clearing work. Have events like other company, but not often also. She come punctually and sit at place with friend or that is alrdy full, or once or twice v busy cannot attend, so no chance to mingle.

well, may not be a bad thing since i've met my fair share of colleagues who gossip too much and it's not an attractive trait. but that makes it much harder for you as well - any means of advancement likely has to be work-related..so probably have to see if you have another chance to work with her and see how it goes from there.

 

[alex22]

Stalker alert...
Pls dun be meatbao

 

[GameBoyColour]

How’s the chase TS?

ask her out already?

 

[helloicanseeu]

simi thread still getting bumped, sibeh siaolang leh

 

[Can Or Not]

I thought maybe I let go alrdy. But when I saw her talking with other male colleagues, esp those I think she work closely with, I don't feel good. Then realise I actually still like her alot.

Good to like someone, but don’t be overly obsessed.

 

[Red Ronin]

That's good. Maybe she was v busy. Progress seem good. Keep going and update us!

if only she will wish me on my birthday too. Now I wonder if she did anything for that guy on his birthday. Drop him a birthday wish message or celebrate for him? never mind, maybe that day will come for me.

Anyway now not much progress. Will only update if there is. thanks all.

I think you can use this as a gauge.

I love when he talks about the introvert bit. Now I know she is definitely interested.

 

[kodomo80]

if a girl is too nice, too polite, alwas smiling then its boring as hell. Very difficult to trigger emotions and talk more personal stuff

 

[kodomo80]

I think you can use this as a gauge.

I love when he talks about the introvert bit. Now I know she is definitely interested.

hahaha this video is so funny but so true

 

[Spike]

I just wanna know which guy. Haven't seen her staring at any guy or smiling shyly that kind of thing whenever I see her at company events or anywhere in office, so I wonder if it's a friend and not colleague and what he have that attract her. then maybe I know better how to advance...

Suppose you got to know that guy, you would simply compare yourself with him. Nothing will change. She will continue to like that guy because he is what he is. No matter how you emulate him, you will never become that guy.

This cai is not your cai. Don't waste time.

 

[Spike]

well, may not be a bad thing since i've met my fair share of colleagues who gossip too much and it's not an attractive trait. but that makes it much harder for you as well - any means of advancement likely has to be work-related..so probably have to see if you have another chance to work with her and see how it goes from there.

You are encouraging him to pursue a love that has a low chance of reciprocation..

Sometimes knowing when to give up is important. Getting too vested in this will not have a good outcome.

 

[congster2]

I just wanna know which guy. Haven't seen her staring at any guy or smiling shyly that kind of thing whenever I see her at company events or anywhere in office, so I wonder if it's a friend and not colleague and what he have that attract her. then maybe I know better how to advance...

You should just be yourself mah. If u try to have similar attributes as the other guy then you're just making yourself a 替身. Why do that?

 

[f-o-f!]

You are encouraging him to pursue a love that has a low chance of reciprocation..

Sometimes knowing when to give up is important. Getting too vested in this will not have a good outcome.

when it comes to matters of the heart, do what outsiders say really matter..?

i'm just saying since she appears to have clear boundaries between work and personal life, if he wants to even be friends, there doesn't seem to be any way unless they happen to work together again. that's all.

we can tell ts to give up/confess/ask her out/serenade her/make more female friends/try dating others. at the end of the day, it's his life and he is assessing the situation as it goes. if, eventually, his actions make her outwardly and obviously reject him, maybe he'll finally give up. maybe not. life is short and we don't get enamoured/moved by many people in our lifetimes. i believe all ts wants is to have no regrets and i can't begrudge him that.

 

[f-o-f!]

You should just be yourself mah. If u try to have similar attributes as the other guy then you're just making yourself a 替身. Why do that?

yeah, and attraction is complicated. past relationships, pheromones, physical attributes, even immune systems can influence how you feel toward a person. sometimes, we can't even explain it, so we use words like 'chemistry', 'x-factor'.

in the unlikely event you do find out what she likes about this mystery guy, i don't think it's possible to emulate that. like congster2 says, just be yourself because, ultimately, we want someone to like and accept us as we are. we want to be comfortable and be able to be our true, authentic selves around them, don't we..?

 

[whatheheck]

wth I saw at 1-2 pg, now what happened,+20 pg now

 

[oOBubbleOo]

when it comes to matters of the heart, do what outsiders say really matter..?

i'm just saying since she appears to have clear boundaries between work and personal life, if he wants to even be friends, there doesn't seem to be any way unless they happen to work together again. that's all.

we can tell ts to give up/confess/ask her out/serenade her/make more female friends/try dating others. at the end of the day, it's his life and he is assessing the situation as it goes. if, eventually, his actions make her outwardly and obviously reject him, maybe he'll finally give up. maybe not. life is short and we don't get enamoured/moved by many people in our lifetimes. i believe all ts wants is to have no regrets and i can't begrudge him that.

I second your thoughts. TS is not lacking of affections from the opposite sex. He clearly knows what he wants in life and will choose to remain single if she is not the one.

Some will choose to remain single after their partner passed on. Love is different for everyone.

一种米养百种人。
一份爱恋一世人。

爱，无期，无形，无永恒。

 

[Kanko San]

when it comes to matters of the heart, do what outsiders say really matter..?

i'm just saying since she appears to have clear boundaries between work and personal life, if he wants to even be friends, there doesn't seem to be any way unless they happen to work together again. that's all.

we can tell ts to give up/confess/ask her out/serenade her/make more female friends/try dating others. at the end of the day, it's his life and he is assessing the situation as it goes. if, eventually, his actions make her outwardly and obviously reject him, maybe he'll finally give up. maybe not. life is short and we don't get enamoured/moved by many people in our lifetimes. i believe all ts wants is to have no regrets and i can't begrudge him that.

Agreed with you.
I like or should say, I loved a lady very much.
She is 42 n me is 65.
I want to be her lover n willing to wait for her, provided she also love me.
See eg M Douglas is 80, his wife Catherine Zone is 55. And many more.
Age is not a barrier is one couple is in love.

 

[HirotoXeno]

TS probably is bui bui that why low self esteem? Go chase liao la wait what?

 

[Nuclear Boy]

I just wanna know which guy. Haven't seen her staring at any guy or smiling shyly that kind of thing whenever I see her at company events or anywhere in office, so I wonder if it's a friend and not colleague and what he have that attract her. then maybe I know better how to advance...

If you had to observe your rivals to gauge, then you're already many steps behind them... They'd be going straight for her and finding out right away, instead of ho-hum-ing indecisively and posting online...

Also, you're setting yourself up for failure, because if your rival(s) are successful, you will never get the chance. You will never be them.

I'd advise you to just give up the chase and stop wasting your time. You could spend your freed-up time working on improving yourself first.

 

[fly1111]

Been a month, thought maybe I will forget her slowly since I never bump into her for quite a while and just kept myself busy. This week, I bumped into her a few times. Saw her talking with other colleagues, esp males, and I feel quite down even though I knew it is about work and cannot focus on work. Then realise that I still like her alot. Even as I do household chores just now, she came to my mind.

Knew she was esp busy this week, so I bought snacks for her. Can see she appreciate it, she said thanks with such a sweet smile. Hopefully it's not so awkward alrdy and I can ask her out for a meal soon...

舔狗是没有好下场的
When u behaves like that, so needy of her, so afraid of her….
She will see you as a weaker person or a beta male
Women only like strong man and their definition of strong is diff