How to be happy in life

[cyke69sg]

This is a good video about many things in life. Finances. Expectations. Self awareness.

Good watch

IGNORE THE TITLE of the video. It's not what you think it's about.

 

[loganrunning]

This is a good video about many things in life. Finances. Expectations. Self awareness.

Good watch

IGNORE THE TITLE of the video. It's not what you think it's about.

"Expectations are the thief of happiness"

my life and career didn't turn out as i planned and expected, but looking back, i am happier now than if it had turned out as planned.

 

[ballastic90]

Come to edmw more

 

[cyke69sg]

"Expectations are the thief of happiness"

Not exactly true.
Depends what your expectations are.
Happiness is when you have met your expectations or exceeded them.
Only you will know truly what your real expectations are.

my life and career didn't turn out as i planned and expected, but looking back, i am happier now than if it had turned out as planned.

That's good. One key is to be true to yourself. Be able to tell yourself you are good enough. Life is good enough.

 

[Laguna123]

2 hours video? Got a summary?

 

[Sforthought]

2 hours video? Got a summary?

It's a 2hour ad for his book. Ang mo love to do this. Make claims n bold statement n then point to his book.

 

[loganrunning]

Not exactly true.
Depends what your expectations are.
Happiness is when you have met your expectations or exceeded them.
Only you will know truly what your real expectations are.

in the context of sg, most will articulate those where expectations failed to hit/exceed, so kpkb.
often, while on the way, many will revise the expectations upwards, often to unrealisic/unattainable levels, then feel disappointed.

a sense of realism is also important, but seldom highlighted.

to me, its important to know what is truely important and what are criteria/expectations imposed by others (family, culture etc), then set expectations/goals accordingly.
the beauty of age and experience is we (hopefully) know ourselves better, and can revise expectations accordingly

 

[cyke69sg]

2 hours video? Got a summary?

It's broken into chapters. So you can see which chapter titles are relevant to you. Quite broad ranging.

but the idea is comparing is a problem.

Chasing more is not the path to happiness. Managing expectations. being realistic. Knowing self. Challenging self rather than compare with others.

 

[Kaylin]

sexpectations & comparison will make u unhappy

 

[zzzzzzz]

find a singnificane other

so that when anyone happy can shares with each other so that happiness can x2
and if got anyone sad got each other for accompany so that saddness divide 2

 

[cyke69sg]

in the context of sg, most will articulate those where expectations failed to hit/exceed, so kpkb.
often, while on the way, many will revise the expectations upwards, often to unrealisic/unattainable levels, then feel disappointed.

a sense of realism is also important, but seldom highlighted.

to me, its important to know what is truely important and what are criteria/expectations imposed by others (family, culture etc), then set expectations/goals accordingly.
the beauty of age and experience is we (hopefully) know ourselves better, and can revise expectations accordingly

Many years ago I had a financial planner work out for me what age I wanted to retire. The lifestyle I wanted. $5k a month. And worked out how much I needed at a certain age to retire.

That was sort of my benchmark. And I doubled that to be safe as a goal for myself.

 

[RandomPancake]

Need money, I can manage my own expectation, but I can’t manage all the jiao lang at work, and I’m also pretty sure I’ll be happier not working

 

[fortunecat]

I think one of the most fundamental criteria for one to be happy is they cannot be in a job that they hate. Saw a lot of unhappy people is because they dread going to work everyday, weekend or holiday also cannot relax because keep thinking of work

 

[EdenHazard]

Think first step is to buy a car. Life in sg without a car is brutal.

 

[Reznik]

Is it true that must married to be happy?

 

[cyke69sg]

Need money, I can manage my own expectation, but I can’t manage all the jiao lang at work, and I’m also pretty sure I’ll be happier not working

Sounds to me more like it's not work. It's having to deal with people and their expectations etc.

If you could do work that doesn't have to deal with people you won't feel so negative? I know it's easier said than done to find work that involves no people.

 

[cyke69sg]

I think one of the most fundamental criteria for one to be happy is they cannot be in a job that they hate. Saw a lot of unhappy people is because they dread going to work everyday, weekend or holiday also cannot relax because keep thinking of work

Yes this is very true.
If do something don't like everyday it is painful

 

[BBClone]

Keep voting white, that is the path to happiness

 

[Hyruga]

You can choose to be happy

 

[cyke69sg]