Divorce Procedure -

[iam7377]

go back to parent's house to stay first?

We sort things out Liao... My parents will welcome me deh... They still quite protective of me...

 

[camholicx]

Need some advice.

I have separated with my wife with conditions (fair to me) and we signed at the deeds at the lawyer firm.

However, after few months, she turned nasty and wanted to change the terms to her favour and asked for divroce and the new unreasonable terms.

What is the chance if i go contested divorce now, citing that she agreed with the reasonable terms previously.

 

[iam7377]

Either hire lawyer or do paperwork yourself
If everything everyone agrees , its easier
You as petitioner only need to attend court , she doesn't

Okok, will take note of this. Thanks bro.

 

[~sabaisabai~]

We sort things out Liao... My parents will welcome me deh... They still quite protective of me...

Sure. Parents will not reject their own children

 

[iam7377]

Seems like a communication issue. Why dont go for counselling? Make it a point to go like once a week, slowly adjust. First few years of marriage I find that its tougher after the initial honeymoon period wears out.

We sort things out, but I wanted to think of an reason to go. She kinda sensitive.

 

[iam7377]

why..what happen

Lack of communication. She then keep blasting me. I feel and confirm she is spoil and self centered. But what to do. But things are better liao...

 

[iam7377]

i think this kind really is see too much korea drama/social media and comparison with colleagues/friends. too much 毒鸡汤 liao

Her friends and her like to watch Korean drama. Which I hated...

 

[iam7377]

hahaha.. u will be surprised that house is not enough... whatever cpf u contributed to your house, u will still get it back in your cpf or she pay u back. u cant even give her that part. and house is not the only thing she can ask for, she can ask for maintenance as well even if she is working to ensure her standard/quality of living doesn't drop after divorce.

Wow, really ah? My plan was to sell off the HDB, then I got some savings then buy a small 3 room flat nearer to my work place...

 

[iam7377]

Married 3 years but in rs how long before marry? Caz spoilt and sensitive should be during rs can see or you ignore red flag? Got kids? If yes, please do it properly to not give them trauma they are innocent. If dink, ok do what makes you happy can liao.

3 to 4 years plus...

 

[iam7377]

TV

I have bad news for you bro.... 99% of women are like this. My wife also like this tbh. If you cannot tahan this, you will need to stay single.

But is not fair lei... I think most SG Girls are like that... Seen quite a few...

 

[~sabaisabai~]

Just an update. We did talk it out and decide to improve on communication. I dunno what will happened next.

Thanks everyone for their concern. Hopefully everything will be sorted out.

Hope things work out for both of you

 

[iam7377]

What’s wrong with getting more assets?

I dun mind giving her the flat... As I have enough savings to make DP for another smaller flat...

 

[iam7377]

Lol. Many of us are too. Haha. Marriage is hard work. But I think divorce is more troublesome.

Hi Bro, I have sorted out my issues. Can PM me if need a listening ear...

 

[iam7377]

If u still love her and she still love u, there’s always room you both willing to move for the marriage== still can salvage one.

Yeah, but sometimes her self centered attitude is really bad and everything not her fault...knn

 

[iam7377]

Means she spoilt kid or she knows they let her make decisions for them etc

Yeah, parents spoilt her...

 

[iam7377]

Why do you marry her in the first place?
Why expect her to change, as if you didn't like her for her personality?

I overlook them mah... But once honeymoon is over, the issues is still there...

 

[iam7377]

so make up seck solve everything liao......

Huh, no la...

 

[iam7377]

Feel for you bro. Similar situation, divorced uncontested. Jiayou

Thanks bro, hope everything goes smoothly for you. Need anything can PM me...

 

[iam7377]

Sure. Parents will not reject their own children

Yeah, my parents even say can stay with them. My house can rent out once MOP

 

[iam7377]

Hope things work out for both of you

Thanks Bro. Appreciate it.