Why It's Better to be Single

[Spike]

Talking about 'fairytale'.

I have a 60 yo high-flyer friend recently fell in love with a mid-30 man she met via online app. I recongised it as a love scam but she is so into the relationship that I have to keep my mouth shut (she is a highly intelligent woman).

Then I told her recently I watched the below movie which I find it's nice:

Just like anything in life, anything can happen if you appear on the right time, right space, and meet the right person.

 

[mummynew]

So woke!

My kids sharing with me 'new era info' then I go and read more on own.

one of those random readings:

https://atamed.sg/when-should-i-test-for-stds

 

[SayPorkGuy]

I actually still feel it’s better to be able to find the right partner

but I know I’m not rich,not handsome, boring, have family commitments, no woman will want me de.

so being single might suit me more.

but never have gf my entire life could be one regret I have when I leave this world la

it's life. chu either get busy living or get busy dying. chur move.

 

[Whimsica]

It's best to be rich.

Then you can choose/ decide.

Poor and single = problems.

Poor and married = more problems.

So if you still have time and the chance, pursue wealth first.

 

[MoeLanYong]

Not everyone will be able to come across the right partner, and translate it into a marriage.

So if the right person don't come along, better to stay single.

1/3 of marriages ended in a divorce. And out of other 2/3, how many are truly happily married?

The stats simply don't work out.

BTO just made the situation worse.

That one is unable to, doesn't take away the fact it is always better to have a partner.

This is the topic of this thread.

 

[krikering]

It is your life.
You know yourself well.
Not sure ?
You can confirm with your baizi on whether you have the loner star.
Just dun follow the rest of the sheep and end up asking yourself why you do it.

Yep, follow the path you think suits you the best. No right or wrong answer, just don't give in to peer pressure or public expectations, if not you might choose a path which does not suit you.

 

[TopGun]

That one is unable to, doesn't take away the fact it is always better to have a partner.

This is the topic of this thread.

Not everyone is built the same. So it's not always better to have a partner.

 

[CanIsayNo]

Society is such that basic fundamental values of marriage no longer exist among most people.. staying single is indeed better. Unfortunate truth

 

[li9ht5peed]

Society is such that basic fundamental values of marriage no longer exist among most people.. staying single is indeed better. Unfortunate truth

what are basic fundamental values of marriage?

 

[MoeLanYong]

Not everyone is built the same. So it's not always better to have a partner.

Everyone is built the same. With lust and desire. Till they can't find a partner or have zero relationship skills. Then they say everyone is built differently.

 

[TopGun]

Everyone is built the same. Till they can't find a partner or have zero relationship skills. Then they say everyone is built differently.

i think you have forgotten what you said, that "Ownself choose wrongly rush to BTO earn money", which is to say that choosing the right partner is the key to a happy marriage.

The fact remains that being able to choose the right partner is subject to chance and the right judgement call by both parties. And the mere fact that one has to choose the right partner is proof that everyone is built differently.

 

[zoossh]

Weird to see such a video on man

well, it drains more from women than man, ok?

The kids wants the mum more than the dad

And it’s easier for man to maintain and still look charismatic in the 40s or even 50s. The same can’t be said for woman after 35 especially after childbirth other than the exceptions

But… the happiness from kids are tremendous
So to each their own

 

[MoeLanYong]

i think you have forgotten what you said, that "Ownself choose wrongly rush to BTO earn money", which is to say that choosing the right partner is the key to a happy marriage.

The fact remains that being able to choose the right partner is subject to chance and the right judgement call by both parties. And the mere fact that one has to choose the right partner is proof that everyone is built differently.

The fact you use your left right hand to ownself happy shows you are built with lust and that you are built the same as everyone else, desiring a partner.

Can't find partner or the right partner or know how to handle a relationship is called inability.

Your last sentence don't make sense. Everyone behaves differently. But all are built with lust and desire.

 

[Dinoboyboy]

Hope this brings some solace to @Dinoboyboy staying involuntarily single

for dinoboyboy, there are most stressful things in this world that demand our attention. this topic dont need to overthink, if it comes it comes. just follow your heart. nothing good ever comes from chasing too hard.

 

[TopGun]

The fact you use your left right hand to ownself happy shows you are built with lust and that you are built the same as everyone else, desiring a partner.

Can't find partner or the right partner or know how to handle a relationship is called inability.

Your last sentence don't make sense. Everyone behaves differently. But all are built with lust and desire.

Your logic is absurd. Just because the majority of people experience emotions does not mean that we are all built the same.

If we are all built the same, then we can get along with anyone else.

And pls understand the difference between lust and desire. The former is a physiological reaction whereas the latter is a psychological and emotional state. Not everyone desire a partner.

Don't conflate the two.

 

[MoeLanYong]

Your logic is absurd. Just because the majority of people experience emotions does not mean that we are all built the same.

If we are all built the same, then we can get along with anyone else.

And pls understand the difference between lust and desire. The former is a physiological reaction whereas the latter is a psychological and emotional state. Not everyone desire a partner.

Don't conflate the two.

Keep the aggression out and I will keep the discussion.

Built the same means we are all built with lust. Created. Birthed.

Behavior wise, no 2 people are the same. It is honed, adapted, environment, upbringing, choice etc.

A presence of lust means there is a desire for the opposite gender (usual unless lbgt)

An inability to get one, does not change the fact one desires one.

I repeat. If you have ever used your right hand, it shows you have a desire.

 

[TopGun]

Keep the aggression out and I will keep the discussion.

Built the same means we are all built with lust. Created. Birthed.

Behavior wise, no 2 people are the same. It is honed, adapted, environment, upbringing, choice etc.

A presence of lust means there is a desire for the opposite gender (usual unless lbgt)

An inability to get one, does not change the fact one desires one.

It is possible to lust for someone but does not desire that person, in the context of a relationship.

It is also possible to desire someone without lusting for the person.

We may be built with lust (a natural biological drive) but that does not mean it will always lead to desiring a particular person in the context of a relationship. The concept of a relationship is man-made, constructed whereas lust is a physiological reaction driven by hormones.

I may 'lust' for the opposite gender but that does not mean that I want the opposite gender as a partner, married or otherwise.

Not everyone desires a partner and I can't see how this statement is wrong.

 

[doratch]

If one is single, either by choice or circumstances, just try to live your life to the fullest.

 

[TopGun]

Keep the aggression out and I will keep the discussion.

Built the same means we are all built with lust. Created. Birthed.

Behavior wise, no 2 people are the same. It is honed, adapted, environment, upbringing, choice etc.

A presence of lust means there is a desire for the opposite gender (usual unless lbgt)

An inability to get one, does not change the fact one desires one.

I repeat. If you have ever used your right hand, it shows you have a desire.

Self gratification is to fulfill a physiological urge. Period.

 

[MoeLanYong]

It is possible to lust for someone but does not desire that person, in the context of a relationship.

It is also possible to desire someone without lusting for the person.

We may be built with lust (a natural biological drive) but that does not mean it will always lead to desiring a particular person in the context of a relationship. The concept of a relationship is man-made, constructed whereas lust is a physiological reaction driven by hormones.

I may 'lust' for the opposite gender but that does not mean that I want the opposite gender as a partner, married or otherwise.

Not everyone desires a partner and I can't see how this statement is wrong.

I have nothing more to add. Just repeating. When there is a lust, there is a desire for the opposite gender.

To satisfy the lust. Unless you want to use a dog.

Whatever the reasons, can't find, can't get along, dun want to merry, phobia, misogyny, psychological vs biological, self gratification etc does not change it.

Have a think