[jeofefforts]

I have a child and I engaged a helper.
Invest in your helper and it yield returns on your child.
70% Employer + 30% Friend

[Kyo_kusanagi86]

Better keep an eye on them.

[CozyTheBest]

Very well, if anyone want they can follow him.

BrOwnTeddy wrote:

Personally I won't. Cos I know I make a sh*tty employer + I am not into modern day master-serf kinda relationship (that's kinda how I perceive having a maid though).

- If I need my floor to be cleaned and mopped, there's robot vacuums.
- If I need my clothes to be washed and dried, I mean, how long do one need to put the clothes into the washer, set it to wash and dry?
- Adopt a 'clean as you go' methodology at home. It will cut down large swaths of cleaning by at least 98%.
- Remaining 2%? Settle it yourself.

For children, 'automate' your working process by understanding what do the child needs when they wake up at night. Pee? Poop? Hungry? Just want a hug to sleep? (Which is why, the first couple of months are actually the easiest since you just need to handle the majority physical aspects of taking care of a child).

For Pee-Pee, what do you need? Wet tissues, fresh diaper, a small cuppa water.
For Poo-Poo, what do you need? Wet tissues, fresh diaper, a small cuppa water.
For Milk, what do you need? x scoopful of milk, bottle, room temperature water, timed milk warmer with the exact number of minutes that you'd already had committed to memory.

Both husband and wife wake up and do the above procedures together (it will take under 5mins if both of you get that rhythm and movement on your hands automatically. Its like dismantling a rifle blindfolded) and stick to just either father or mother in-charge of patting LO to sleep even if the sky falls down (so that a high level of consistency is maintained and LO sleeps faster and faster with the same person in-charge).

Not too difficult. Survived without a maid.

[sigeena]

It does get easier over time as your kids get older. They start taking care of themselves, they learn to put on their own clothes, button their shirts, they feed themselves, wash their own hands.

Maybe have a maid to do the household chores. We spend alot of time washing and folding. I've completely forgotten about ironing my own clothes. But don't outsource your parenting.

[keenklee]

IMHO.
As a worker, I do not think i will go and tell my boss he can do the work himself. Of course, he may be able to do it himself, but perhaps to him, time is $ or maybe he thinks I can do the work better.

[keenklee]

sigeena wrote:

It does get easier over time as your kids get older. They start taking care of themselves, they learn to put on their own clothes, button their shirts, they feed themselves, wash their own hands.

Maybe have a maid to do the household chores. We spend alot of time washing and folding. I've completely forgotten about ironing my own clothes. But don't outsource your parenting.

IMHO.
It is good to be able to spend $ to buy time.

[iceblendedchoc]

we have a helper from indonesia. Older than us in her 40s, she is a gem.

The extra pair of hand and eyes are handy when our two boys arrive and subsequently our girl. We are still very hands on parents , we wake up to feed them, bath them etc.

The helper take care of the cleaning, washing and cooking.

[ipaq4444]

iceblendedchoc wrote:

we have a helper from indonesia. Older than us in her 40s, she is a gem.

The extra pair of hand and eyes are handy when our two boys arrive and subsequently our girl. We are still very hands on parents , we wake up to feed them, bath them etc.

The helper take care of the cleaning, washing and cooking.

can ask if you are paying your helping above market rate?

[iceblendedchoc]

ipaq4444 wrote:

can ask if you are paying your helping above market rate?

yup 1k now. We raise her salary every year.

[junlove]

iceblendedchoc wrote:

yup 1k now. We raise her salary every year.

This is good. it's impt to upkeep morale. Even if we get pay capped, we also moody bah

[Sainté]

Invest in a dryer and save the hassle of hanging or ironing them. I bought it during my wife’s pregnancy and have been doing the cleaning since.

Dried clothes either hang or dump in a basket. I find the clothes I wear kept to those few, help me in a minimalist lifestyle.

[xorionn]

Hi, anyone know where to get local transfer indo helpers who alr in SG

[ArLumber]

We used wearecaring agency to find one recently but that was 2 months ago so not sure what numbers they have now.

[TimeTravelerrr]

genericperson wrote:

Must be from Indonesia, they usually chut this pattern one.

I so agree with this.

[thisislife]

anyone using transfer maid? heard that it's cheaper, how's the process like?