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Old 03-09-2017, 05:17 PM   #61
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Think want go good school also must have the capability. Not say stay close can go in. Everyone want go good school, so usually the demand is more than supply. So, no matter how one plan, it will not guarantee future event one. If no the capability, then think probably settle for something lesser to avoid the heartache later after all the time, money and effort end up nothing much.
oh yeah this.....just because u can qualify for a top elite school cutoff point 259 or 260 plus doesnt mean its a good fit for u......often times u end up at the bottom of the pile competing against the best of the best and u end up being average or below average and its one long miserable struggle trying to keep up with ur peers.

many people reach their ceilings quickly and burn out.
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Old 03-09-2017, 05:19 PM   #62
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paisey ~ i totally out of touch with all this locations liao

dunno y i had the impression cat high was in BT

or maybe that was another all boys atas school
I the first batch to move to Bishan St 22
My son in Cat High, I should know better right.
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Old 03-09-2017, 05:20 PM   #63
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Think want go good school also must have the capability. Not say stay close can go in. Everyone want go good school, so usually the demand is more than supply. So, no matter how one plan, it will not guarantee future event one. If no the capability, then think probably settle for something lesser to avoid the heartache later after all the time, money and effort end up nothing much.
Precisely! Everyone wants to send their kids to the BEST schools, even though of all the limitations!

But TS is here asking us? Even though his son is due soon..

Obviously TS is

1) not willing to do more for his kid
2) listening to ministers' advice that *every school is a good school*

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Old 03-09-2017, 05:21 PM   #64
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Most important for pri sch ish distance, when young if need travel far for 6 years will die huan

Get into the top 3 class in pri sch

If xdd time go into too competitive environment he might be demotivated, if can go normal sch but better classes he might do better

I see most of my pri sch class end up quite well
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I the first batch to move to Bishan St 22
My son in Cat High, I should know better right.
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Old 03-09-2017, 05:28 PM   #66
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I see many fathers like jin bo chup. Everytime i talk to them, they just say "儿孙自有儿孙福". Just leave their kids to their devices...all like talk until machiam non of their business...

But when the kids grow up, they will evaluate who are the better fathers.

Was it the kid who had a father who could afford the landed property and the maids?

Or was it the "nice" father who stayed in HDB, did charity work and when everyone in the community remembered him?

For me, the clear winner will be the father who could afford to send his son for a stanford MBA. The one who can subsequently work in Wall Street, etc.

The key here is to give your kids a choice. Not to limit their choices!

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Old 03-09-2017, 05:32 PM   #67
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if base on this, i dunno how true or accurate lah

https://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/a...cription-risk/

but St Andrews/SJI/St hildas easier to enter than Tao Nan.
Tao Nan is linked to hokkien huay kuan iirc. Get your genealogical records in order and start volunteering with them?
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Old 03-09-2017, 05:33 PM   #68
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Precisely! Everyone wants to send their kids to the BEST schools, even though of all the limitations!

But TS is here asking us? Even though his son is due soon..

Obviously TS is

1) not willing to do more for his kid
2) listening to ministers' advice that *every school is a good school*
The child ability asides, if not wrong, nowadays the so called normal school think already cost alot. Those so called good schools think lagi more costly, if want to be able to keep up with the peers. Its not just simply the standard studying nowadays, there are other involvements which cost money, besides the techno devices, eca, etc. The investment think is not cheap.

If don't have the deep pocket to match, think may end up the parent 'crying' more than the child. Not forgetting the parent themselves also have to invest more time in the kid to help them keep up with the peers, have to reflect can they afford the time or not. And when the kid can't make it also, struggling, then it will really be a laugh if both the parent and the kid everyday crying together .

Also, think live long enough in society should that there is no such thing as best this and that, and certainly no best school. The things most suitable for one's ability is usually the best for one, not what other thinks is the best.
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Tao Nan is linked to hokkien huay kuan iirc. Get your genealogical records in order and start volunteering with them?
Now the teng lang school not overrun by tiong meh?
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The romantic notion is that we still live in a meritocracy system. I would love to believe that too... unfortunately, once a household has a taste of the elite life, they will do whatever they can to ensure their kids will remain in the elite world. This is why the gap between primary schools will grow bigger over time, unless the govt got balls to intervene.

if u manage to send your kid to an elite school, then make sure he doesn't come home with a snobbish elite mindset. If your kid goes to a neighborhood school, then make sure his worldview is as wide as the world itself
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Old 03-09-2017, 05:43 PM   #71
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Must consider what is suitable for ur child. In my case I have 3 schools within 1km of my place:

School A is a popular 'good' school. It is 700m from my place
School B is a neighbourhood school that is considered 'not bad'. 300m from my place
School C is a 'bad' neighbourhood school with barely enough enrollment each year. It is 600m away.

I chose school B as it is the most convenient, also, my son's character seems to be similar to mine in that he would not do too well if there is too much competition and he does not get the chance to be seen to do well amongst his peers. School A would have to go through balloting and that opens up the possibility of ending up in school C, which is a big no no. As my wife says, almost all schools are good 'enough' schools, except the worst ones where the bad company will drag u below ur potential.
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Old 03-09-2017, 05:45 PM   #72
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Mine ish peasant pri sch near sleazy geylang but still can produce satki caltech scholar mengshuen means wud

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I see many fathers like jin bo chup. Everytime i talk to them, they just say "儿孙自有儿孙福". Just leave their kids to their devices...all like talk until machiam non of their business...

But when the kids grow up, they will evaluate who are the better fathers.

Was it the kid who had a father who could afford the landed property and the maids?

Or was it the "nice" father who stayed in HDB, did charity work and when everyone in the community remembered him?

For me, the clear winner will be the father who could afford to send his son for a stanford MBA. The one who can subsequently work in Wall Street, etc.

The key here is to give your kids a choice. Not to limit their choices!
My school 2 most tokong alumni take scholarship, the father boh chut luei means what?
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oh yeah this.....just because u can qualify for a top elite school cutoff point 259 or 260 plus doesnt mean its a good fit for u......often times u end up at the bottom of the pile competing against the best of the best and u end up being average or below average and its one long miserable struggle trying to keep up with ur peers.

many people reach their ceilings quickly and burn out.
This reinforces the importance of getting in a good primary school at early age when "pressure" is a norm and the "culture" is there.

Neighborhood school 259 /260 goes to elite sec sch will take a lot of time of get to know their friends as most of elite already each other in primary sch
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My school 2 most tokong alumni take scholarship, the father boh chut luei means what?



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