Coffee meet bagel app - Part 18

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This can also be a convenient excuse cooked up by gers to tell bbfas they are not interested, also termed by JJ korkor as 善意谎言. Bbfas need to be very wary of this to avoid getting heartbroken too often :(

It will be hard to get confirmation in the early stages as neither side owes the other anything yet this at this point :(
Excuse to distance themselves from you, but then there is not much point except to move forward

Heartbroken is normal, sometimes I think it's better not to get into romance with someone that don't like you as much as you like them. Only time can tell
 

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hmmm i guess once you become a parent, your priorities shift.

i dont know. i have a nephew. i like that i just play with him for a few hours a week. could i take care of him for a day, week, month? I will hesitate. sometimes i wonder if i have what it takes to be a mother. i own a puppy and honestly sometimes there are days where i feel sian of caring for her. idk if its the same thing.
A puppy doesn't require as much attention as a child.. and yes, u might feel sian taking care of children after a while. For example, how do u reason with a wailing baby to shut up when it doesn't even understand? U don't need to teach a dog moral values, EQ, social skills, how to handle relationships etc.

No one is born to become a parent .. Similarly no one is born to be a CEO or even your current job. U learn on the job, gain respect and slowly work ur way there.
 

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i was the cook and baker in home econs. my partner helped me wash and bring home the leftovers...

yeah i did... too bad he didnt feel the same i guess.
At least he didn't lead u on la. Love is supposed to a two way traffic after all. I respect him for that. :)
 

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i also experienced this with guys. just normal convo. then one day blue tick never reply back.

might have dodged a bullet as kuudere said. avoidant personalities better not engage with them for your own good!
Can I kpo and ask their profiles? Above average looking dudes holding on to good jobs?
 

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yeah if i feel annoyed come edmw blow some steam...

actually he is a good guy, he did look out for me and didn't take advantage of my infatuation.
What??? 我们是出气筒吗?? :mad:

Okie la.. need not think too much. Life goes on. Now u know u can find Uncle feng to talk cock liao. :s13:
 

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Can I kpo and ask their profiles? Above average looking dudes holding on to good jobs?
hmmm yup pretty much hit the nail on the head.

one takes 8-10 hours to reply. by that time i started chatting with new people liao.

but the whole cycle is pretty tiring. its always start off with quick replies. then dunno what to say, slow down liao. sometimes if i feel its nearing the death spiral, if there's chance i will hint like wyd on the weekend etc. but taking hours to reply, cannot lah. havent started already interest not there, how to begin.
 

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hmmm yup pretty much hit the nail on the head.

one takes 8-10 hours to reply. by that time i started chatting with new people liao.

but the whole cycle is pretty tiring. its always start off with quick replies. then dunno what to say, slow down liao. sometimes if i feel its nearing the death spiral, if there's chance i will hint like wyd on the weekend etc. but taking hours to reply, cannot lah. havent started already interest not there, how to begin.
Hmmmm.. I'm curious if u have ever given average looking guys holding onto decent jobs chance? If so, do they behave similarly?

The dating game is repetitive until u can cross over to stage 2, the bgr stage la.. Last time I mainly chit chat over the phone. Easier.

Texting is quite tiring.. even now I might feel irritated if a person takes too long to reply. :s13:
 

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Dunno what’s average guys with average jobs mean. Grads with assistant manager position level, in finance analyst line, software engineer in jpmorgan, doctor in rotations now, further own boss of café Etc

or you mean second Gen of family business (x2), doctor in residency, etc
:s14: u beri high SES leh.

No MNC, dont talk! :s13:

Looking at these job positions, I would say that these guys are likely in high demand anong females. In short, they can pick. :o
 

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hmmm yup pretty much hit the nail on the head.

one takes 8-10 hours to reply. by that time i started chatting with new people liao.

but the whole cycle is pretty tiring. its always start off with quick replies. then dunno what to say, slow down liao. sometimes if i feel its nearing the death spiral, if there's chance i will hint like wyd on the weekend etc. but taking hours to reply, cannot lah. havent started already interest not there, how to begin.
Have u also taken longer to reply before e.g. half a day? And the reason for it, was it due to having less interests compared to other matches? :o

Have u given dead responses before?
 

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Have u also taken longer to reply before e.g. half a day? And the reason for it, was it due to having less interests compared to other matches? :o

Have u given dead responses before?
I probably will take quite a long time if I'm very busy with work. And to be honest I can understand if the other party takes some time to reply too.

For the mid twenties and above type of age group, our commitments already starting to shift (more career-oriented) and cannot expect lightning quick replies.

But if blue tick me and never reply (1 day and above), it's probably suggesting no interest.
 

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And I've collected some statistics on my matches...most girls won't reply as fast at first (probably coz they have a lot of matches to deal with? or unsure). But a fair few will start replying faster and faster. Those are the ones showing interest.

You guys know my date last Sunday? she replies me damn fast now despite work lol. And she went to auto arrange a date without asking me some more. Sadly I'm busy due to work zzz.
 

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Can always msg back or set respond such as : I am busy right now at certain times.... . Or get back to you soon leh ...instead of putting people in suspend mode ..it also show that you are willing to commit
 

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Can always msg back or set respond such as : I am busy right now at certain times.... . Or get back to you soon leh ...instead of putting people in suspend mode ..it also show that you are willing to commit
To me, this kind of reply doesn't seem to make a difference. There was a match who said that to me, and only replied my messages a few days later...wth
 

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To me, this kind of reply doesn't seem to make a difference. There was a match who said that to me, and only replied my messages a few days later...wth
It do....lar ...at least it you put you on guessing whether is she want to be friends boh . rather than once match put you on suspension and guess mode
 
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