if u only got 1 lot,
things are still evolving and should not be rushed, What fell apart once can come together again, but only at the right time.
自营自养自安然 suggests that before things can work out with him, you need to ensure personal emotional stability and clarity. If you jump back into things too quickly, the same problems may arise again.
You or him should not be too picky or focusing too much on flaws (不拘小节), and both of you need to learn to accept imperfections in each other. A healthy relationship doesn’t require perfection, it requires understanding.
Overall, it may be challenging, and require efforts from both sides, but at the end of the day if both of you can overcome it, you will end up in bliss
Note: if u have more than 1, then this interpretation is incomplete, you may need to go back ask kym if really no more, if still have please try again