Have u ever been disappointed at a person?

[Iamnobodyla]

when u dont trust so easily u will automatically not hv any sexpectations. instead u learn to ask yrself - what is their intentions, is this what they want the world to see? are they hiding something so they need to put up an act on the surface to distract others? i know most ppl dont think this way but u must if u wanna stop getting hurt.

naive ppl think in one straight line from A to B. streetsmart ppl weigh the pros & cons, think of the other person's point of view, study their behavior & weaknesses, then they take action. its a strategy not something u just "do" without thinking.

most of these soft skills are not what we're born with and it comes with practice. dont be too harsh on yrself. life is a process. as long as you're better today compared to yesterday its gd enough.

I always think in a straight line or nv think at all

 

[RandomPancake]

When you are expecting that guy to act as per your expectation, have to ask yourself whether everyone is treating that person fairly also.

Undergo enough sai even a good guy will snap

 

[Shion]

i am disappointed with myself

 

[mewmew]

jiro expectation jiro disappointment, moi dont rely on any1

 

[Kaylin]

I always think in a straight line or nv think at all

most ppl are like that la, we're too sheltered & lost most of our survival skills. but due to massive competition now we actually need to bring back those survival skills and think of life like survival of the fittest or law of the jungle else beri fast mati de.

 

[dambio]

Too many. Then I went n understood human nature n understood it's just ppl being themselves. Part n parcel of life. Inevitable.

 

[saltydog]

been disappointed eberi 5 yrs

 

[thyler_koh]

U thought this person is like this but he or she went to do smth that shock u. U feel disappointed because of their actions. They are not who u think they are…

u ever have this feeling?

have u ever been disappointed at a edmwer ?

I’m very disappointed with a party

 

[Joseph12]

I’m very disappointed with a party

Ya we know. PAP

 

[fortunecat]

Yes, saw him in the mirror everyday

 

[NightGhost]

Dont put much expectation on others then no issue
They dont own anything even do own money also bo chap so cannot expect anything right

 

[randyap]

Whenever I look into the mirror I very disappointed I don't look like Andy.

 

[deathan9el]

probably a few instances but by now me have alrd forgotten what those things are or by whom

 

[Joseph12]

when u dont trust so easily u will automatically not hv any sexpectations. instead u learn to ask yrself - what is their intentions, is this what they want the world to see? are they hiding something so they need to put up an act on the surface to distract others? i know most ppl dont think this way but u must if u wanna stop getting hurt.

naive ppl think in one straight line from A to B. streetsmart ppl weigh the pros & cons, think of the other person's point of view, study their behavior & weaknesses, then they take action. its a strategy not something u just "do" without thinking.

most of these soft skills are not what we're born with and it comes with practice. dont be too harsh on yrself. life is a process. as long as you're better today compared to yesterday its gd enough.

I don't feel disappointment in others because this is a dog eats dog world. I understand and respect that ultimately each man for himself.

Any disappointment is in my poor judgement of people.. the occasional mistake also serves as a healthy reminder that even if there is clearly nothing at stake, I cannot change the minds of delusional folks who think they have more to lose than me. Of cos, there are also bo liao people who simply like to stir trouble..

I think it's more of your expectations of a person, a specific person WITHOUT asking beforehand

Like in a crisis or in need, will a colleague , friend or supplier etc bail on you when you already assessed he's 'solid' & won't bail on you?
If they played you out , then you assessed wrongly & in a way you should take a part of the blame for reading the person wrongly. For assuming he is a 'solid' person instead of a shite person

A bit different is when you specifically agreed with them but they still play you out

 

[archie7]

no expectation
no disappointment

 

[Medicated Oil]

Ironically, the one that let me down are my own siblings when I needed help the most.
That is when I learnt to rely on myself the hard way from then onward.

 

[Mountainnodew]

Don’t get upset over someone who keeps disappointing you because that is his or her character. When the person agreed to meet you, just trust half heartedly and expect it will not happen. In other words, just treat the person’s promise as lightly like a feather.

 

[Joseph12]

no expectation
no disappointment

That's a simplistic way of looking at issue and untrue

You always have expectations on others unless you live in a deserted island

For example you expect the builders and architects to build your home and every where you go properly
If not every place you go can collapse suddenly and you die

Similarly you expect those who do your food not to be crazy and wash your meat in industrial solvent and kill you

In fact if you.live on deserted island , you expect the medicine you bring and equipment like ropes etc to be done professionally. If not, you die miserably by yourself in the beginning

 

[archie7]

That's a simplistic way of looking at issue and untrue

You always have expectations on others unless you live in a deserted island

For example you expect the builders and architects to build your home and every where you go properly
If not every place you go can collapse suddenly and you die

Similarly you expect those who do your food not to be crazy and wash your meat in industrial solvent and kill you

In fact if you.live on deserted island , you expect the medicine you bring and equipment like ropes etc to be done professionally. If not, you die miserably by yourself in the beginning

In Buddhism, "no expectations" signifies a path to happiness by eliminating the suffering caused by unfulfilled desires or the gap between life's reality and one's expectations of it.

 

[Joseph12]

In Buddhism, "no expectations" signifies a path to happiness by eliminating the suffering caused by unfulfilled desires or the gap between life's reality and one's expectations of it.

Like I said
A society cannot function if you have zero expectations on others cos zero expectations means people will do things anyway they like since there is no expectations which can lead to disastrous consequences

So if you have zero expectations and you die a fiery death , you will should have zero blame on the electrician who short circuited and killed everyone