I was a BBFA with no matches in dating app, until I decide to overhaul my appearance

[Mistranslated]

Sorry. Bbfa here are too disappointed with the female species to make any meaningful changes for a risky gamble for love

Bbfa wants
Love but don't want arguing wife
Fit body but don't want exercise

Any recommendations?

 

[Decorum]

Go plastic better

 

[SK Telecom T1]

then the next question is, do you feel comfortable in this new you?

Of course! Why would I prefer my past BBFA self.

 

[s-ghost]

Of course! Why would I prefer my past BBFA self.

other than the BB part, like the kind of clothes you wear, your style those

 

[XuishX]

175 70kg.
Bro a bit skinny leh.

Not all guys suit the buffed up looks one.

I am 175 height, weight 62-63 kg and many girls dig my appearance. But I realise that if I go down to 58-59 kg, girls my age (30s) will think I am XDD and don’t treat me seriously. And I will get alot more attention from girls at age 18-24 years old. So I strive to maintain my weight at 62-63 kg which I realise I get most assurance from people of all ages, not just from specific age group

You might think that is skinny but actually skinny is as skinny does, at least wearing layered clothes will look proper and decent. Buffed up bodies wear coat and blazers will look fat. Skinny wear layered looks perfect. Think Andy Lau and you get what I mean. Wear anything also look good

 

[iamverysmart]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

Tldr:

everyone wants good value with limited resources……

 

[Acetone]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

Which bbfa edmwers wife did you chat with on those apps ?

 

[iamverysmart]

175 70kg.
Bro a bit skinny leh.

Is just nice for mass appeals….

fitzai body is for minority tastes….

But worse of all is my kind fatty body….is super minority likes……

 

[1982-1994]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

you jjww so much, but where's your pic? gpgt before and after lah
left; 110kg
right; 90kg

but I have to agree with you that appearance counts
not looking good, then spend time to make yourself look better

 

[Heriophant]

Yep ultimately it will come down to money.

Money to style up, get good clothes, shoes, haircut, etc

 

[dilphinus]

The story I'm about to say, is 1000% true story or else I die a horrible death.

Background of me - Just recently hit 30. Used to be a 175cm, 85kg slightly overweight guy swiping dating apps hoping to find someone. But no matches at all, within 6-month period I can count with just one hand how many matches I got. And even from those matches, within a while will just ghost me even though I really did put in effort to have a conversation. Ultimately, no dates wanna go out with me in that 6 months period.

Just totally no quality matches at all. Even those non-lookers that matched me don't reply back.

Then I decide to overhaul my appearance.

Went to lose weight. Dropped all the way from 85kg to around 68-69kg.
Train a bit of arms. But of course not as bulky as those fitzai gymbros.
Drop my glasses and went for contact lenses. But ultimately went for lasik.
Went and gotten a Korean-style haircut, and learning how to style my hair.
Went for braces and now rocking straight teeth. Also did a bit of teeth whitening.
Learning to dress better than t-shirt and jeans. Think denim jackets, flannel outerwear, long sleeve shirts etc
And also looking for specific clothings that fit nicely to my body shape (this is sneakily important)


Suddenly I have much much more matches than I could ever imagine, even though I swipe like only 10%-20% of the time. Every other day I can get matches from dating apps.

At my peak I'm talking to like 7+ girls concurrently from dating apps. And from there I managed to ask out various girls to go on dates.

And have been going out on dates almost on a weekly basis. Like 1-2 new girls every week / every other week. And mind you, in my opinion some of the girls I met are pretty cute (I don't go out with whatever girls I can match with).

My most extreme was meeting 4 different girls in a week. One on weekday dinner, another 2 on Saturday lunch and dinner respectively, and one more on Sunday dinner.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to show off that I am able to go on tremendous amount of dates.

But what I want you all to know is, girls are just like guys and they are also superficial. Things girls say like "inner beauty is the most important", that's a huge pile of bollocks if you ask me. End of the day, appearance attracts and if you're not attractive physically, they don't even want to bother with knowing you on a deeper level / let you show off your inner beauty.

Maybe its the dating app thing - first thing apps show you is the pictures. And people are quick to just form their interest in you through your appearance.

But ya this is my story.
And moral of the story? Be a looker if you want to use dating apps, or expect no matches. No matter how much inner beauty you have.

Recommend your dentist lei. Damn zai. Teeth can be straightened in such a short period of time!

 

[Sforthought]

Lol. My record was a meet up in less than 15 lines of conversations between us.

Once chat = meet up. I didn't even put a photo! But your bio need to be power.

 

[Travis_Touchdown]

but howl ts know howl to make over wibout consultant??

 

[Travis_Touchdown]

then the next question is, do you feel comfortable in this new you?

that ish a fake chiu... fake after a while also sianz riaoz...

 

[C_boliao]

Congrats ts.. What's the body count so far?

 

[zohn1999]

175 70kg.
Bro a bit skinny leh.

It is average leh. Most ppl are slightly overweight by the way.

 

[Nevereatrice]

Go out is one thing. Are u attached to any of them yet lol.

 

[moonraiser]

It is average leh. Most ppl are slightly overweight by the way.

No leh. Skinny leh. Somemore I see some guys like that but still have a tummy sibeh weird

 

[noobiee]

got piak any?

 

[1982-1994]

Not all guys suit the buffed up looks one.

I am 175 height, weight 62-63 kg and many girls dig my appearance. But I realise that if I go down to 58-59 kg, girls my age (30s) will think I am XDD and don’t treat me seriously. And I will get alot more attention from girls at age 18-24 years old. So I strive to maintain my weight at 62-63 kg which I realise I get most assurance from people of all ages, not just from specific age group

You might think that is skinny but actually skinny is as skinny does, at least wearing layered clothes will look proper and decent. Buffed up bodies wear coat and blazers will look fat. Skinny wear layered looks perfect. Think Andy Lau and you get what I mean. Wear anything also look good

please gpgt yourself to shut us up, Andy lau