It is more important that your values align, for example:
*1. Do you value money/pride more than relationships? If you have to make a decision where money/pride and relationship come into the picture, which will you choose?
*2. Do you value honesty and integrity? Do you believe that a spouse has to remain faithful to his or her spouse for as long as they remain married to each other? This will have a bearing on your commitment to the marriage.
For other things, such as parenting skills or communication skills, the couple can go and read up and learn, but values are ingrained in a person and difficult to change.
For point #2, I am particularly concerned to read so many comments here (especially from men) that it is ok for men to cheat outside as long as they "don't bring the cow home" because after all, in the animal kingdom, it is common for the males to spread his seeds far and wide (thanks for comparing humans to animals). Adultery in a marriage has devasting consequences in a marriage, to the spouse betrayed and the children who are hurt.
*1. Do you value money/pride more than relationships? If you have to make a decision where money/pride and relationship come into the picture, which will you choose?
*2. Do you value honesty and integrity? Do you believe that a spouse has to remain faithful to his or her spouse for as long as they remain married to each other? This will have a bearing on your commitment to the marriage.
For other things, such as parenting skills or communication skills, the couple can go and read up and learn, but values are ingrained in a person and difficult to change.
For point #2, I am particularly concerned to read so many comments here (especially from men) that it is ok for men to cheat outside as long as they "don't bring the cow home" because after all, in the animal kingdom, it is common for the males to spread his seeds far and wide (thanks for comparing humans to animals). Adultery in a marriage has devasting consequences in a marriage, to the spouse betrayed and the children who are hurt.