You should let your siblings know and ask them to chip in, whether financially or time/labour.
You should let your siblings know and ask them to chip in, whether financially or time/labour.
bro is overseas with japanese wife, sister got 4 children...all busy with their lives
I believe his parents belong to the older generation. That generation, many are uneducated and held very low paying jobs, some even without CPF. Their daily struggle was to put food on the table, let alone savings. After this generation passed on, the next generation of parents are slightly better off financially. They are more educated and would have planned for their retirement.
It is entirely up to you to persuade him, it is your life... no point telling me difficult as that would not make it any more simpler. I can empathize with you as my mum is wheelchair bound after she have several toes amputated from her both foot.. due to diabetes, even after amputation, due to neuropathy in her legs.. even with a serious pressure sore developing she also cannot feel it.. by the time I noticed it was quite bad.. and it end up become a deep hole reaching her bones in her toes.. luckily after the past month daily changing dressing and now with advice from podiatrist... her toes is getting better... it was visibly very dark in color when I first noticed it.. now is much better and the hole is becoming smaller... but it is deep as measured by the podiatrist.
Your mum too? Is she the one whom you think might have dementia? How old are your parents?
You should let them know and tell them you are burnt out.
I can empathize with you. I was a caregiver from age 13 onwards. Mum had a stroke when I was in Sec One. Overnight, I also had to take care of my disabled sister too when Mum got a stroke. That was in the early 80s and no government help was available, at least not that my family knew of at that time.It is entirely up to you to persuade him, it is your life... no point telling me difficult as that would not make it any more simpler. I can empathize with you as my mum is wheelchair bound after she have several toes amputated from her both foot.. due to diabetes, even after amputation, due to neuropathy in her legs.. even with a serious pressure sore developing she also cannot feel it.. by the time I noticed it was quite bad.. and it end up become a deep hole reaching her bones in her toes.. luckily after the past month daily changing dressing and now with advice from podiatrist... her toes is getting better... it was visibly very dark in color when I first noticed it.. now is much better and the hole is becoming smaller... but it is deep as measured by the podiatrist.
I really do not want to go through another amputation surgery.. very tiring.. to bring her to hospital every 2 to 3 days, not to mention long hospital stay, maybe 1 to 2 weeks for surgery, then 1 month in community hospital and you still have to make visit to community hospital to bring her for appointment to the main hospital just beside.. they can help you send her for appointment but they charge.. and not cheap... so ownself do lor. Then when she is back home, you still have a long period of follow up until she fully heal... and I am talking about months...
And now my mum also have dementia, she is diagnosed as unspecified dementia with psychosis.... so it is quite bad as she kept talking and quarreling with people that is simply not there... now with medicine she is much more stable, but requires working closely with the doctor.
No siblings?
While government is doing something for people like caregivers.. but I do think they can do more and better.
I think you already know
First he need to get the father diagnosed first.. without that difficult to apply for any assistance also...
No matter what diagnosis , won't get shite
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This is the 2nd time you’re telling us liao
my father will blow up everytime i try to bring him go see doctor. i might need to ask someone to come down to check on him, but first thing i did was to sell the car. he keeps insisting on driving and nearly got into an accident.
Putting in a nursing home can be a double edge sword.
It should be very easy to get help. Just need to go polyclinic get an appt with hospital for your parents. Every gov hospital will have a social care cum financial support, approach them from they. They will also guide you and also lead the way to other source of gov subsidies for FDW and etc.
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