S’porean father single-handedly raised 4 kids after ex-wife walked out 12 years ago

[rstopel]

If middle class with 4 kids not easy sia cos can't get monthly social handout $$.. yearly tax also need to pay.

can get child relief 4x. see from st stricken got car and pte abode so no fin worries. would bring in a maid to handle the kids



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[heughoghap]

Shud also hear side of the wife's story. No mother in the right mind will leave her kids, four some more. Never trust fb post, its all embellished to look good.

 

[elf108]

Can drive out alone or go running means sure got family support at home.
Surprise never mention Ina article.

 

[Smarty22]

He has my respect. Moved by the article I read, I can imagine the struggle he must have gone through. Bringing up a child on his own as a single parent is already not easy let alone four.
I hope he can find a companion or partner to spend the rest of his life now that the children are older and do not require much of his time.

 

[crimsontactics]

Spit on their mom!

How can abandon children like this?

Pui pui pui!

 

[Melo_Melo]

The wife I think hit by serious depression.
No juicy news here...

 

[popdod]

Next time 4 kids give him allowance.


Long term investment.

 

[Aaron_soh80]

It’d be an understatement to say that Wayne Toh, father of four, has been through a lot as a single father over the past 12 years.

In 2010 his ex-wife up and left, handing over custody of their four young children and signing away her share of their HDB flat.

Her abrupt departure left the family reeling — in shock, confusion, and hurt.

Even today, the end of his marriage is still a sensitive topic for Toh, who says that he’s thankfully not had to talk about it much.


After all, people tend to be more interested in how he manages to not only provide for four children while also caring for them as a single parent.

Today, with his children growing up and growing more independent, the 47-year-old is keen to share his extraordinary experience of fatherhood.

Toh sees this as a way of taking a stand for single parents out there who might be “struggling and suffering” in silence, out of fear that they might face discrimination.

There’s also the fact that, in his experience, sharing his story helps him revisit the past and salvage important lessons from the difficult years now behind him.

He mused:






But as he told me his story — one that spanned more than a decade — over iced tea about a week ago, I got the feeling that Toh wouldn’t be needing much help

https://mothership.sg/2022/03/singapore-single-father-4-kids/

He lucky that all his children are healthy..

 

[Cecamaster]

When men take care of their kids as single fathers, everybody respects. When women take care of their kids as single mothers, it’s their job. Talk about gender equality.

Don't talk cock la. Everyone respects single parents

 

[sgman88]

Too bad, there's no mc. Cannot pawn the ex wife, take a share of her CPF, take her personal savings, take her asset n pawn till she go in squat.

 

[cubapril]

Parenting standards differ very widely. High or low stress, hundreds ways to do parenting, no right or wrong.

 

[Melo_Melo]

Pls respect the family.
Don't anyhow add ingredients....

 

[inmyopinion]

who ask him sho horny keep pumping full
tank until 4 kids

She wanted 7.


"I wanted three, she said she wanted seven. She was an only child and was lonely growing up," he says. "I was a very hands-on dad right from the start. I bathed them, fed them, put them to bed and cut their nails."

2014 interview.
https://www.straitstimes.com/opinio...cated-dad-brings-up-four-kids-single-handedly

 

[crazycow]

When men take care of their kids as single fathers, everybody respects. When women take care of their kids as single mothers, it’s their job. Talk about gender equality.

Statistically single fathers do a better job than single moms

 

[Igene]

Quite unusual, divorce all kids gone to hubby one. Law more favoring to wife side one. Maybe the wife really didn't want.

 

[rampage333]

Lucky he neber toh

 

[crazycow]

Parenting standards differ very widely. E.g. Mealtimes. Had seen dome Mums ( NOT this case) angry-super-stressed spent hours cooking brocolli/spinach/healthy Salmon, then idiotic kids refuse to eat it, quarrel world-war at home, Since mum's hard-work not appreciated, best divorce & walk-out on kids.( (NOT this case) Also seen some Dads takeover mealtimes, let kids eat ice-cream/JunkFood McDonad/FastFood, kids dam HAPPY eatIce-Cream+ FrenchFries as Main Meal, grow fat, some Dads (NOT this case) don't care nutrition since kids happy. If obese 100kg can do NS? Next Schooling. if kids exams-results like shiat, (NOT this case), some mums super-stress go find tuition, buy extra-books, pay tuition-fees, ensure kids grades improve. Some dads (NOT this case) can adopt "western style parenting" so if kids don;t wish study, its ok let them play all day,(NOT this case) end-up gabage cleaner is kids' own consequence. Parenting can be daaaaam EASY if some dads ( NOT this case) choose bochap styles (NOT this case) so everything let kids decide watever they wish, for meals/study, dont study is ok too). Parenting can be dam stressful if some mums (NOT this case) trying to ensure kids get best meals, best books, best tuition, best grades, best CCAs.(NOT this case) High or low stress, hundreds ways to do parenting, no right or wrong.

Really funny concept of kids not eating, if they don't want to eat then dont let them eat anything else

 

[TrollAndOgres]

Ah... so fast 12 years riao..

Sort of knew his family.. glad that they are all doing well though dun really know what happened to to them

Rast time the kids young all super cute due to the genes lol

 

[tankgunner]

Respect this guy

 

[popdod]

Quite unusual, divorce all kids gone to hubby one. Law more favoring to wife side one. Maybe the wife really didn't want.

Depends. My frd fought all the way to get custody of the kid.

Citing earning power moar than ex- wifey.

Moar financial stable. = better future.

Child ghost to him instead.