Help girls in top schools cope with life’s challenges

[English Teacher]

Forum: Help girls in top schools cope with life’s challenges​

I thought my own family’s experience was an isolated one until I read the article (New NIE study to examine well-being and behaviour of girls in top secondary schools, June 10). According to the article, the study was sparked by research findings in the US, which showed that youth in high-achieving schools showed clinically significant anxiety and depression about six to seven times higher than national norms.

My daughter was a student in a top girls’ school until two years ago. Her four years in this school were possibly the darkest period in her life.

Once a smiling and bubbly young girl, she became a shadow of herself, wracked with anxiety, self-doubt, and occasional crying episodes. She often questioned why she had chosen this school, and said she never felt she belonged.

She told me that many girls in her school go there to “network” – it’s not about making friends or enjoying each other’s company, but to make connections with girls of a certain background. Isn’t school meant to be for learning and making life-long friends?

My daughter also noticed cuts on a former classmate’s thighs. Not knowing what to do with the knowledge, she kept this to herself for two weeks before confiding in me.

I hope the findings from the new NIE study will be able to help students who are going through these issues.

As parents, we also need to teach our children skills that will help them face life’s challenges. We should also let our children know that they can turn to their parents or a responsible adult, who can help them work through their problems.

Vivien Goh Choon Lian


https://www.straitstimes.com/opinio...rls-in-top-schools-cope-with-lifes-challenges

 

[buttbERry]

top sch students so jialat?

 

[elmohootbigbird]

top schools only got girls. its weird right.

 

[tatsit]

She told me that many girls in her school go there to “network” – it’s not about making friends or enjoying each other’s company, but to make connections with girls of a certain background. Isn’t school meant to be for learning and making life-long friends?

the surprising thing is the parent doesnt know that the purpose of so called 'top school' is simply networking

 

[Itsthatguy]

Solution is boys.

 

[gilcrest]

top schools only got girls. its weird right.

No, same as ib a company all women; sure a lot of infighting apart from competition. All wants to be alpha

 

[エステ好きな野郎]

Why only help girls?

Why no help boys too?

 

[tomsss]

to parents, top schools = come out sure good

then if child somehow cannot excel in top school, go questions school why cannot make child perfrom instead of asking child what is the problem

 

[CCCustom]

Forum: Help girls in top schools cope with life’s challenges​

I thought my own family’s experience was an isolated one until I read the article (New NIE study to examine well-being and behaviour of girls in top secondary schools, June 10). According to the article, the study was sparked by research findings in the US, which showed that youth in high-achieving schools showed clinically significant anxiety and depression about six to seven times higher than national norms.

My daughter was a student in a top girls’ school until two years ago. Her four years in this school were possibly the darkest period in her life.

Once a smiling and bubbly young girl, she became a shadow of herself, wracked with anxiety, self-doubt, and occasional crying episodes. She often questioned why she had chosen this school, and said she never felt she belonged.

She told me that many girls in her school go there to “network” – it’s not about making friends or enjoying each other’s company, but to make connections with girls of a certain background. Isn’t school meant to be for learning and making life-long friends?

My daughter also noticed cuts on a former classmate’s thighs. Not knowing what to do with the knowledge, she kept this to herself for two weeks before confiding in me.

I hope the findings from the new NIE study will be able to help students who are going through these issues.

As parents, we also need to teach our children skills that will help them face life’s challenges. We should also let our children know that they can turn to their parents or a responsible adult, who can help them work through their problems.

Vivien Goh Choon Lian


https://www.straitstimes.com/opinio...rls-in-top-schools-cope-with-lifes-challenges

How can 154th say “top schools”? That goes against the “every school is a good school” narrative what.

 

[elmohootbigbird]

No, same as ib a company all women; sure a lot of infighting apart from competition. All wants to be alpha

but whateva boys do, girls do better. the brave, independent young women, no need help one la.

 

[khratit]

Since when did young women know / appreciate what they already have

These charsiu need to be spanked, but their fathers are absent or weak

You will get out of control, broken, tattooed karens

 

[エステ好きな野郎]

Send bois to NS
Let them get pwned to learn about life challenges

What is NS?

 

[gilcrest]

but whateva boys do, girls do better. the brave, independent young women, no need help one la.

Usually you find RGS graduates hab these traits

 

[coldish]

Why only help girls?

Why no help boys too?

Quite sure they shld have the stats of suicide n self half cases
https://annals.edu.sg/adolescent-se...rgency-department-presentations-in-singapore/
Unless more of river valley case coming boys can suck it up

 

[begintoend]

Who does she mix with in school?
This thing abt networking in top schools again...
Ya right.... Forming clique is definite...
Networking... That's an overhype but also yes, I can't deny there isn't any.

 

[psyger-zero]

What so special Abt girls why focus on them? So hard then send them back to the kitchen to cook lah! Own self choose the empowerment then say stressed blah blah.

 

[moonlighter_sg]

usually top schools girls a big ding dong up there. the very extreme ones will find their way to the av industry. no lack of examples. or tendency to become gay butch.

it seems like some minister trying to cook up a new project . can write good thing in the yearly appraisal.

 

[midnightinparis]

Gender equality in Singapore= help girls don’t hhelp boys

thank you AWARE