At his mother's behest, he married a 26-year-old Chinese national within weeks of being introduced. He was 53 and never intended to get married

[Multiversal]

Selfish boomer who wants her "wishes" to be fulfilled instead if letting the children do what they want to do, despite already 53 years old...

Anything new?

Is this proven scientifically?

That's not true bah...

I think you got the generations wrong.

The mother would be a Pioneer Generationer, while this 69 year old man (her son) is the boomer.

Like most mother, I believe, she was worried about who was going to look after her son who was already 53 years old after she died. If he was 53, how old do you think his mother was? Certainly, not a boomer but a generation above that.

So she "nagged", if I may use this word, him into finding a wife, and obviously, marrying a lau auntie to make a baby was not a good idea. Having a young and presumably health wife would be a double win, first to make a baby and second to have a wife to take care of her son after she was gone.

Sadly, the woman's egg is only half the story. She is young, checked, she is healthy checked. But he? When he piaked his young wife, he was already 55. His sperm was probably not healthy, and this was what happened...a child with special needs.

 

[heroking]

if the amk house balance lease may not last the son
another bigger problem

 

[Multiversal]

There's a 73 yo lady who gave birth, she holds the record for giving birth at the oldest age, her twins seem healthy so far.
Still, pregnancies get riskier, and risks of the baby having conditions with increasing parental age nonetheless. Another worry is how the parents will care for the baby as they get older and weaker.

https://www.dnaindia.com/india/report-oldest-mum-alive-delivers-twins-at-the-age-of-73-2787738

This couple took a gamble. They lost. The wife (mother) deserted the family, went back to China and probably is uncontactable now.

 

[rrr2015]

maybe couples should go for prenatal genetic testing before decision to have a child

 

[Capitalist]

To have a kiddo at age 54 years … with a 27 year old wife, .. all things being equal, … it is pretty clear that he intends for her to care for the child … in time to come.

And when he married her, he was > twice her age …. Zzzz lor.

 

[Multiversal]

if the amk house balance lease may not last the son
another bigger problem

In Singapore, the son should have no worries about money. The government will arrange something, even if it is a nursing home where the fees are waived ie fully subsidised and paid for by the government and various charities/agencies.

The tragedy is the son who is alive yet without a life, and living like a vegetable.

 

[GarnetDragon]

This couple took a gamble. They lost. The wife (mother) deserted the family, went back to China and probably is uncontactable now.

Regardless of citizenship, local or foreigner, no parent shd ever abandon their blood and flesh child just cuz they're special needs, disabled, or have rare, incurable conditions etc.

 

[Multiversal]

To have a kiddo at age 54 years … with a 27 year old wife, .. all things being equal, … it is pretty clear that he intends for her to care for the child … in time to come.

And when he married her, he was > twice her age …. Zzzz lor.

She knew he was twice her age. Only she knows why she entered into this marriage....and it was not as if she was marrying a Singaporean multimillionaire. He was just a working class man. Why did she marry him? For getting a PR? Because Singaporean men have a better reputation than Chinese men, more romantic, more gentlemanly? Only she knows...

 

[GarnetDragon]

Quite sad
Hope when divorced, the ex wife didn't WC him

This is as bad as the very elderly mother with 4 mentally disabled adult children

This reminds me of the family with 9 children, 7 of which are special needs.
The oldest kids are adults now, hope they can take care of themselves.

https://mothership.sg/2022/05/mother-of-seven-special-need-kids/

 

[Multiversal]

Regardless of citizenship, local or foreigner, no parent shd ever abandon their blood and flesh child just cuz they're special needs, disabled, or have rare, incurable conditions etc.

If born in China, the child might have already been in a better place, with God.

It is well known that when China enforced a one child policy, and the Chinese wanted a boy so badly (so that he would grow up and help do farming), the baby would be drowned in a river if it was a girl. They would report to the authorities that the baby played with water and drowned by herself. Verdict: Misadventure.

Mother's love? No parent should abandon their child, you said? When it becomes a norm to do something and large numbers of people do it, the sense of right and wrong shifts. What is wrong to you is only your values, not others'.

 

[GarnetDragon]

The son has extra chromosome. Don’t know if current tests can detect

Genetic or chromosome abnormalities can be detected with amniocentesis.
During ultrasound, a sample of the mom's amniotic fluid is extracted via poking a syringe in the belly, it takes a few mins and results will be out in abt 2-3 wks.

 

[Joseph12]

This reminds me of the family with 9 children, 7 of which are special needs.
The oldest kids are adults now, hope they can take care of themselves.

https://mothership.sg/2022/05/mother-of-seven-special-need-kids/

Well hope so too

 

[Capitalist]

In Singapore, the son should have no worries about money. The government will arrange something, even if it is a nursing home where the fees are waived ie fully subsidised and paid for by the government and various charities/agencies.

Be it necessary or otherwise, .. ain’t that a drain on resources?

 

[Multiversal]

Genetic or chromosome abnormalities can be detected with amniocentesis.
During ultrasound, a sample of the mom's amniotic fluid is extracted via poking a syringe in the belly, it takes a few mins and results will be out in abt 2-3 wks.

Did you check with Gemini or ChatGPT or Deepseek, or are you a medical professional? In just 3 lines, you showed deep knowledge of what an O and G does. Impressive!

 

[Ubi-Warrior]

For PRC this is not unthinkable

Hard truths

 

[GarnetDragon]

Did you check with Gemini or ChatGPT or Deepseek, or are you a medical professional? In just 3 sentences, you showed deep knowledge of what an O and G does. Impressive!

Nah lol, I read abt it before. Last time when Discovery Home and Health was still on Starhub Cable TV, they kept showing pregnancy shows non stop ._.

 

[Multiversal]

Cannot understand how a mother can abandon her child.

Some people say that a child is a child only when he pops out, but others would argue that life begins inside the womb at the moment of conception.

If one takes the latter view, as indeed the Chinese, for that's why they count the baby's age as one year old on the day it pops out, then abortion is as good as a mother abandoning her child, albeit unborn. You would be asking "How can" a countless number of times, and the answer would be, it's a burden to keep the child. Just kill it and get it over with.

Even some mothers would bundle up her baby, already born, and chuck it into a rubbish chute.

In old Singapore, it was not unknown for mothers to give away their babies because they could not afford to raise it, and they already had perhaps ten to a dozen. If no family could be found to take the baby, then they would just leave the baby outside the gate that today is no longer locked....CHIJ on Victoria Street. When one of the sisters opened the gate the next morning, she would see that bundle and take over the bringing up of the reluctant orphan.

 

[Dracky]

At 53yo, it is a super big mistake to have kid unless you are millionaire.

Why ppl dun dun do future planning de?

Indeed, in other news, 59yo Aaron Kwok may be having a child with his 37yo wife.

Our boomer Sinkie father here is just unlucky. No need to blame him or his Chinese ex-wife.

 

[Linguist]

I think you got the generations wrong.

The mother would be a Pioneer Generationer, while this 69 year old man (her son) is the boomer.

Like most mother, I believe, she was worried about who was going to look after her son who was already 53 years old after she died. If he was 53, how old do you think his mother was? Certainly, not a boomer but a generation above that.

So she "nagged", if I may use this word, him into finding a wife, and obviously, marrying a lau auntie to make a baby was not a good idea. Having a young and presumably health wife would be a double win, first to make a baby and second to have a wife to take care of her son after she was gone.

Sadly, the woman's egg is only half the story. She is young, checked, she is healthy checked. But he? When he piaked his young wife, he was already 55. His sperm was probably not healthy, and this was what happened...a child with special needs.

If the son is 69 years old now then 16 years ago his mum whether Pioneer generation or not is also consider a boomer when he is 53 years old?

Probably the match making also not made by the son but by the mum? Mum says the lady okay then son goes ahead with the marriage?

 

[PaprikaSG]

The mother hai si her son.