Woman shocked after BF asked her to pay for his mum’s birthday dinner

[11.11.]

SINGAPORE: A woman took to social media to express her disbelief after her boyfriend asked her to pay for his mum’s birthday dinner.


Sharing the story on the r/askSingapore subreddit, she explained that although she and her boyfriend have been together for two years and are already discussing marriage, she has only met his Singaporean Chinese parents once and is far from being close to them.

According to her, his mum had extended multiple invitations for her to join family dinners at their home, but she always declined, as she “did not want to set up a precedent of going over too often”.


This time, however, she agreed. Her boyfriend invited her to the birthday celebration, his mum chose the restaurant, and the woman even went the extra mile. She discreetly purchased a thoughtful gift after asking her boyfriend what his mum might like.

And then came the shocker. At the dinner, her boyfriend abruptly informed her that they should just “split the bill” instead of presenting a gift. To her, this was utterly baffling.

“In my opinion, it’s pretty weird to ask your SO to chip in for your parent’s birthday celebration especially when invited,” she said. “[For me], it’s enough to just buy a small gift for the parent (nice gesture but not necessary) but no need to offer to pay.”

She then asked other Singaporeans in the forum whether this is “considered the norm” in the country. “I wanted to know whether this was the norm and what the thought process behind this was.”

 

[fandango]

SINGAPORE: A woman took to social media to express her disbelief after her boyfriend asked her to pay for his mum’s birthday dinner.


Sharing the story on the r/askSingapore subreddit, she explained that although she and her boyfriend have been together for two years and are already discussing marriage, she has only met his Singaporean Chinese parents once and is far from being close to them.

According to her, his mum had extended multiple invitations for her to join family dinners at their home, but she always declined, as she “did not want to set up a precedent of going over too often”.


This time, however, she agreed. Her boyfriend invited her to the birthday celebration, his mum chose the restaurant, and the woman even went the extra mile. She discreetly purchased a thoughtful gift after asking her boyfriend what his mum might like.

And then came the shocker. At the dinner, her boyfriend abruptly informed her that they should just “split the bill” instead of presenting a gift. To her, this was utterly baffling.

“In my opinion, it’s pretty weird to ask your SO to chip in for your parent’s birthday celebration especially when invited,” she said. “[For me], it’s enough to just buy a small gift for the parent (nice gesture but not necessary) but no need to offer to pay.”

She then asked other Singaporeans in the forum whether this is “considered the norm” in the country. “I wanted to know whether this was the norm and what the thought process behind this was.”

Fake

 

[Spectre007]

讲钱伤感情 leh.

 

[parchiao]

Treat future mother in law to a meal to gain brownie points.

Boyfriend saw the bill and felt it was to expensive so chipped in.

If woman want Sinkie man as husband, please be more sincere.

We have standards!

 

[Sen Sen]

No split bills at least…?

 

[dambio]

Bf ownself choose 1. Tis girl must be rich type?

 

[ribena.bing]

so if its her parent's birthday... does the guy need to pay?

yes right... i will la.

so why the other way round... cannot?

 

[impressionimage]

Ok mah split bill not say she pay all, like that also need to start thread?

 

[KPO_SAHM]

A healthy couple should share....
Future if woman's parents are asked for a meal, I believe the guy would auto pay for it too. Fair n sqaure

 

[Sango123]

I find it hard to believe leh.... invite the lady to a family dinner and ask her to chip in and pay?

 

[xllms]

Treat future mother in law to a meal to gain brownie points.

Boyfriend saw the bill and felt it was to expensive so chipped in.

If woman want Sinkie man as husband, please be more sincere.

We have standards!

as a SG guy, asking for gf to chip in on dinner cost is really LC. Spend within your means lah. Really throw face.

 

[yokine3a]

Treat future mother in law to a meal to gain brownie points.

Boyfriend saw the bill and felt it was to expensive so chipped in.

If woman want Sinkie man as husband, please be more sincere.

We have standards!

This is sincere or cheapo? Own family arranged birthday dinner, invited son's gf to come without telling her she ought to share the bill? This is simi standards? More like a scam standard.

 

[parchiao]

as a SG guy, asking for gf to chip in on dinner cost is really LC. Spend within your means. Really throw face.

Woman also need to impress the man.

It is not a one way street.

Throw face is when men do everything for woman.

Carry their handbag, buy things for them, do all the heavy lifting during XYZ moments etc

They will never treasure you other than your assets

 

[parchiao]

This is sincere or cheapo? Own family arranged birthday dinner, invited son's gf to come without telling her she ought to share the bill? This is simi standards? More like a scam standard.

Son's standards to test what kind of gold digger she is.

One dinner and already kick up such a fuss

Not worthy wife material at all.

 

[HushiePuppies]

gender double standard spotted.

i tell you, if this article is the other way round, many would have condemn the guy for being a scrooge.

 

[yokine3a]

Son's standards to test what kind of gold digger she is.

One dinner and already kick up such a fuss

Not worthy wife material at all.

Did you see dubai prince or saudi arabia prince do such thing to test whether their gf is gold digger? Rich ppl won't do such laughing act.

Ownself can't afford the bill should borrow money, not asking outsider to chip in.

 

[begintoend]

She everytime decline.
Bf could have been cooking up too many favourable excuses to make her look good.

This time Join the gathering like machiam big fug. (simi lan give impression come too often. Sai excuse.)

Bf ask her to give an impression of being generous and placing his mother in high regards with the dinner. Like above bros mention is score brownie points.

Instead go Internet and ask.
Knn... Stupid or wat

 

[Acetone]

Probably just wanna show that the gf is generous bah… maybe the bf back end will reimburse her. Otherwise it’s also kinda weird not to inform her in advance

 

[parchiao]

Did you see dubai prince or saudi arabia prince do such thing to test whether their gf is gold digger? Rich ppl won't do such laughing act.

Ownself can't afford the bill should borrow money, not asking outsider to chip in.

You not rich how you know?

 

[Joseph12]

SINGAPORE: A woman took to social media to express her disbelief after her boyfriend asked her to pay for his mum’s birthday dinner.


Sharing the story on the r/askSingapore subreddit, she explained that although she and her boyfriend have been together for two years and are already discussing marriage, she has only met his Singaporean Chinese parents once and is far from being close to them.

According to her, his mum had extended multiple invitations for her to join family dinners at their home, but she always declined, as she “did not want to set up a precedent of going over too often”.


This time, however, she agreed. Her boyfriend invited her to the birthday celebration, his mum chose the restaurant, and the woman even went the extra mile. She discreetly purchased a thoughtful gift after asking her boyfriend what his mum might like.

And then came the shocker. At the dinner, her boyfriend abruptly informed her that they should just “split the bill” instead of presenting a gift. To her, this was utterly baffling.

“In my opinion, it’s pretty weird to ask your SO to chip in for your parent’s birthday celebration especially when invited,” she said. “[For me], it’s enough to just buy a small gift for the parent (nice gesture but not necessary) but no need to offer to pay.”

She then asked other Singaporeans in the forum whether this is “considered the norm” in the country. “I wanted to know whether this was the norm and what the thought process behind this was.”

Is she rich or makes more than her boyfriend?
That could explain why he did what he did