I have a toxic wife, what should I do?

[soyabeany]

finally she realised she also dunwan tk be with a beta male

 

[THEMIKOS]

Life is meant to be lived happily. Your son will understand one day. Just let go since your wife behaves such. You will be happier and glad that you did that.

We have been married over 10 years and have a wonderful son. Recently, I noticed my wife has been showing annoyance face ro me quite a lot. I was puzzled how and when I offended her. Knowing her temper, I hesitated whether I should talk to her about it. At last, I brought up to her and try my best to express in a calmful tone and also to understand why she did that to me. Not surprising, she overreacted and had a fight with me. I kept quiet to avoid the quarrel and talked to her again as if nothing had happened. I invited her to watch a movie with me, she agreed at first but eventually told me to just watch it myself. I wondered why would she overreact in such a way when i was just telling her how I felt. At last, I went out to take a walk outside as I really needed some fresh air. On the next day, when we were in the same living hall, she texted me that she would be sleeping over with her friend on Sunday. We were in the same living hall, why won't she just talk me? I confronted her and I couldn't hold my temper anymore. Eventually, we had a big fight and in a state of anger, i asked her to move out and she did.

Now I realised my unhappiness and depression that I suffered all these years is because of her, not discounting the fact that we do have happy time together.

I am thinking of having a divorce now as I really don't want to live the rest of my life like this. Life is short and I am 37 now, i want to be happy and continue to improve myself. But my main consideration is my son, i want him to grow up in a happy family. I am really in a dilemma now.

What should I do? I may not get serious advice from EDMW, but I don't know who can i talk to. I don't have much friend and I don't want to let my family know.

 

[fireal]

Confirm she cheating on you just divorce. But make sure u catch her in the act.

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[Nickzz]

Just like most of the marriage, the spark eventually diminished. Our relationship is more like friendship and family now. I enjoy her companion when she is ok. But she short circuit, it really drives me crazy.

Then have to find that spark again. Think is both side lost the romance spark , as you said, become friend friend type. You have to rediscover that spark. Marriage if too long both sides never put in effort, just like a fire will burn out eventually.

Surprise her, do things that made her fall in love with you back then etc.

 

[Bumblebee Man]

Ts. You are not the only person with a toxic wife. I bet you many of us are in same shoes lol

 

[matey1982]

TS how long never pump your wife liao???

that is a good question

 

[TheITGuy]

Welcome to the club. I’m in the exact same shoes but I bite my tongue and stay on as I have 3 kids. How do i deal with it? Just keep quiet at all time. 不能忍也要忍。I know it’s damn tough sometimes but just gotta try. If evolves into 啊fight, just remember don’t get physical even if your wife started it. 切記切記。

 

[teacupboy]

Ts. You are not the only person with a toxic wife. I bet you many of us are in same shoes lol

That's what I thought. Here I am, looking for brother in the same shoes.

 

[waterdestiny]

Her neh neh big or not?

Ts, i suggest you to go for counselling to get professional advice. Asking for opinions in edmw is really not suggested as most of the replies you get here will be like the one I quoted above

 

[Mugenpower78]

TS need to join the redpill club and understand the true nature of women

 

[betking]

wear green hat liao

 

[WhyNPNT]

The first person you should talk to, is your son. Ask your son's opinion. Sometimes children's advice more value than adult's advice.

 

[Peach Tea]

Sleep over on Sunday?

It's true. I'll be piaking her whole day

 

[only_lonely]

Sometimes lady emotional due to hormone issues or depression. That can lead she go find another bf or gf then if met bad person just run away lor.
Many cases my friends or relative like this. We all never know like married 10yrs 20yrs still ended up divorce. It's like accumulating emotional thingy then one day bomb explode.
It cannot be recently recency event. Just as a guy tend to ignore and don't want to face it.

 

[Acetone]

For sure a lot of the guys here have same issue... or are divorced.

Just prepare to lose custody of ur kid though... maybe the most painful besides losing $$

That's what I thought. Here I am, looking for brother in the same shoes.

 

[runforyourlife]

Ladies always upper hand once married. Prob waiting for you to initiate divorce and start paying her.

It’s sad. Sorry to hear this.

 

[jokerk]

Can focus on self improvement and maybe it will make you more desirable to her.

If it doesn't work at least you made some progress on yourself

 

[teacupboy]

Welcome to the club. I’m in the exact same shoes but I bite my tongue and stay on as I have 3 kids. How do i deal with it? Just keep quiet at all time. 不能忍也要忍。I know it’s damn tough sometimes but just gotta try. If evolves into 啊fight, just remember don’t get physical even if your wife started it. 切記切記。

I tried and i am having depression now. It really affects me a lot. When it comes, I can't talk to anyone. Avoiding eye contacts and feeling nervous. Sometimes, I willhave suicidal thought, just couldn't find the reason to continue living such a way.

 

[LPPLKPKB]

Fire her.


10jjj

 

[Repsol_2]

Divorce better. Get rid of things that dont spark joy.

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