Ok... maybe a raw perspective will be more helpful.
You divorced your ex husband because of unreconcilable differences. Life moved on and you found a new job, moved into a new place. You realised that you picked up value adding skills and your market worth increased and you decided to change to a higher paying job and move to a bigger place. You found a new bf and both of you began to consider marriage. Your ex husband suddenly stepped in and accused you of being unfaithful because you have a new bf now. You told him not to be crazy because both of you have been divorced for many years and both of you have been leading separate lives.
Then he threatened your new bf that he will pay if he marries you. Then your ex husband threatens to rape you if you don't break off with your bf. You assert your insistence and your ex husband breaks into your home one night and raped you. On top of that, assaulted you and broke your nose. You ended up badly injured and couldn't move. Your new bf on hearing your incident, rushed forward and provided you financial help, sent medical resources, helped you move to a new place and provided security to you. Your ex husband refuse to give up and hired assassins to kill you. You survived the hit attempt but your security detail suffered casualties. Your ex husband broke into your room one night after killing your bodyguard and raped you again, this time bringing in a gang to gang rape you.
And so, after the ordeal, a new security detail hired by your bf came over, and fought off your assailants
While you sat there enduring the pain of your injuries, you began blaming your new bf for escalating your love for him and your determination to fight for your own life.
... ...
I pity the new bf.
