I shouted at my newborn baby today

[MonkeyPanky]

Too frustrated liao. My first child was never this fussy or I too Cha siew to be parent…

 

[KleenexUltra]

Too frustrated liao. My first child was never this fussy or I too Cha siew to be parent…

It’s normal we lose our cool, your realization is enough to know that you won’t hurt the child. Just some venting. Every child is different, but they are all beautiful.

 

[gwbasic]

Try to give yourself a quick breather when you can, 5 minutes oso goot to reset.

Ish not your first time mah, but oso remember they are really at a formative age, best to minimise extreme situations.

 

[MonkeyPanky]

I got scolded by my wife also. Feeling very lousy cannot sleep

 

[Geminiboy]

woh siao liao. newborn shout it won’t understand a thing. only get trauma.

TS better chill leh

 

[zoossh]

Too frustrated liao. My first child was never this fussy or I too Cha siew to be parent…

Take time and slowly talk sense to your newborn until he or she learn okay?

it take years and by then u will become chao tar char Siew

 

[Tony.Manero]

I got scolded by my wife also. Feeling very lousy cannot sleep

Why so cranky? How old r u

 

[MonkeyPanky]

Why so cranky? How old r u

36

 

[starlust]

luckily baby no memories now..

 

[Cedr1c]

You choose to bring ur newborn into this world one leh

 

[ramlee]

It’s true I’m the baby

I’m deeply traumatized nao

 

[linbeier]

quite serius reh lidat ts shld seek help

 

[coyote]

It’s true I’m the baby

I’m deeply traumatized nao

I hope ts is csb.

 

[Prime 13]

Chuir child will appreciate chiu only shouted at it and didn't throw it out the window.

 

[Tony.Manero]

36

Do you feel very irritable for past few months and if yes were u always like this?

 

[2yearswastedlife]

child didnt choose to be born. u and ur wife decided to give birth to ur child

 

[eflash]

Too frustrated liao. My first child was never this fussy or I too Cha siew to be parent…

Then what was the consequence?
Child cry? I probably shouted too or even hit not quite newborn la... That time probably >6m... It was the first baby, and extremely frustrating with the super slow feeding + rejection of breastfeed and breast milk etc...

I asked my husband to restrain me if he thinks I'm going overboard (to takeover and let me cool off if needed). Maybe I did have post natal depression?

Anyway just think, if you scold the baby, baby also don't understand and cry -> worse torture to your ears... So get spouse to help and take turns.

Comes 2nd baby... So much easier... So far never need to shout, hit wise just light slap on hand couple with "don't pull my hair. Pain."

*Fussy could also be due to reflux or not feeling well... If it happens too often maybe can discuss with paediatrician?

 

[yiron]

Too frustrated liao. My first child was never this fussy or I too Cha siew to be parent…

Can be very stressful caring for an incessantly crying baby, especially if your wife isn't considerate / supportive. Hang in there bro. Take a breather at times, and try to take turns caring for the baby with your wife.

If really buay tahan, try a pacifier.

 

[TrollAndOgres]

Tbh i also shouted at my son once when he was a newborn, i was a first time mum soloing with him after husband went back to work. Almost everyday i struggled as i had to feed, change him every 2hours, plus pump also. Zero help at all.

Idk if that made him a bit scaredy cat now at 6..

 

[bombshell]

Ok la, now shout only.
Few yrs later can introduce this friend liao.

Tough love is true love.