How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?

[Shion]

How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?

Be it kinship, romance, friendship etc.

Like for eg. You view Person A as a friend, but Person A view you as an acquaintance or hi-bye type only

Sometimes I question myself if I done something wrong when people dont view a r/s the same way as me.

As such, I become less friendly/warm as the years go by, and as I age.

 

[Encouragesome1]

How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?

It’s usually like this at start de
So need some time for other ppl to know n understand ur pov , when they know alr and they still want to keep it at their level.. we just adjust so we don’t feel we are over invested especially in time or effort or emotions.

Be it kinship, romance, friendship etc.

For me parents I mybf .. eg my pa don’t appreciate but he took care us until my poly days so we give him allowances though he scold us 99 good for nothing whenever relatives come tgt

romantic n friendsship is starting same for me .. if both r interested then ok .. if one is not just be ordinary friend or acquaintance nia.

Like for eg. You view Person A as a friend, but Person A view you as an acquaintance or hi-bye type only

Rs take time n events to cultivate , the saying is 日久见人心 路遥知马力
That why I hv many coworker turned frens and
Some coworkers I saw them work n inch off keep always a bigger than acquaintance distance if possible.

Sometimes I question myself if I done something wrong when people dont view a r/s the same way as me.

As such, I become less friendly/warm as the years go by, and as I age.

We no time no energy and lesser passion left the more we see and understand ourselves n others and life. And only focus on top few important stuff in life.

 

[Euqorab]

No hiew them loh

 

[Langa Lorry]

I think maybe you have not met a real friend yet, and also deep down also longing for a friend.

 

[pushtopen]

How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?
Be it kinship, romance, friendship etc.
Like for eg. You view Person A as a friend, but Person A view you as an acquaintance or hi-bye type only
Sometimes I question myself if I done something wrong when people dont view a r/s the same way as me.
As such, I become less friendly/warm as the years go by, and as I age.

don't think so much and suffer from main character syndrome

you not main character, in fact everybody is npc, even you and me

so just take it as it comes and don't overthink

 

[SpicyBird]

How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?

Be it kinship, romance, friendship etc.

Like for eg. You view Person A as a friend, but Person A view you as an acquaintance or hi-bye type only

Sometimes I question myself if I done something wrong when people dont view a r/s the same way as me.

As such, I become less friendly/warm as the years go by, and as I age.

i feel that it doesn't matter for others and it's okay. The only thing that matter is that your soul partner must view and have the same definition as you.

 

[Money no have]

As long money no lose, or borrow money from you. Is OK!

 

[buttbERry]

move on from these people lor

 

[Shion]

thanks all for your inputs

 

[Spike]

How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?

Be it kinship, romance, friendship etc.

Like for eg. You view Person A as a friend, but Person A view you as an acquaintance or hi-bye type only

Sometimes I question myself if I done something wrong when people dont view a r/s the same way as me.

As such, I become less friendly/warm as the years go by, and as I age.

A relationship is only tested if either party is willing to extend lobang or assistance during times of need without asking.

 

[Kaylin]

i think u need to be neutral aka. 50% at the start, not 100% as in clean slate & see ppl as perfect. u go slowly, when they reciprocate yr effort, u add some points. if they dont, u minus points. and u also mirror their effort towards u. this way, u will nv overinvest esp on the wrong person. if they dont call u, u dont call them. if they dont wish u on yr bday & other occasions, u also dont. i know its not easy but u must rem, self love is the most impt thing.

ppl are mirrors of how we treat ourselves. when u respect yrself and u dont overinvest, u give the space for others to come close.

 

[Spike]

Hi bye friends or acquittances might entertain you only when their schedule are available and there's nothing better to do. They will not go out of the way to accommodate you in their lives or think of you whenever there is a lobang. Usually is you initiate any meeting, and you won't see them initiating. Simple.

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?

Be it kinship, romance, friendship etc.

Like for eg. You view Person A as a friend, but Person A view you as an acquaintance or hi-bye type only

Sometimes I question myself if I done something wrong when people dont view a r/s the same way as me.

As such, I become less friendly/warm as the years go by, and as I age.

Stop being so insecure. How they treat you may not be fully correlated to how you behave or treat them. Humans are just weird most of the times. But just caz some didn't treat you right doesn't mean you need to be less friendly to people who have not done you wrong.

Anyway as times passes I believe this. 君子之交淡如水，小人之交甜如蜜。

Most people in your life are just 泛泛之交

 

[Kaylin]

Stop being so insecure. How they treat you may not be fully correlated to how you behave or treat them. Humans are just weird most of the times. But just caz some didn't treat you right doesn't mean you need to be less friendly to people who have not done you wrong.

Anyway as times passes I believe this. 君子之交淡如水，小人之交甜如蜜。

Most people in your life are just 泛泛之交

totally agree with 君子之交淡如水。最好的关系就是没有关系. most ppl are in our lives to teach us lessons actually, the lessons we supposed to learn but nv learn. how many ppl actually stay? i think less than 1%, in fact at this pt of time i dont even like having 闺蜜. as they say - 防火防盗防闺蜜。

 

[Travis_Touchdown]

haiyaz... juz treat eberybuttie as hi bye fwen can riaoz... sho complicated for huatz??

 

[mgx-alander]

I ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ i duno i nv had a relationsheep

Friends oso not alot got a few good ones but after merry they oso got their own problem

As a bbfa ish mybfd

 

[white_prince]

How do you feel when other parties dont view a r/s the same way as you ?

Be it kinship, romance, friendship etc.

Like for eg. You view Person A as a friend, but Person A view you as an acquaintance or hi-bye type only

Sometimes I question myself if I done something wrong when people dont view a r/s the same way as me.

As such, I become less friendly/warm as the years go by, and as I age.

Have, there are lots of people, lust, stupid, greedy, heartless, lazy…