A road to recoveey...

[Lchlch]

Can consider to sell your HDB which I believe should have been paid off by home insurance by now and downgrade to cash out…
Not unless u are going to work 2 jobs, there is no way to replace the missing share of income your late wife had for the family…

It was extremely tough n difficult now.

 

[Lchlch]

It is also good to move to a new place to start a new chapter for the family…

Moving to New place requires months or even years.
Currently already very tough.

 

[Coffeelix]

It was extremely tough n difficult now.

Take a step at a time.
Take care of the most pressing issues first.
Else, u will crumble under the weight.
If I were you, I will quickly get the house sell first.
Then lease to stay half a year while u search for another house to buy.

With financial problem resolve, u can then better manage the rest.
Pls heed my advice.

Pick yourself up and MOVE!

It will do everything concerned good.
You can always choose to buy in the same neighborhood.

This is also to show your kids the way forward in problems solving.

Don’t sit on the problems and lament which does nothing to help.

Sorry bro. Pls do the right thing asap.

 

[Lchlch]

Take a step at a time.
Take care of the most pressing issues first.
Else, u will crumble under the weight.
If I were you, I will quickly get the house sell first.
Then lease to stay half a year while u search for another house to buy.

With financial problem resolve, u can then better manage the rest.
Pls heed my advice.

Pick yourself up and MOVE!

It will do everything concerned good.
You can always choose to buy in the same neighborhood.

This is also to show your kids the way forward in problems solving.

Don’t sit on the problems and lament which does nothing to help.

Sorry bro. Pls do the right thing asap.

i dont have the heart to sell the house.
It holds too much memories on me.

 

[Coffeelix]

i dont have the heart to sell the house.
It holds too much memories on me.

Memories don’t fill the stomach…

memories don’t pay the bills…

Sorry bro. Now u don’t have the luxury to hold on to the house if indeed financially you are tight.


Don't wait till u have to go round borrowing…

Wake up…

Memories are kept in your heart…

Since u can’t hold your wife physically anymore, likewise it makes no sense to hold on to what u both built…

Close the chapter and move on…

make new and beautiful memories with your kids…

Don’t hold on to the past which is history.

 

[Lchlch]

Memories don’t fill the stomach…

memories don’t pay the bills…

Sorry bro. Now u don’t have the luxury to hold on to the house if indeed financially you are tight.


Don't wait till u have to go round borrowing…

Wake up…

Memories are kept in your heart…

Since u can’t hold your wife physically anymore, likewise it makes no sense to hold on to what u both built…

Close the chapter and move on…

make new and beautiful memories with your kids…

Don’t hold on to the past which is history.

thanks bro..... i am still very jialet..i dont know...i think there is some improvement..able to move but ready very slow..
I have changed alot, doesnt want to speak , i dont know what is laughing like, my mood swing alot too, can suddenly cried...

 

[daveteo88]

U need to find something new to occupy your time.
Else, it is so very hard…
your kids are of the age that they don’t need you…
Adopting a pet like cat or dog is a good idea… it keeps you company and gives you some joy that you so needed…
Go volunteer in some charities or shelters for animals might not be a bad idea…

He say he financially very tight and now know why is important to save for raining days. Where can afford to still keep a dog? Even feed the stray cat downstairs also must think ten times.

 

[Coffeelix]

This media corp actress lost her hubby suddenly 2 months before her son was due. She single-handedly renovated and moved to their new home and had the baby by herself.
She could start afresh without her hubby, giving birth alone, ts, u should be able to do better than her.
Be like her, move on… she didn’t have a choice … she made the best of what was on hand… so can you.

 

[Lchlch]

He say he financially very tight and now know why is important to save for raining days. Where can afford to still keep a dog? Even feed the stray cat downstairs also must think ten times.

i cant afford and also my late wife dont like pets in the house too.
even i buy ciapng, i only order 2 vegetables no meat, cost me about $2.20.

 

[Lchlch]

This media corp actress lost her hubby suddenly 2 months before her son was due. She single-handedly renovated and moved to their new home and had the baby by herself.
She could start afresh without her hubby, giving birth alone, ts, u should be able to do better than her.
Be like her, move on… she didn’t have a choice … she made the best of what was on hand… so can you.

thanks bro.
Even she or anybody or me move on and lead a happy life, the wound will still be there and sometimes it is very difficult feel inside our heart...can cry anytime especially alone or see something that trigger the tears.

 

[oOsiMm]

thanks bro..... i am still very jialet..i dont know...i think there is some improvement..able to move but ready very slow..
I have changed alot, doesnt want to speak , i dont know what is laughing like, my mood swing alot too, can suddenly cried...

Bro pls go outside and join some social club or free sports session at sportshub weekays and weekends also have.

https://www.sportshub.com.sg/sport-fitness/experience-sports-sessions

Meet ppl, talk and make friends. U need to start walking out and willingly to start being happy..

Stop your self guilt trip thing.. it's no wrong or right one..but staying at this zone is unhealthy for yourself, your kids and even your friends..

Move on to be better, fitter, happier

More than often its doable

 

[Coffeelix]

thanks bro.
Even she or anybody or me move on and lead a happy life, the wound will still be there and sometimes it is very difficult feel inside our heart...can cry anytime especially alone or see something that trigger the tears.

A stitch in time saves 9…
Time is of essence for $…

 

[Lchlch]

Bro pls go outside and join some social club or free sports session at sportshub weekays and weekends also have.

https://www.sportshub.com.sg/sport-fitness/experience-sports-sessions

Meet ppl, talk and make friends. U need to start walking out and willingly to start being happy..

Stop your self guilt trip thing.. it's no wrong or right one..but staying at this zone is unhealthy for yourself, your kids and even your friends..

Move on to be better, fitter, happier

More than often its doable

i am trying to join back the walking group soon...
but it is very painful to step out again.
i keep it to myself...smoke alone to release stress and stay at home like zombie and at times, do packing, lots of packing...and paper works with lawyer and insurance agent.

 

[cpuer]

ts ah, better ask for some professional help liao, you must admit that on your own you cannot get out of this emotional loop, you need external help liao

• Samaritans of Singapore: 1-767, available 24 hours
• Singapore Association for Mental Health Helpline: 1800-283-7019, available weekdays 9 AM–1 PM and 2 PM–6 PM
• Institute of Mental Health's Mental Health Helpline: 6389 2222, available 24 hours
• Touchline: 1800-377-2252, available weekdays 9 AM–6 PM
• Care Corner Counselling Centre: 1800 3535 800, for Mandarin speakers
• • Sage Counselling Centre: 1800 555 5555, for seniors

 

[oOsiMm]

i am trying to join back the walking group soon...
but it is very painful to step out again.
i keep it to myself...smoke alone to release stress and stay at home like zombie and at times, do packing, lots of packing...and paper works with lawyer and insurance agent.

Good work by taking a first step..

Do so marking out on a calendar that when u mark on it, it's commitment and have to follow consistently then also explore other groups

Home is ok when u wanna sleep but not ok when it makes u sadder.

Start 2-3 times a week of aerobic acti6, 30min minimal each time then increase to 45min..

Next time 3-4 times a week at least, change place to walk..can consider nature parks for the greens and relax atmosphere.

While u do those activity, treat as Zen mode and put on a smile..

U can program yourself to respond happier with a smile..at first will be stiff but then later as u relax it comes from the heart.

Trust me, can be done.

 

[Lchlch]

Good work by taking a first step..

Do so marking out on a calendar that when u mark on it, it's commitment and have to follow consistently then also explore other groups

Home is ok when u wanna sleep but not ok when it makes u sadder.

Start 2-3 times a week of aerobic acti6, 30min minimal each time then increase to 45min..

Next time 3-4 times a week at least, change place to walk..can consider nature parks for the greens and relax atmosphere.

While u do those activity, treat as Zen mode and put on a smile..

U can program yourself to respond happier with a smile..at first will be stiff but then later as u relax it comes from the heart.

Trust me, can be done.

thanks bro, i will try..

 

[qhong61]

This media corp actress lost her hubby suddenly 2 months before her son was due. She single-handedly renovated and moved to their new home and had the baby by herself.
She could start afresh without her hubby, giving birth alone, ts, u should be able to do better than her.
Be like her, move on… she didn’t have a choice … she made the best of what was on hand… so can you.

And she is a Malaysian.
Her relatives are all in Malaysia.

 

[qhong61]

thanks bro.
Even she or anybody or me move on and lead a happy life, the wound will still be there and sometimes it is very difficult feel inside our heart...can cry anytime especially alone or see something that trigger the tears.

Then u need to close the wound.

 

[qhong61]

It was extremely tough n difficult now.

U kept repeating this two words.
But what are ur plans?

 

[qhong61]

Take a step at a time.
Take care of the most pressing issues first.
Else, u will crumble under the weight.
If I were you, I will quickly get the house sell first.
Then lease to stay half a year while u search for another house to buy.

With financial problem resolve, u can then better manage the rest.
Pls heed my advice.

Pick yourself up and MOVE!

It will do everything concerned good.
You can always choose to buy in the same neighborhood.

This is also to show your kids the way forward in problems solving.

Don’t sit on the problems and lament which does nothing to help.

Sorry bro. Pls do the right thing asap.

Maybe not sell.
But rent out his flat or room.