Single men above 40 years old, do you give up on relationship / love ?

[ramlee]

moi think in current times, 40s is the death zone for any chance of starting a relationship.

if want to start, should have done it in 30s. what are the chances that whatever caused this failure to start relationship in 30s, would suddenly disappear in 40s and make you viable?

don't have youth and energy anymore, how to keep up with any prospective partner?

the only thing that happens at 40s is likely a transactional one, or become old cow eat young grass, provided you have enough money...

like what my mother always say me

人有老， 錢又無
等下世啦

 

[ramlee]

Not yet, I've just started going gym. In ten years time when I'm 60, will have gym bro body that women will like.

you inspire to look like ChuanDo ar?

 

[ramlee]

Tiring I can understand.. but painful?

"is it in?"

 

[s-ghost]

heng ah gui not 40 years old

 

[Velton]

"is it in?"

If receiver then maybe?

 

[KenQuek]

i got put in effort so much that they threaten to poh mata

Haha, but you managed 2 steps consider beaten most people already. Now learn to do it right.

 

[mikhail_k]

see your CEP and how you look lo. if the outlook not so good and you dw put in so much effort, i suggest go and do what you like already, dont bother

 

[ramlee]

Haha, but you managed 2 steps consider beaten most people already. Now learn to do it right.

wait i try harder becomes meatbao 2.0

 

[ramlee]

see your CEP and how you look lo. if the outlook not so good and you dw put in so much effort, i suggest go and do what you like already, dont bother

for me i ish hope next life will be better

 

[mikhail_k]

Actually lovey dovey stuff is mostly during jc, poly and uni. Cuz that’s when guys and girls get to really mingle, know each other , and see each other’s strengths and weaknesses

once step out into the working world (don’t need to even be 40yo), it’s mostly transactional liao.
People become busy. And women mostly will start to filter based on what the guy can provide for her , how to value add to her life , if the guy cannot value add, then women mostly wouldn’t bother with the guy.

as for guys, after awhile they also start to feel sian cuz they couldn’t meet the expectations and just give up completely.

ya, hit workplace already, usually most human looking girls got 1 bf before liao, start the whole girl power know your worth BS esp since workplace keep championing her, then go downhill alr. v hard for guys to keep up, and even if can keep up also not much mood to do so cuz max effort to get some jaded girl who is older

 

[Fightfat]

Single boy at 16-19 can’t find puppy love , first love or truly maybe real love .
Men in 20s with strong body and developing career can”t find gf to fight together with them ?
Men in 30s with relatively stable financial career still can’t find any suitable gf ?
So , what makes men’s in 40s believe in relationships/Love ?
If believe in relationships/Love means being in relationships or so call in love with each other .
Any ages will be considered in relationships -right up to your 80s in age .
Then no problem

 

[ramlee]

Single boy at 16-19 can’t find puppy love , first love or truly maybe real love .
Men in 20s with strong body and developing career can”t find gf to fight together with them ?
Men in 30s with relatively stable financial career still can’t find any suitable gf ?
So , what makes men’s in 40s believe in relationships/Love ?
If believe in relationships/Love means being in relationships or so call in love with each other .
Any ages will be considered in relationships -right up to your 80s in age .
Then no problem

problem ish 誰來愛我?

 

[A Better Tomorrow]

It takes 2 hands to clap and dont let rejection overtake hope.
When a man improves himself well enough, women will come.

But be discerning; some are just looking for suggers to pay their bills.

The end game is the procreation and that's the gist of it. Yuu might not even have to fulfill the contract because people change.

 

[Fightfat]

problem ish 誰來愛我?

Problem is not who loves you , but loves you for how long ?

 

[arsenalfc85]

Problem is not who loves you , but loves you for how long ?

The problem with most women nowadays is, they love a man for what he can provide. If the man can’t provide or value add, they don’t want.

so they only look for men who can value add to their lives or provide them the luxury lifestyle

but once the guy loses the ability to provide and value add, the woman will sayonara.

so in order for a man to get a gf, need to keep up and strive hard, earn a lot of money etc.

And doesn’t mean after get the lady liao can slack. Must continue to increase or maintain the earning power. Cuz once the earning power drops, the gf or wife see that the man lost the ability to value add, they will kick him one side too

 

[loganrunning]

Problem is not who loves you , but loves you for how long ?

"she is not yours. it' just your turn"

 

[Fightfat]

The problem with most women nowadays is, they love a man for what he can provide. If the man can’t provide or value add, they don’t want.

so they only look for men who can value add to their lives or provide them the luxury lifestyle

but once the guy loses the ability to provide and value add, the woman will sayonara.

so in order for a man to get a gf, need to keep up and strive hard, earn a lot of money etc.

And doesn’t mean after get the lady liao can slack. Must continue to increase or maintain the earning power. Cuz once the earning power drops, the gf or wife see that the man lost the ability to value add, they will kick him one side too

A complete comprehensive mastery of women” needs and wants and life meaning” .

 

[Fightfat]

"she is not yours. it' just your turn"

Well understood! She is not yours until he or she pass on ..

 

[Mystyque]

what did you do to get dumped repeatedly?

Did not get rich enough fast enough

 

[Mystyque]

The problem with most women nowadays is, they love a man for what he can provide. If the man can’t provide or value add, they don’t want.

so they only look for men who can value add to their lives or provide them the luxury lifestyle

but once the guy loses the ability to provide and value add, the woman will sayonara.

so in order for a man to get a gf, need to keep up and strive hard, earn a lot of money etc.

And doesn’t mean after get the lady liao can slack. Must continue to increase or maintain the earning power. Cuz once the earning power drops, the gf or wife see that the man lost the ability to value add, they will kick him one side too

This is true to some extent and personally I think it is a reasonable expectation up to a certain level. After all traditionally getting married implies kids at some point, and if she cannot work due to pregnancy and consequences, it is crucial that the husband makes enough to cover living costs including the newly added child(ren).

The line is crossed to gold-digger when the woman expects way more than this and are mostly geared towards her personal gratification like luxury bags and such, especially if she doesn’t earn enough on her own to support such a lifestyle/spending.