Will you tell him? Need some advice.

[Holytyphoon]

I just joined this company two months ago. Got this colleague, he’s technically my junior—abit childish also (he’s 28). When I first came in, he always like to one-up me, not say treat me badly lah, but definitely not nice also. He joined like three months before me.

He likes to suck up to the bosses, but honestly, I don’t think he’s a bad person deep down. His parents divorced, and his dad is a taxi driver, work long shifts, so he always alone at home. That’s why he come to office every day even though can WFH. Seems like he got no close friends, and honestly also not very well-liked in office.

Then today I just found out he going to get the axe soon. Actually, I feel abit sorry for him—like, this office is his only social circle, and now even that’s going to be gone.

So my question is, if you were me, would you hint to him about what’s coming and ask him to go find a job?

 

[Spike]

I just joined this company two months ago. Got this colleague, he’s technically my junior—abit childish also (he’s 28). When I first came in, he always like to one-up me, not say treat me badly lah, but definitely not nice also. He joined like three months before me.

He likes to suck up to the bosses, but honestly, I don’t think he’s a bad person deep down. His parents divorced, and his dad is a taxi driver, work long shifts, so he always alone at home. That’s why he come to office every day even though can WFH. Seems like he got no close friends, and honestly also not very well-liked in office.

Then today I just found out he going to get the axe soon. Actually, I feel abit sorry for him—like, this office is his only social circle, and now even that’s going to be gone.

So my question is, if you were me, would you hint to him about what’s coming and ask him to go find a job?

If he doesn't understand his own work performance, your hints will likely be seen as a personal insult or the conversation might even turn confrontational.

Just leave it and let the right person do the job. Not a friend anyway.

His family background has nothing to do with work performance.

 

[AlmightyOnes]

 

[FTM-FTF-FTP!]

When the news reach him, will go up to him, do the UNI si ginna dance and ask

SONG BOH?

 

[Wstc333]

I just joined this company two months ago. Got this colleague, he’s technically my junior—abit childish also (he’s 28). When I first came in, he always like to one-up me, not say treat me badly lah, but definitely not nice also. He joined like three months before me.

He likes to suck up to the bosses, but honestly, I don’t think he’s a bad person deep down. His parents divorced, and his dad is a taxi driver, work long shifts, so he always alone at home. That’s why he come to office every day even though can WFH. Seems like he got no close friends, and honestly also not very well-liked in office.

Then today I just found out he going to get the axe soon. Actually, I feel abit sorry for him—like, this office is his only social circle, and now even that’s going to be gone.

So my question is, if you were me, would you hint to him about what’s coming and ask him to go find a job?

how come u will know about this since u also considered a newcomer?

 

[Kaylin]

成年人只做筛选不做教育. pls start having some boundaries and dont do the things that are none of ur biz.

 

[deathan9el]

act blur
live longer

not like as if the decision to boot him out lies in your hands anw

 

[appleorange_]

I just joined this company two months ago. Got this colleague, he’s technically my junior—abit childish also (he’s 28). When I first came in, he always like to one-up me, not say treat me badly lah, but definitely not nice also. He joined like three months before me.

He likes to suck up to the bosses, but honestly, I don’t think he’s a bad person deep down. His parents divorced, and his dad is a taxi driver, work long shifts, so he always alone at home. That’s why he come to office every day even though can WFH. Seems like he got no close friends, and honestly also not very well-liked in office.

Then today I just found out he going to get the axe soon. Actually, I feel abit sorry for him—like, this office is his only social circle, and now even that’s going to be gone.

So my question is, if you were me, would you hint to him about what’s coming and ask him to go find a job?

even if hes the nicest guy in the world its not ur problem

dont go n make it ur problem.

 

[deathan9el]

I just joined this company two months ago. Got this colleague, he’s technically my junior—abit childish also (he’s 28). When I first came in, he always like to one-up me, not say treat me badly lah, but definitely not nice also. He joined like three months before me.

He likes to suck up to the bosses, but honestly, I don’t think he’s a bad person deep down. His parents divorced, and his dad is a taxi driver, work long shifts, so he always alone at home. That’s why he come to office every day even though can WFH. Seems like he got no close friends, and honestly also not very well-liked in office.

Then today I just found out he going to get the axe soon. Actually, I feel abit sorry for him—like, this office is his only social circle, and now even that’s going to be gone.

So my question is, if you were me, would you hint to him about what’s coming and ask him to go find a job?

reason for him being sacked is b'cuz?

a: childish?
b. sucking up to bosses?
c. refused to wfh but chose to come to work?
d. all of the above
e. none of the above

 

[Holytyphoon]

how come u will know about this since u also considered a newcomer?

Extremely political this coy.
My current project is to sell away one business unit, which he is in it too.

 

[Holytyphoon]

reason for him being sacked is b'cuz?

a: childish?
b. sucking up to bosses?
c. refused to wfh but chose to come to work?
d. all of the above
e. none of the above

I shld say prolly abit personality n performance related.
But i also feel his personality abit stem from his family neglect him since young, mother run away w other guy and father jus dont come home

 

[Wstc333]

Extremely political this coy.
My current project is to sell away one business unit, which he is in it too.

ic. then i think if u not 'authorised' to tell him, better not lor. dont get yourself into trouble

 

[Holytyphoon]

成年人只做筛选不做教育. pls start having some boundaries and dont do the things that are none of ur biz.

Thanks, i hear u.
Jus feel sorry for him and can sympathize how he feel n getting the last social door closing

 

[Holytyphoon]

If he doesn't understand his own work performance, your hints will likely be seen as a personal insult or the conversation might even turn confrontational.

Just leave it and let the right person do the job. Not a friend anyway.

His family background has nothing to do with work performance.

Yes this makes sense, thanks.
But i prolly jus feel for his plight

 

[Holytyphoon]

ic. then i think if u not 'authorised' to tell him, better not lor. dont get yourself into trouble

Yea, i guess i jus feel for him, can see hes a rly lonely kid

 

[deathan9el]

I shld say prolly abit personality n performance related.
But i also feel his personality abit stem from his family neglect him since young, mother run away w other guy and father jus dont come home

u knew him quite recent but well informed of his bg?

but anw, since u are new as well, most likely u won't have a say on this, right?

beyond your means anw since the decision has been made

 

[Kaylin]

Thanks, i hear u.
Jus feel sorry for him and can sympathize how he feel n getting the last social door closing

how many ppl u can afford to feel sorry for? maybe for once its time to keep those childhood programming like kindness, morals, honesty in check. this is working society where its everybody for themselves. if u dont learn this then u will learn it from the society thru the hard way. workplace is law of the jungle & survival of the fittest.

 

[Wstc333]

Yea, i guess i jus feel for him, can see hes a rly lonely kid

i can understand how u feel as i also had to withold retrenchment news from my own team.

 

[BunnyPancake]

First of all, colleagues are not your friends.

Secondly, it is not your fault in any way so there's no need to feel sorry. It is just the corporate world. If HR decides to sack him, means his performance is bad. Period. There's nothing you can do.

You tell him early also no use since it's been decided that he's gonna get axed. If you tell him now ,he will get emotional and now you have to deal with that until his last day.

I understand where you're coming from and you're a good person, but there's nothing you can do.

Sorry if I sound harsh... I also sympathise his life, but work is work... Don't mix personal and work matters.

 

[Spike]

Yes this makes sense, thanks.
But i prolly jus feel for his plight

Suck up bosses until tio axed is a testament to his poor observation skills to do the right thing at the right moment aka poor EQ.