so many happy married couples on reddit after reading a few comments i feel sad for myself

[yusoffb01]

every month you always have a self pitty post about how you are single.

even 50 year old chinese uncle can get a 30 year old myanmar bride. whats stopping you from getting foreign wife

 

[cosmothecat]

Thought u got happy family w many money? How come will advocate single?

Once married (or attached with SO), your life changes dramatically. With it also comes a lot of other problems that single people don’t have.

depends how you see it, whether the marginal gains outweighs all these new problems

 

[cosmothecat]

Life is full of suffering.
How to handle it is very important.

Yes

humans are born to suffer

with a significant other, only add more suffering

 

[aarontansp]

envey them married and when happy got each other to shares their happiness with so that happiness x2 and when anyone sad got each other for accompany so that saddness x2

after read the top few comments i cannot help it but feel sorry and sad for myself

Ts come to edmw for validation

 

[yokine3a]

Met a mother of 1 (working part time as kitchen helper, 4 hrs & 4 weekdays, earning about $300 ) at playground. Sharing with U about her marriage :
1) hubby doesn allow her to use CDC vochours cause spouse said government gave her cash
2) have to prepare meals for whole family using her own money
3) she has to pay for child daily school pocket allowances
4) hubby is not supporting her a single cent . She has to pay her own insurance + medical + own consumables items like sanitary pads, shampoo and etc
5) NEVER allowED her to take his car cause hubby said car would consume more petrol. Imagine spouse drives kid. If REALLY HEAVY POUR , she would beg her spouse to fetch her son and she has to take public transport home
6) hubby sleeps in study room cause he proclaims that he is light sleeper. But he always locks his room. Watching drama and turns on aircon till next morning
NEVER ALLOWED KID N HER TO TURN LN AIRCON. Proclaiming that it would consume more energy.
7) super self-centred hubby & micromanaging my friend cause he never allowed her to go out with any friends. Even bringing her son along also NO. However he is able to go out to meet friends anytime. There was since she went out for a few hrs , he texted him nasty texts.
8) hubby wanted to have kid cause house was quiet. But when kid was born , spouse complains kid is noisy and never wanted to eat with family at the same table. Cannot stand son to be alone with him at home .
9) she doesn know her hubby salary. Best part is hubby could access her singpass and see how much she is earning .
10 ) hubby is not treating her well. And giving her not just mental but also financial stress.
11) hubby never did housechores. After eating n drinking would leave drinking cups n plates ... utensils unwashed.
12) never fold blanket everything in a messy and waiting for my friend to do
13) hubby always reaches home early but never bother just to cook rice and waiting for my friend to reach home after fetching son from student care.
14) never brought son to anywhere . Cause he said waste money . Very stingy n lazy man.
15) seldom speaks to hubby at home unless talk about things like "what's for dinner, what time she is cooking for meals and so on.."


She could not work full time cause all her work required her to bring work home. She couldn handle the work at home cause hubby refuses to take care of son .

I shared the above with my mil cause my late fil was also a self-centred person. MIL said friend doesn work that is why hubby shows no respect to her. Moreover her parents all passed away. He knew she has no money n no place to go therefore hubby always欺负她。hubby has no affair....She is holding on to the marriage cause she wants to give son a proper home. She said once kid is an adult she would divorce her hubby. She knows hubby only wants her to take care of him when he is unwell , old n sick. I told her...end of the day son would be closed to her instead of her hubby. She invests her time n love for her son , son would know n feel it. Eventually, son would only care n love her when she is old

* Friend's hubby has a degree and works in a MOE school in IT dep for at least 15 years

Extremely toxic hubby. She didn't get to know his true character before marriage? Means he hides very well, a cunning man.

 

[coyote]

Ts come to edmw for validation

99% here will tell ts. single is the best.

Outside edmw, 65.57% will suggest him getting married with kids is the best.

 

[jiakliaobee charsiew]

How to getted marry?

 

[ckt1978]

Met a mother of 1 (working part time as kitchen helper, 4 hrs & 4 weekdays, earning about $300 ) at playground. Sharing with U about her marriage :
1) hubby doesn allow her to use CDC vochours cause spouse said government gave her cash
2) have to prepare meals for whole family using her own money
3) she has to pay for child daily school pocket allowances
4) hubby is not supporting her a single cent . She has to pay her own insurance + medical + own consumables items like sanitary pads, shampoo and etc
5) NEVER allowED her to take his car cause hubby said car would consume more petrol. Imagine spouse drives kid. If REALLY HEAVY POUR , she would beg her spouse to fetch her son and she has to take public transport home
6) hubby sleeps in study room cause he proclaims that he is light sleeper. But he always locks his room. Watching drama and turns on aircon till next morning
NEVER ALLOWED KID N HER TO TURN LN AIRCON. Proclaiming that it would consume more energy.
7) super self-centred hubby & micromanaging my friend cause he never allowed her to go out with any friends. Even bringing her son along also NO. However he is able to go out to meet friends anytime. There was since she went out for a few hrs , he texted him nasty texts.
8) hubby wanted to have kid cause house was quiet. But when kid was born , spouse complains kid is noisy and never wanted to eat with family at the same table. Cannot stand son to be alone with him at home .
9) she doesn know her hubby salary. Best part is hubby could access her singpass and see how much she is earning .
10 ) hubby is not treating her well. And giving her not just mental but also financial stress.
11) hubby never did housechores. After eating n drinking would leave drinking cups n plates ... utensils unwashed.
12) never fold blanket everything in a messy and waiting for my friend to do
13) hubby always reaches home early but never bother just to cook rice and waiting for my friend to reach home after fetching son from student care.
14) never brought son to anywhere . Cause he said waste money . Very stingy n lazy man.
15) seldom speaks to hubby at home unless talk about things like "what's for dinner, what time she is cooking for meals and so on.."


She could not work full time cause all her work required her to bring work home. She couldn handle the work at home cause hubby refuses to take care of son .

I shared the above with my mil cause my late fil was also a self-centred person. MIL said friend doesn work that is why hubby shows no respect to her. Moreover her parents all passed away. He knew she has no money n no place to go therefore hubby always欺负她。hubby has no affair....She is holding on to the marriage cause she wants to give son a proper home. She said once kid is an adult she would divorce her hubby. She knows hubby only wants her to take care of him when he is unwell , old n sick. I told her...end of the day son would be closed to her instead of her hubby. She invests her time n love for her son , son would know n feel it. Eventually, son would only care n love her when she is old

* Friend's hubby has a degree and works in a MOE school in IT dep for at least 15 years

y u so kpo.

 

[NintendoSwitch]

Extremely toxic hubby. She didn't get to know his true character before marriage? Means he hides very well, a cunning man.

Pls lah dat one ish onlie one sided storie. Ask the hubby then u hear all the stunts she chut. As for the other guy, mebbe he wan 2 white knight so accept everything as true.

 

[yokine3a]

Pls lah dat one ish onlie one sided storie. Ask the hubby then u hear all the stunts she chut. As for the other guy, mebbe he wan 2 white knight so accept everything as true.

I dunno her hubby, can you ask him? I also want to hear his story.

 

[jack-320]

Get attached and married is good

hope all get attached and married

happy life forever

 

[RichardXyn]

Honestly, once you get attached, you will feel even more sad with all the new problems in your life

Marriage and having children are stages in a person's life that are fundamental and meaningful. Life is mundane and meaningless if it is completely void of problems. Problems are there to teach and mold us. I cannot express the joy I have in seeing my children grow up well and become successful. Of course, the journey was rough but whatever obstacle that me and my wife faced were not intractable. But joy comes each time we surmount an obstacle. This is why people enjoy riding on a roller-coaster.

 

[nachtsid.er]

envey them married and when happy got each other to shares their happiness with so that happiness x2 and when anyone sad got each other for accompany so that saddness x2

after read the top few comments i cannot help it but feel sorry and sad for myself

I envy them for being married and having someone to share their happiness with—so that joy is doubled. And when they're feeling down, they have each other for comfort—so that sorrow is halved.


After reading the top few comments, I can't help but feel sorry and sad for myself."

 

[cosmothecat]

Marriage and having children are stages in a person's life that are fundamental and meaningful. Life is mundane and meaningless if it is completely void of problems. Problems are there to teach and mold us. I cannot express the joy I have in seeing my children grow up well and become successful. Of course, the journey was rough but whatever obstacle that me and my wife faced were not intractable. But joy comes each time we surmount an obstacle. This is why people enjoy riding on a roller-coaster.

I don't enjoy riding roller-coaster

I like to ride in luxury SUV, car big big, suspension soft soft, aircon cold cold, floating on the road like a boat, everything smooth smooth.

 

[Valour]

Met a mother of 1 (working part time as kitchen helper, 4 hrs & 4 weekdays, earning about $300 ) at playground. Sharing with U about her marriage :
1) hubby doesn allow her to use CDC vochours cause spouse said government gave her cash
2) have to prepare meals for whole family using her own money
3) she has to pay for child daily school pocket allowances
4) hubby is not supporting her a single cent . She has to pay her own insurance + medical + own consumables items like sanitary pads, shampoo and etc
5) NEVER allowED her to take his car cause hubby said car would consume more petrol. Imagine spouse drives kid. If REALLY HEAVY POUR , she would beg her spouse to fetch her son and she has to take public transport home
6) hubby sleeps in study room cause he proclaims that he is light sleeper. But he always locks his room. Watching drama and turns on aircon till next morning
NEVER ALLOWED KID N HER TO TURN LN AIRCON. Proclaiming that it would consume more energy.
7) super self-centred hubby & micromanaging my friend cause he never allowed her to go out with any friends. Even bringing her son along also NO. However he is able to go out to meet friends anytime. There was since she went out for a few hrs , he texted him nasty texts.
8) hubby wanted to have kid cause house was quiet. But when kid was born , spouse complains kid is noisy and never wanted to eat with family at the same table. Cannot stand son to be alone with him at home .
9) she doesn know her hubby salary. Best part is hubby could access her singpass and see how much she is earning .
10 ) hubby is not treating her well. And giving her not just mental but also financial stress.
11) hubby never did housechores. After eating n drinking would leave drinking cups n plates ... utensils unwashed.
12) never fold blanket everything in a messy and waiting for my friend to do
13) hubby always reaches home early but never bother just to cook rice and waiting for my friend to reach home after fetching son from student care.
14) never brought son to anywhere . Cause he said waste money . Very stingy n lazy man.
15) seldom speaks to hubby at home unless talk about things like "what's for dinner, what time she is cooking for meals and so on.."


She could not work full time cause all her work required her to bring work home. She couldn handle the work at home cause hubby refuses to take care of son .

I shared the above with my mil cause my late fil was also a self-centred person. MIL said friend doesn work that is why hubby shows no respect to her. Moreover her parents all passed away. He knew she has no money n no place to go therefore hubby always欺负她。hubby has no affair....She is holding on to the marriage cause she wants to give son a proper home. She said once kid is an adult she would divorce her hubby. She knows hubby only wants her to take care of him when he is unwell , old n sick. I told her...end of the day son would be closed to her instead of her hubby. She invests her time n love for her son , son would know n feel it. Eventually, son would only care n love her when she is old

* Friend's hubby has a degree and works in a MOE school in IT dep for at least 15 years

Before marriage, no red flags?

 

[ZhouXingXing]

people only show the good side ma... how about the bad ?
its not so simple of anyone sad got each other for accompany so that saddness x2 or happines x 2

those married will understand....

 

[Tloslm]

TS
Ask yourself questions
Are you suited for marriage life
Will you be a simp

 

[deepblue_82]

its always about the greed and comparing if dont be so greedy then less comparing we would all be happier

 

[XiaoChilli]

Met a mother of 1 (working part time as kitchen helper, 4 hrs & 4 weekdays, earning about $300 ) at playground. Sharing with U about her marriage :
1) hubby doesn allow her to use CDC vochours cause spouse said government gave her cash
2) have to prepare meals for whole family using her own money
3) she has to pay for child daily school pocket allowances
4) hubby is not supporting her a single cent . She has to pay her own insurance + medical + own consumables items like sanitary pads, shampoo and etc
5) NEVER allowED her to take his car cause hubby said car would consume more petrol. Imagine spouse drives kid. If REALLY HEAVY POUR , she would beg her spouse to fetch her son and she has to take public transport home
6) hubby sleeps in study room cause he proclaims that he is light sleeper. But he always locks his room. Watching drama and turns on aircon till next morning
NEVER ALLOWED KID N HER TO TURN LN AIRCON. Proclaiming that it would consume more energy.
7) super self-centred hubby & micromanaging my friend cause he never allowed her to go out with any friends. Even bringing her son along also NO. However he is able to go out to meet friends anytime. There was since she went out for a few hrs , he texted him nasty texts.
8) hubby wanted to have kid cause house was quiet. But when kid was born , spouse complains kid is noisy and never wanted to eat with family at the same table. Cannot stand son to be alone with him at home .
9) she doesn know her hubby salary. Best part is hubby could access her singpass and see how much she is earning .
10 ) hubby is not treating her well. And giving her not just mental but also financial stress.
11) hubby never did housechores. After eating n drinking would leave drinking cups n plates ... utensils unwashed.
12) never fold blanket everything in a messy and waiting for my friend to do
13) hubby always reaches home early but never bother just to cook rice and waiting for my friend to reach home after fetching son from student care.
14) never brought son to anywhere . Cause he said waste money . Very stingy n lazy man.
15) seldom speaks to hubby at home unless talk about things like "what's for dinner, what time she is cooking for meals and so on.."


She could not work full time cause all her work required her to bring work home. She couldn handle the work at home cause hubby refuses to take care of son .

I shared the above with my mil cause my late fil was also a self-centred person. MIL said friend doesn work that is why hubby shows no respect to her. Moreover her parents all passed away. He knew she has no money n no place to go therefore hubby always欺负她。hubby has no affair....She is holding on to the marriage cause she wants to give son a proper home. She said once kid is an adult she would divorce her hubby. She knows hubby only wants her to take care of him when he is unwell , old n sick. I told her...end of the day son would be closed to her instead of her hubby. She invests her time n love for her son , son would know n feel it. Eventually, son would only care n love her when she is old

* Friend's hubby has a degree and works in a MOE school in IT dep for at least 15 years

Wah.. what a lousy husband..
I think he might have woman outside..
Either that or he is just a grumpy stingy old man..

 

[Spike]

Regardless what you do, stage of life, age or social status, the grass is always greener on the other side.