Are you attracted to your wifey first time you met her?

dereth

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Warning: long tale ahead...

Our story began back in poly, and it was anything but love at first sight.

She once told me she found me cold and unapproachable - something about my small eyes and rarely smiling face. A bit stuck up. As for me, I thought she gave off major 御姐 vibe - strong, confident, and honestly... not my type then. I’ve always found 大姐 types kind of intimidating, even though she’s actually two years younger than me. She is pretty though.

Let’s call her C.

At the time, my friend BS had a crush on C’s classmate E, who was also in the school choir with C. One day after school in late 1997, during the Christmas carolling season, he dragged me down to Orchard Somerset to watch them perform.

That was when the four of us - BS, E, C, and I - were introduced to one another for the first time.

BS later reminded me that C had been the faculty singing competition champion earlier that year. That struck a chord: Ohhh, that’s the girl who sang “Colors of the Wind” and absolutely crushed the rest of the competition! I was impressed.

From there, the four of us started hanging out as a study group.

Well, eventually… E took a liking to me instead of BS, and we dated briefly - just over a month. Turns out we had far less in common than we initially thought, and we parted ways amicably. We still hung out together as a group afterward, but understandably, BS was a little bitter that his “dream girl” dated me instead. That did put a bit of a strain on our friendship. (In retrospect, I don't regret it - He's a manipulative gaslighter.)

Meanwhile, C was going through a messy breakup with a toxic ex who kept trying to win her back. Around that time, we started chatting more - face-to-face during the day, and over IRC/ICQ late into the night. We discovered a ton of shared interests: anime, gaming, Mando and Cantopop… The connection grew naturally.

Still, we were “just friends,” but definitely closer.

Then came Valentine’s Day, 1998. We were planning to hang out in a big group - at least 12 or 15 - including three of C’s suitors. One was her classmate (who’s still a close friend of hers today), another was a policeman, and I honestly can’t remember the third. She wasn’t into any of them, I later found out.

The plan was to meet at Takashimaya for dinner, chill at Taka Square, and hit the club afterwards. BS had also planned to confess to E that day, and C wasn’t particularly in the mood to deal with her own lineup of admirers. So at some point in the evening, C and I quietly slipped away from the group and wandered around Cold Storage, talking about our past relationships, consoling each other about the recent breakups, and how nervous she is about her upcoming audition with a talent agency in Taiwan.

Something felt… different there and then. Couldn't quite put my finger on it.

I don’t remember whether we ended up at St James or Canto with the gang, but I do remember downing a few vodka mixers and dancing the whole night away - with her. Afterward, we stopped by a 7-Eleven for some bottled water before hopping into a cab - C and me in the back, with the policeman suitor up front.

I was the first to get off. As I was about to leave, I surprised myself - I pulled her gently toward me, kissed her on the cheek, and whispered, “Happy Valentine’s Day.”

We didn’t speak for a week after that.

Then, one day, the familiar "Uh Oh!" pinged from ICQ...

“D, I think we need to talk.”

And talk we did. 24 February 1998 became our new beginning.

Almost 3 decades later, it still amazes me how everything unfolded - not through grand gestures or sweeping romance, but through quiet moments, shared interests, and honest conversations.

We weren’t each other’s type at first. We had our own entanglements, our own uncertainties. But somewhere between late-night chats on ICQ and that Valentine’s night fiasco, something shifted. It wasn’t planned. It wasn’t dramatic. It just… felt right.

Since then, life has moved on - we’ve grown up, weathered storms, celebrated wins, and built something steady and real. We still laugh about that awkward peck on the cheek and the week of radio silence that followed. But that moment marked the start of something lasting.

Funny how the heart sometimes takes the scenic route.

Happy (many) Valentine’s Days later, Lao Por.
 

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Yes, I first saw her in a lecture theatre. I sat at the back with my buddy. He noticed her first. She was always searching for a seat at the front row. My buddy called her "the look". Because she was very pretty and stood out. I started looking out for "the look" every day. She was very pretty. Slim. Put on make up. Very womanly behaviour, unlike the other students.

When I went for computer lessons, to my pleasant surprise, "the look" sat besides me. I thought I struck lottery! It turned out her surname was very close to mine. Hence she was next to me.

I perspired like mad during computer lessons. Bec she was so damn hot. Kept wiping my sweat with my handkerchief. So embarrassing. She remembered me as the funny guy that kept wiping his sweat.

Soon i got to know "the look". Her bimbo persona drew me in. Always blur. Very womanly. Chatty. Unopinionated. The kind I like. Met her along the corridors often. She always had something to talk to me each time. Told me she did not understand the lecture, asked me if I did. She was more keen to talk to me, than I was to her.

When we had time, we would talk longer. I called her at her hostel, we would talk for 2-3hrs each time. Till today, after marrying her for 25 years, we still have endless things to talk to each other.

I know exactly how you feel, bro. When you’ve found the right person, you just know.

My wife and I have been together for 27 years, and we still have endless things to talk about. One time, a younger female coworker asked her, “Wah, two people stay together so long not boring meh?”

She told her, without missing a beat, that conversations with me are never dull, and that I’m still the most interesting person she’s ever met - someone who never fails to make her laugh.

I felt paiseh when she came home and told me that… hehehe...

But honestly? I agree. 😉
 

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I recall mine was neutral but wife had bad impression of me during first meetup. We were colleagues from diff dept but kenna arrowed to do eca,cca stuffs. Felt I was stuck up.
Haha bad impression. Mine is first meet up she dun even dare to look at me cos she says I look very fierce like ah long. 😂
 

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Nope.... First met her at the pre orientation camp meet up, I was a freshie and she one of the group leaders... Granted have a specky fetish so gave her a second glance but as the meeting progressed... Found her sooooo boring... Could have sworn she didn't say anything in the group beyond introducing herself.

So fast forward past the actual camp and 1 year later... With almost zero interaction with her since not at all interested in her... Then came the day, was planning to buy a present for someone in the OG and 4 of us, including her, went out to buy the pressie... Since 2 were a couple, I sorta hanged out with her to avoid being too much of a light bulb...

Me, being the annoying person I am, warmed up and started to tease her more and more.... Surprisingly, she managed to rebutt me and proved to be just as snarky and glib in her responses... That's when I realized my first impression was quite far off the mark... :s13:
 

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It's true....
First time when I met her, very cute
In fact, cutest girl I have seen, even till now

Tackle her because her tiny waist and wide hips in shorts caught my attention
Set my target when she sat cross legged with her thunder thighs

Don't know why she rarely wears shorts now
Nevertheless I'm blessed
 

PikaPika33

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if she say attracted to your buibui pot belly love at firzt sight meanz what

:(
 

champion09

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BBFAs can choose meh? Got GILF pick them already laugh le. Else will you be attracted to hand?
 

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For me is no. First time met her find her very auntie looking. Chop chop eat finish dump her and go home myself. But as times goes by find her more and more attractive. What about you guys? 🤔
First time I meet my wife, I already steam
 

Laneige

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For me is no. First time met her find her very auntie looking. Chop chop eat finish dump her and go home myself. But as times goes by find her more and more attractive. What about you guys? 🤔
whats yr wife number?
 
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