Woman shocked after BF asked her to pay for his mum’s birthday dinner

[Hello_Kitty]

why reddit always got stories asking for opinions???

 

[xllms]

Woman also need to impress the man.

It is not a one way street.

Throw face is when men do everything for woman.

Carry their handbag, buy things for them, do all the heavy lifting during XYZ moments etc

They will never treasure you other than your assets

i believe in equality as well, but going for expensive dinner and expect partner to share bill without prior discussion, shows the character of the person.
one needs to establish clear principles when become couple. eg. own parents ownself manage, if need help, bring up to discuss.

 

[parchiao]

i believe in equality as well, but going for expensive dinner and expect partner to share bill without prior discussion, shows the character of the person.

Like as if is the man's fault.

You already assume the woman made full disclosure.

Sinkie men must always protect themselves from gold diggers.

If the women ownself not up to it, should settle for their unwanted 80%

 

[the_dog]

still better than wimmin who bring their 姐妹 along for dinner to "test the bf's generosity" and think that the bf should pay to be "gentlemanly"

 

[eAtNeAt]

No reason to ask her to split.

 

[wutawa]

Split bill or not is secondary. Should have ask her to share bill when inviting her, not on actual day then ask.

 

[begintoend]

Split bill or not is secondary. Should have ask her to share bill when inviting her, not on actual day then ask.

True...
But I guess her concern was not that.

 

[Medicated Oil]

I can only say that the gal also not smart enough.
Go out with the guy for 2 years and still dun make any effort to know his family well.
How to marry the guy ?
She is just asking for trouble.

I am not blaming the gal.
Just that she need to find out what kind of in-laws that she will be having.

 

[kan-kon]

kay, den wat his part of story, if no csb?

 

[hwsstx]

Obviously she's a AMDL who doesn't understand SG's culture...else why she so mystified about the situation.

 

[Tloslm]

It's actually a Test

 

[xllms]

Like as if is the man's fault.

You already assume the woman made full disclosure.

Sinkie men must always protect themselves from gold diggers.

If the women ownself not up to it, should settle for their unwanted 80%

it just shows the man's 格局
no right or wrong but 做得beh swee loh

want to test your partner, do it without third party. 留点后路

 

[xllms]

I can only say that the gal also not smart enough.
Go out with the guy for 2 years and still dun make any effort to know his family well.
How to marry the guy ?
She is just asking for trouble.

I am not blaming the gal.
Just that she need to find out what kind of in-laws that she will be having.

u r not incorrect. She is not smart to find out more about the guy's family earlier and not knowing the guy better.

 

[Medicated Oil]

u r not incorrect. She is not smart to find out more about the guy's family earlier and not knowing the guy better.

She will have a lot of fun when it comes to the wedding preparation if she accept the marriage proposal.

 

[xllms]

She will have a lot of fun when it comes to the wedding preparation if she accept the marriage proposal.

its better to find out one's chao kuan b4 marriage than after

 

[Medicated Oil]

its better to find out one's chao kuan b4 marriage than after

Some things for the lady to learn herself.
Cannot teach if she is not bright.

 

[iosnewbie]

Discussing marriage and she only met the parents once? Is this the norm nowadays? Like that future in-laws are like NPC/路人甲.

 

[Bui Kia]

SINGAPORE: A woman took to social media to express her disbelief after her boyfriend asked her to pay for his mum’s birthday dinner.


Sharing the story on the r/askSingapore subreddit, she explained that although she and her boyfriend have been together for two years and are already discussing marriage, she has only met his Singaporean Chinese parents once and is far from being close to them.

According to her, his mum had extended multiple invitations for her to join family dinners at their home, but she always declined, as she “did not want to set up a precedent of going over too often”.


This time, however, she agreed. Her boyfriend invited her to the birthday celebration, his mum chose the restaurant, and the woman even went the extra mile. She discreetly purchased a thoughtful gift after asking her boyfriend what his mum might like.

And then came the shocker. At the dinner, her boyfriend abruptly informed her that they should just “split the bill” instead of presenting a gift. To her, this was utterly baffling.

“In my opinion, it’s pretty weird to ask your SO to chip in for your parent’s birthday celebration especially when invited,” she said. “[For me], it’s enough to just buy a small gift for the parent (nice gesture but not necessary) but no need to offer to pay.”

She then asked other Singaporeans in the forum whether this is “considered the norm” in the country. “I wanted to know whether this was the norm and what the thought process behind this was.”

BBFA normally offer to pay for the girl/woman for anything .... but get rejected ...
so this news should be fake

 

[xllms]

Some things for the lady to learn herself.
Cannot teach if she is not bright.

yes, applies to everyone. in cantonese, 唔够醒目.
takes alot to 开窍 and some people just lack such sensitivities. when this happens, no need to continue discussion cos its 鸡同鸭讲

 

[Seansg]

The guy is just... cheap

No money or ngiao lan please dun get into a relationship.

Woman if she still have alittle bit of a brain to break off may had just dodge a bullet