Educated ladies: “If the guy cannot add value to my life, why should I marry him?”

[Encouragesome1]

$20 twenty years ago is worth $35 now....
Is a mid tier meal. I wouldn't call it insignificant, especially if going every week.

Means he not stingy that’s why now hv kid hv wifey.. too stingy one bukeyi

 

[Encouragesome1]

Lao auntie me, is cannot forgive and cannot forget deh.

If can forgive can forget it’s good… can forgive can’t forget it’s a lesson

 

[Encouragesome1]

Shoot back the reverse:

If that lady cannot add value to my life, why should I marry her?

Age old question ba

 

[Encouragesome1]

Hope their father teach them what is accountability

Yes it’s reciprocity and manners 礼尚往来
有来无往非礼也

and dont accept expensive gifts from ppl.

My days, my parents teach me these. I will automatically rejects gifts from ppl but guys rarely have this chance. When u accepts expensive gifts from ppl, p will expect something back in return

吃人口软
拿人手短

 

[doratch]

If can forgive can forget it’s good… can forgive can’t forget it’s a lesson

Nah.

I can't forgive neither forget but that doesn't mean I am not at peace with myself.

 

[Kia7200]

Yes it’s reciprocity and manners 礼尚往来
有来无往非礼也

吃人口软
拿人手短

U see the modern sg female behave like u owe them a living

 

[Notbbfa]

if marry with the aim of having children
best to avoid getting pregnant near 30 yo, its COMPLICATED and DANGEROUS
date females below 26 years old, preferably smart, open to discussion (obedient) type

smart as in able to let go of ownself and put family interests in the 1st spot. smart not to get in the way

too young females also may not want to settle down yet, and likely still immature

 

[Notbbfa]

Regardless of gender, people don't marry each other due to value. That shouldn't be the priority. They marry for companionship so when they grow old, they will be with people, a family to remember them.

Young adults nowdays only think about the present and not the future. Sure, the benefits of not marrying or not have children is that you can spend time and money only for yourself. However, the consequences for it is that when you old, you be alone.. The scary part is that when your Earth time is up, people only going to find your body many weeks later in your house.

What I advice for singles who really don't want to get married at all is to find a best friend at least. If not best friends, form alot of close connections. People who visit each other regularly to keep check when you're old.

children will also eventually leave the nest. it is not 100% guarantee children will like their parents back and vice versa. not 100% everyone will get along well and family relations will be positive

I think spouse is still more important than children. The sad thing is one party will be left behind

 

[Ec7171]

a video that focus on falling marriage rates.

It shared everything that has happened in SG for years. as i said before , it is not a problem jus in SG.

While education has help many women , it is also the cause of falling marriage rates.

 

[Wanderer123]

Over the course of dating educated sg ladies, there is a common notion among most of them. They will not marry the guy if they assess he cannot add value to their lives.

Our parents generation and before had never have this transactional mindset.

Women now have equal or even better opportunities than men in sg. They earn good salaries, travel, buy properties, gym, eat at fancy restaurants etc. The bar is set high. To add the value that they keep talking about, the guy must at least be able to maintain both parties lifestyles. Double expenses.

The ladies also keep mentioning they don’t wanna be dragged down by the guy if he cannot keep up with their lifestyles.

No wonder sg marriage and birth rates are rapidly declining.

Men do not have this notion. This is unique to educated sg ladies in their 30s onward with good pay.

Can give u a baby wor....

 

[glarerder]

a video that focus on falling marriage rates.

It shared everything that has happened in SG for years. as i said before , it is not a problem jus in SG.

While education has help many women , it is also the cause of falling marriage rates.

Education simply revealed the real reason many women get married. Not for love but for lifestyle upgrade.

 

[Ec7171]

Education simply revealed the real reason many women get married. Not for love but for lifestyle upgrade.

I think the video oso say that women might not "respect" a men whose earning ability is less than her.
Last time we dont have such problem .

 

[glarerder]

I think the video oso say that women might not "respect" a men whose earning ability is less than her.
Last time we dont have such problem .

Maslow hierarchy of needs. Their basic needs are no longer supplied by men. And yes somehow I feel many women think lower income guys are beneath them, probably in the context of dating. Hopefully majority remain respectful to blue collar workers.

 

[SayPorkGuy]

charboh marry has always been due to reasons of economic value. this is nothing new. ppl still want tokcok abt love.

 

[Ec7171]

Maslow hierarchy of needs. Their basic needs are no longer supplied by men. And yes somehow I feel many women think lower income guys are beneath them, probably in the context of dating. Hopefully majority remain respectful to blue collar workers.

i believe everyone despite their income deserves love.
And i think the freedom to love and more options via internet oso cause this problem.

 

[Rodimusprime6113]

Ytd met a super educated lady in her mid 30s from an app. Scholar. Tall but average looking. High flyer and independent.

As time passed, we realized we are not suitable for each other. I prolonged the lunch cos I had nothing to do and just wanted to chat. Could tell she wanted to leave cos she checked her watch few times.

Suddenly, she kept raising her arms to tie her hair. She was wearing short sleeves. Nothing extraordinary. But I realized she kept tying her hair for no apparent reasons until her short sleeve began to slip down as her arms were being raised. Instantly I got the hint. I saw clear and black stubbles. At least three days never shaved. Once she saw that I saw, she stopped her hair tying act. I got the cue and asked for the bill. What a clever and subtle way to end a date!

 

[mewmew]

I think the video oso say that women might not "respect" a men whose earning ability is less than her.
Last time we dont have such problem .

see the subtle difference between giving power to the wrong group

 

[English Teacher]

If a married DINK husband lost his job and the wife want to divorce him because of it:

is it the guy CMI or is a blessing in disguise for the guy?

 

[K20A]

Maslow hierarchy of needs. Their basic needs are no longer supplied by men. And yes somehow I feel many women think lower income guys are beneath them, probably in the context of dating. Hopefully majority remain respectful to blue collar workers.

Let nature takes it course. Those without qualities yet with "unrealistic" expectations will find out eventually.

 

[Jude Raphael]

35 pages and still going strong..

It is interesting how as a guy, I would have no qualms blaming my single-hood on:

1. Gender equality. In fact, equality seems like a bad word now. The roles have been reversed as I am now deprived of my " God given" rights and air of superiority that were once enjoyed by my father and grandfather.

2. Women who are more academically inclined than me. In the first place, why allow women to be educated?!
My granny wasn't and the same applied for her mummy. Things were great for the men back then!
As a man, I forbid that a woman be academically inclined! Education makes a woman "dumb" for snubbing me. Education is the root of all the "evil" committed by women. Men should remain the educated beings and retain the right to choose from all the other hillbillies.. Women belong to the kitchen and raising the children only. Period.

3. K-dramas, resulting in "unrealistic" expectations on the physical appearance of a man. As a man, I have every right to dress sloppily, looking unkempt and with a belly obstructing my view. HEY, I will not accept a woman who looks like my mirror reflection.

4. Women for being picky. Hey, am I not the one who gets to pick and choose only?

5. Women for not knowing their place in the whole "food" chain and that is right at the bottom.

6. Dwelling on the good 'ol days when men had it easier.

7. Respect is a given to men. I do not need to earn this respect.