anyone regretted marry your wife?

[longshooter]

OK my story.. I try to be as brief as possible

been a year and we seldom communicate or COLD WAR.

My work lesser pressure , most of the time reach home on the dot.
Due to her work, most of the time she work till very late 10 to 11pm.
Most of the time I will ask her what do you want to eat as I hate her eating instant noodles etc. Not healthy.
After eating will continue to work.

We only have time together when we play with our pet ( 5 to 10mins ) . Sleeping timing also not together as she is still working on her laptop. That includes the weekend. We only go out and have dinner with her family on one of her weekends. Then no paktor etc , citing her work commitments.

Quarrels as usual but very cold since a year ago. One day ( nothing happened ) she moved out, doesn't answer any of my calls , selectively answer my text messages. After she left the first 2 weeks is the worst thing that happened to me, now I'm OK. Now, she is away for almost 2 months.

Financiallly we're ok

I'm not to sure what to do now also. I'm waiting for her to file or am I waiting for her to calm down and to settle the difference. (un)Luckily we have no baby.

her work is busy, try to understand that? if not you have to be honest with her if she wants this marriage.

what leads to the quarrel?

 

[ApPle5]

1. You learn to be more selfless when you get married. It's no longer about you, you and you.

It's about your wife, your child, her family, your family.

2. You learn to be more responsible. Consequences will be real and will be jialat if you have weak willpower and go visit cheekon or have affairs.

Not only financially, also affects your child's or children's future.

3. You learn to understand more of your wife, a member of the opposite sex, how her emotiions and hormones can affect your life, and you learn to man up and handle it.

4. You learn about compromise, integrity of sticking to your vows, resisting temptation, you learn about unconditionally loving a child you helped bring into this world, how your words and behavior will shape this little person somehow.

Basically, you learn to grow up.

You'll only regret if you found out that your spouse married you for reasons other than love.

Qft

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[derazor]

Wah, this is just a bit @_@;;; Feels like her career comes first before the marriage. If both parties are like that, it might work, but clearly you care a bit more about the r/s than she does.

I spoke to her family. Her family understands about this, not healthy in the long run. Advise her to quit her job. I ask her to quit too but I guess this is the breakthrough that she needs as last time she always kena bully by Boss.

I didn't really support her because it' affecting her health and also our r/s.

After thinking about it NOW, I could have at least supported her *unwillingly*

 

[FinalTidus]

I see all these sad stories from fellow loser EDMW bros and their hopeless marriages here I feel very depressed for them.

But at the same time, their wives are selected by them mah. Not say forced into marriage by gunpoint. So fault is still entirely theirs. So must be prepared to face the consequences of marriage like a man.

As for me, I am happily attached with a wonderful gf. But then of cos this happiness might not last also... So I just want to treasure every happy moment with my dear.

Just live for the present.

Cheers guys. Hope u guys can sort out your broken marriages fast.

 

[Impz82]

sounds to me like the F is using work as an escape route rather than facing the problem?

You might be right. Escapism through work.

Honestly, have to get her to start talking if she is still keen in this marriage or not. No point wasting each other's time really.

 

[derazor]

What? She just left like that? No words from her? What kind of sh!t is this!

You should just face up and ask her directly and include her family if need be, to get an answer. Where got just leave and don't say anything.

She just expect u to know what is going on? Can't stand this type of sh!t with no proper explanation. I feel sad and angry for you.

Yeah she explained to me la after a week. mostly is communication/quarrel etc, family said give her a few months time to cool down.

I'm OK now to discuss anything with her....

 

[adrianwang74]

OK my story.. I try to be as brief as possible

been a year and we seldom communicate or COLD WAR.

My work lesser pressure , most of the time reach home on the dot.
Due to her work, most of the time she work till very late 10 to 11pm.
Most of the time I will ask her what do you want to eat as I hate her eating instant noodles etc. Not healthy.
After eating will continue to work.

We only have time together when we play with our pet ( 5 to 10mins ) . Sleeping timing also not together as she is still working on her laptop. That includes the weekend. We only go out and have dinner with her family on one of her weekends. Then no paktor etc , citing her work commitments.

Quarrels as usual but very cold since a year ago. One day ( nothing happened ) she moved out, doesn't answer any of my calls , selectively answer my text messages. After she left the first 2 weeks is the worst thing that happened to me, now I'm OK. Now, she is away for almost 2 months.

Financiallly we're ok

I'm not to sure what to do now also. I'm waiting for her to file or am I waiting for her to calm down and to settle the difference. (un)Luckily we have no baby.

wah... u got talk to her boh ?.. how come she needs to work so much ?.

 

[Bertrand Traore]

If guy value both career and r/s, but will have to work alot of OTs due to work commitments, will it be a big issue in the future? Although alot of work commitments but the rest of the time is only for family and resting

 

[tiffunny]

fen shou kuai le..zhu ni kuai le..ni ke yi zhao dao geng hao de.

 

[KingKenny]

OK my story.. I try to be as brief as possible

been a year and we seldom communicate or COLD WAR.

My work lesser pressure , most of the time reach home on the dot.
Due to her work, most of the time she work till very late 10 to 11pm.
Most of the time I will ask her what do you want to eat as I hate her eating instant noodles etc. Not healthy.
After eating will continue to work.

We only have time together when we play with our pet ( 5 to 10mins ) . Sleeping timing also not together as she is still working on her laptop. That includes the weekend. We only go out and have dinner with her family on one of her weekends. Then no paktor etc , citing her work commitments.

Quarrels as usual but very cold since a year ago. One day ( nothing happened ) she moved out, doesn't answer any of my calls , selectively answer my text messages. After she left the first 2 weeks is the worst thing that happened to me, now I'm OK. Now, she is away for almost 2 months.

Financiallly we're ok

I'm not to sure what to do now also. I'm waiting for her to file or am I waiting for her to calm down and to settle the difference. (un)Luckily we have no baby.

ugh, that suck...
I guess u have to settle this peacefully & logically by asking her serious questions, if she still avoid u probably she wants it to be a slient breakup kind of situation ..
Hope u resolve your matter soon bro !

 

[derazor]

You might be right. Escapism through work.

Honestly, have to get her to start talking if she is still keen in this marriage or not. No point wasting each other's time really.

Yeah escape from "reality" at home. Most likely I'd ask counsellor to call her.
I'm not sure if there's anything else I can do.

 

[derazor]

wah... u got talk to her boh ?.. how come she needs to work so much ?.

Come home so late. Heat up food for her. Play with Pet. I also tired . I go inside read my book and sleep soon after. She still outside.

 

[derazor]

ugh, that suck...
I guess u have to settle this peacefully & logically by asking her serious questions, if she still avoid u probably she wants it to be a slient breakup kind of situation ..
Hope u resolve your matter soon bro !

I think there's no silent breakup. I will try my best to talk to her , else file. Don't waste OUR time.

 

[longshooter]

Yeah escape from "reality" at home. Most likely I'd ask counsellor to call her.
I'm not sure if there's anything else I can do.

what leads to the quarrel?

 

[mwmwmw]

Yeah she explained to me la after a week. mostly is communication/quarrel etc, family said give her a few months time to cool down.

I'm OK now to discuss anything with her....

not bad bro. at least her family is trying to help u, whether they are on your side i dunno.

y dont u ask her for a face to face?

 

[Bertrand Traore]

Come home so late. Heat up food for her. Play with Pet. I also tired . I go inside read my book and sleep soon after. She still outside.

Got one way but not really healthy in the long run.

U go home, eat, sleep, wake at her normal come home hours so u feel more refreshed to accompany her thru the night (probably at most until 2am?) no need to purposely talk to her that may irritate her when she doing work, but maybe just do ur own things and sleep tgt when she wan to sleep? At least show u are there for her?

 

[Impz82]

I spoke to her family. Her family understands about this, not healthy in the long run. Advise her to quit her job. I ask her to quit too but I guess this is the breakthrough that she needs as last time she always kena bully by Boss.

I didn't really support her because it' affecting her health and also our r/s.

After thinking about it NOW, I could have at least supported her *unwillingly*

My wife previously worked on weekends, and it was genuinely affecting the r/s because we had little time to spend with each other. Lasted for a year before I pretty much used my in-laws to gang up on her, and force her to quit.

As her work can be quite manual, I also have to help during my rest days, which caused me to be quite tired too.

 

[Sango123]

OK my story.. I try to be as brief as possible

been a year and we seldom communicate or COLD WAR.

My work lesser pressure , most of the time reach home on the dot.
Due to her work, most of the time she work till very late 10 to 11pm.
Most of the time I will ask her what do you want to eat as I hate her eating instant noodles etc. Not healthy.
After eating will continue to work.

We only have time together when we play with our pet ( 5 to 10mins ) . Sleeping timing also not together as she is still working on her laptop. That includes the weekend. We only go out and have dinner with her family on one of her weekends. Then no paktor etc , citing her work commitments.

Quarrels as usual but very cold since a year ago. One day ( nothing happened ) she moved out, doesn't answer any of my calls , selectively answer my text messages. After she left the first 2 weeks is the worst thing that happened to me, now I'm OK. Now, she is away for almost 2 months.

Financiallly we're ok

I'm not to sure what to do now also. I'm waiting for her to file or am I waiting for her to calm down and to settle the difference. (un)Luckily we have no baby.

Wah, all the best to you. I hope you can work out something soon. This moving out is quite extreme and definitely a critical blow to anyone who still cares about the relationship

 

[wei6464]

plus one.....

 

[Bertrand Traore]

My wife previously worked on weekends, and it was genuinely affecting the r/s because we had little time to spend with each other. Lasted for a year before I pretty much used my in-laws to gang up on her, and force her to quit.

As her work can be quite manual, I also have to help during my rest days, which caused me to be quite tired too.

Now, what if its the guy having to work on weekends etc