“I called the police on my Kpod-abusing son”: A Singaporean mum’s harrowing experience

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For almost a year, a mother had to cope with her son’s addiction to Kpods. His addiction to Kpods got to a point where he even hit her once. She’s now helping him through his rehabilitation journey.

 
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Mummy should be most painful liao

See u born
Feed u
Bath u
Carry u
Endless sleep night .

Then see u hit her
Scold her
Shout at her..


Haiz
 

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addiction isnt just all fault on the addict

the environment for which pushed the addict towards the escape mechanism, is also a huge contributor too

be it exam stress. bully. bad parenting. etc etc

previously we simply raised bars to obtain drugs, hence addiction was not commonly seen on the streets

but when the etomidate vapes become so easy to procure, the rampant zombie vapers are just evidence to how stressful the singapore environment is for youngsters...

sure, boomers can write off this as the strawberry generation. but... haha... you guys also had the drug war in 1980s...

let's make Singapore a healthier place to live in. bans wont be efficient if other push factors remain...

the mum is important too... i wonder why her son chose etomidate
 

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parenting for ordinary plebs is a thankless task of 20 years, that's how things are,

unless u really invest in a human ... he can go astray too easily
once another human is involve, you can nv tell what will go wrong. ppl change, for the better or worse...and it goes both ways, ownself and others
 

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addiction isnt just all fault on the addict

the environment for which pushed the addict towards the escape mechanism, is also a huge contributor too

be it exam stress. bully. bad parenting. etc etc

previously we simply raised bars to obtain drugs, hence addiction was not commonly seen on the streets

but when the etomidate vapes become so easy to procure, the rampant zombie vapers are just evidence to how stressful the singapore environment is for youngsters...

sure, boomers can write off this as the strawberry generation. but... haha... you guys also had the drug war in 1980s...

let's make Singapore a healthier place to live in. bans wont be efficient if other push factors remain...

the mum is important too... i wonder why her son chose etomidate

Not drug war, we had glue sniffing back then.
 

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‘I need him to apologise,’ says mum whose son attacked her while high on Kpods​

For almost a year, a mother had to cope with her son’s addiction to Kpods. His Kpod problem got to a point where he even hit her on one occasion. She’s now helping him through his rehabilitation journey.

Rose said her son’s medical bills came up to more than $8,000, which MediSave and MediShield Life covered.

Rose said her son Ben’s medical bills came up to more than $8,000, which MediSave and MediShield Life covered.
ST PHOTO: SHINTARO TAY

Summary
  • Rose's son, Ben, became addicted to etomidate-laced vapes, leading to violence and a strained relationship. She sought a PPO after a physical altercation in November 2024.
  • Ben's addiction caused health issues and a suicide attempt. Rose's efforts to get him help, coupled with stricter laws, led to rehab. Etomidate was reclassified as a Class C drug on Sept 1.
  • Ben is now in recovery, attending counselling and support groups. While Rose is relieved, she awaits his apology for his actions; Ben plans to apologise upon full recovery.
SINGAPORE – She was close to her only child, a 27-year-old son, but his addiction to etomidate-laced vaporisers, or Kpods, damaged the relationship.

It got to a point where her son physically hurt her once when he was high and struggled with withdrawal.

Rose (not her real name), 56, then applied for a personal protection order against Ben (not his real name) because as a single parent with little family support, she was fearful that he would hurt her badly.

At the height of his addiction, Ben was using up to three pods a day.

In November 2024, he attempted to harm himself by climbing out of the window in the living room of their HDB flat, which is on a high floor. When his mother tried to stop him, he yelled at her, choked her and slammed her head against a wall.

Rose had to call the police on him for this and another incident.

After his second arrest, Ben was admitted to the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) for suicide ideation, and stayed there for two weeks.

It was then that he decided to undergo rehabilitation.

He was discharged on Sept 3, 2025.

Speaking to The Sunday Times at her home in Telok Blangah on Oct 1, Rose said she first learnt Ben was using Kpods in October 2024.

“I noticed he wasn’t behaving normally. He was shaking, talking nonsense and smiling. I didn’t know what the problem was, but I suspected it was drug-related,” she said.

Helplines​

Mental well-being​

  • National helpline: 1771 (24 hours) / 6669-1771 (via WhatsApp)
  • Samaritans of Singapore: 1-767 (24 hours) / 9151-1767 (24 hours CareText via WhatsApp)
  • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019
  • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928
  • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1
  • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm)
  • The Seniors Helpline: 1800-555-5555 (weekdays, 9am to 5pm)
  • Tinkle Friend (for primary school-age children): 1800-2744-788

Counselling​

  • Touchline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252
  • Touch Care Line (for caregivers): 6804-6555
  • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366
  • We Care Community Services: 3165-8017
  • Shan You Counselling Centre: 6741-9293
  • Clarity Singapore: 6757-7990

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Rose later found out that her nephew’s girlfriend had introduced Kpods to Ben, who began using the drug to manage the stress he was experiencing while working at a bubble tea shop.

“That was when all hell broke loose for me. I saw how he behaved through the CCTV in my house. He couldn’t stand properly, he lost control of his (bowels), and he wouldn’t answer when I spoke to him.”

Ben also started losing his hair, lost a lot of weight, and developed acne-like bumps on his face and legs.

On Nov 19 that year, Rose confronted Ben about his Kpod use.

Agitated, Ben dashed towards their living room window and tried to jump, but Rose pulled him back. He then slammed her head against a wall. She showed ST the CCTV footage of the incident.

As the scuffle continued outside their home, Rose pleaded for her neighbours to call the police. Ben was arrested that evening.

After she bailed him out, she lived in fear the following days and months.

“I had to hide my wallet in case he stole my money to buy Kpods. I had to lock myself in my room. After two or three months, I decided to apply for a personal protection order against him,” said Rose, who is currently between jobs.

After the incident, Ben tried to quit his addiction, but relapsed several times.



Things came to a head again on July 31, 2025, when Rose confiscated Ben’s vape and locked him out of the flat, hoping it would help him sober up.

High on Kpods, Ben climbed the parapet outside the flat and tried to enter through the window when he realised he had been locked out.

Rose called the police again.

She said: “I felt hopeless because (it seemed like) no authority could help me. When I saw that etomidate would be reclassified as a Class C drug after his second arrest, I saw a glimpse of hope.

“I told myself, this is it. This is the only chance I have to save my son. I had to be firm when he was arrested and not let him come home. When he agreed to go for rehab, I was overjoyed.”

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Rose was close to her only child, Ben, but his addiction to etomidate-laced vaporisers, or Kpods, damaged the relationship. ST PHOTO: SHINTARO TAY

On Aug 17, Prime Minister Lawrence Wong announced during his National Day Rally speech that the Government would treat vaping as a drug issue.

On Sept 1, etomidate was classified as a Class C drug under the Misuse of Drugs Act. Harsher punishments for Kpod abusers have also been introduced.

First-time Kpod abusers under 18 will be fined $500, while those above 18 will be fined $700. They will also be required to attend rehabilitation for up to six months.

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Rehabilitation​

Ben was arrested and admitted to IMH for two weeks, as Rose did not want him to be discharged unless he was clean.

It was during this time that Ben finally agreed to get help at the National Addictions Management Service (Nams), a facility inside IMH that provides treatment and support for people with addictions.

He told ST: “I wanted to go to rehab because I wanted my life back. I wanted to be able to earn money, and spend that money on things that I need or want, not things that would hurt my health.”

During his three-week stay at Nams, Ben had counselling sessions and attended programmes teaching him to manage his addiction and regulate his emotions.

He also attended support groups where he heard others share their experience with addiction, and participated in activities including gardening, sports, and art and craft.

After his discharge from Nams, Ben has been attending group sessions at We Care Community Services, an addiction recovery centre. To prevent a relapse, he deleted the Telegram app from his phone and has cut off contact with his friends who use Kpods.

He said: “Now that I am discharged and away from Kpods, I am happy. I don’t keep track of the days (I am clean), I take it one day at a time.”

Rose said her son’s medical bills came up to more than $8,000, which MediSave and MediShield Life covered.

Senior consultant psychiatrist Munidasa Winslow from Promises Healthcare made a distinction between recovery and abstinence.

“People tend to think that they’re not really addicted, and they can stop any time they want to.

“With vapes, a lot of it is behavioural monitoring, which is learning to change your behaviours, and learning alternative behaviours when you have a craving,” he said.

“Recovery is an active process, where you’re thinking about why you’re doing (Kpods), and what are the alternatives (to it). People can choose to abstain from things like drugs and alcohol, but if they do not address the issues in their life which cause them to use, they are likely to go back.”

About a month after harsher penalties against vaping kicked in, the Ministry of Health and the Health Sciences Authority said 39 people who were caught for using etomidate e-vaporisers had started or were beginning their rehabilitation at IMH or social service agencies.

Those ordered to go for mandatory rehabilitation have to attend weekly individual counselling and group support sessions, and take medical tests at Nams.

IMH received over 60 inquiries about its vaping cessation programme within 13 days of the announcement of stricter penalties on Aug 28. This is triple the number of inquiries it received between July 1 and Aug 27.

There are currently five agencies under the Government’s QuitVape programme: IMH, We Care Community Services, Singapore Anti-Narcotics Association, Thye Hua Kwan Moral Charities and Fei Yue Community Services.



Rose said her son’s Kpod addiction has also taken a toll on her mental health, and she was forced to quit her secretary job at a hospital.

Although she is relieved that Ben is in recovery, Rose said she has not forgiven him for what he did, as he has yet to apologise.

“I need him to apologise because it’s very difficult to experience something like that as a mother. I really thought I was going to die (that day when he slammed my head against the wall).

“Other people have told me I am very strong, but I think I was pushed to do what I did. It was a very natural reaction (to save him),” she said.

In response, Ben said he wants to make sure he is fully recovered first: “I want to apologise, but I want to get to a point where I can genuinely say I am sorry for what I did and the trouble I’ve caused.”

He added: “I think the most important thing for me now is to take things one day at a time, and in time I will apologise to her for what I did.”

 

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For almost a year, a mother had to cope with her son’s addiction to Kpods. His addiction to Kpods got to a point where he even hit her once. She’s now helping him through his rehabilitation journey.

Reporting your child or son to the police is the STUPIDEST thing anyone can do
Putting them in PAP'S HANDS is like giving Jews to Nazis thinking they'll help them
 

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Rehabilitation​

Ben was arrested and admitted to IMH for two weeks, as Rose did not want him to be discharged unless he was clean.

It was during this time that Ben finally agreed to get help at the National Addictions Management Service (Nams), a facility inside IMH that provides treatment and support for people with addictions.

He told ST: “I wanted to go to rehab because I wanted my life back. I wanted to be able to earn money, and spend that money on things that I need or want, not things that would hurt my health.”

During his three-week stay at Nams, Ben had counselling sessions and attended programmes teaching him to manage his addiction and regulate his emotions.

He also attended support groups where he heard others share their experience with addiction, and participated in activities including gardening, sports, and art and craft.

After his discharge from Nams, Ben has been attending group sessions at We Care Community Services, an addiction recovery centre. To prevent a relapse, he deleted the Telegram app from his phone and has cut off contact with his friends who use Kpods.

He said: “Now that I am discharged and away from Kpods, I am happy. I don’t keep track of the days (I am clean), I take it one day at a time.”

Rose said her son’s medical bills came up to more than $8,000, which MediSave and MediShield Life covered.

Senior consultant psychiatrist Munidasa Winslow from Promises Healthcare made a distinction between recovery and abstinence.

“People tend to think that they’re not really addicted, and they can stop any time they want to.

“With vapes, a lot of it is behavioural monitoring, which is learning to change your behaviours, and learning alternative behaviours when you have a craving,” he said.

“Recovery is an active process, where you’re thinking about why you’re doing (Kpods), and what are the alternatives (to it). People can choose to abstain from things like drugs and alcohol, but if they do not address the issues in their life which cause them to use, they are likely to go back.”

About a month after harsher penalties against vaping kicked in, the Ministry of Health and the Health Sciences Authority said 39 people who were caught for using etomidate e-vaporisers had started or were beginning their rehabilitation at IMH or social service agencies.

Those ordered to go for mandatory rehabilitation have to attend weekly individual counselling and group support sessions, and take medical tests at Nams.

IMH received over 60 inquiries about its vaping cessation programme within 13 days of the announcement of stricter penalties on Aug 28. This is triple the number of inquiries it received between July 1 and Aug 27.

There are currently five agencies under the Government’s QuitVape programme: IMH, We Care Community Services, Singapore Anti-Narcotics Association, Thye Hua Kwan Moral Charities and Fei Yue Community Services.



Rose said her son’s Kpod addiction has also taken a toll on her mental health, and she was forced to quit her secretary job at a hospital.

Although she is relieved that Ben is in recovery, Rose said she has not forgiven him for what he did, as he has yet to apologise.

“I need him to apologise because it’s very difficult to experience something like that as a mother. I really thought I was going to die (that day when he slammed my head against the wall).

“Other people have told me I am very strong, but I think I was pushed to do what I did. It was a very natural reaction (to save him),” she said.

In response, Ben said he wants to make sure he is fully recovered first: “I want to apologise, but I want to get to a point where I can genuinely say I am sorry for what I did and the trouble I’ve caused.”

He added: “I think the most important thing for me now is to take things one day at a time, and in time I will apologise to her for what I did.”


Stop NTUC from selling income took how long compared to reclassify k pods/vapes as Class C drugs?
 

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addiction isnt just all fault on the addict

the environment for which pushed the addict towards the escape mechanism, is also a huge contributor too

be it exam stress. bully. bad parenting. etc etc

previously we simply raised bars to obtain drugs, hence addiction was not commonly seen on the streets

but when the etomidate vapes become so easy to procure, the rampant zombie vapers are just evidence to how stressful the singapore environment is for youngsters...

sure, boomers can write off this as the strawberry generation. but... haha... you guys also had the drug war in 1980s...

let's make Singapore a healthier place to live in. bans wont be efficient if other push factors remain...

the mum is important too... i wonder why her son chose etomidate

But then those in US uni so relax just smoke weed and look happy. Hmm....
 

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‘I was a Kpod addict’: A vape user’s journey through addiction and rehab​

Ben (not his real name), 27, became addicted to Kpods after his cousin’s girlfriend introduced him to the drug. His addiction caused him to attempt to harm himself and attack his mother. Now in recovery, he spoke to ST about his journey.

Ben (not his real name) was addicted to Kpods and borrowed from licensed moneylenders to feed his habit. He went for rehab in 2025.

Ben (not his real name) was addicted to Kpods and even borrowed from licensed moneylenders to feed his habit. He went for rehabilitation in 2025. ST ILLUSTRATIONS: CEL GULAPA

Chasing the high​

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I started smoking cigarettes at the age of 17. By the time I was 20, I was smoking about one pack a day. In 2018, I started vaping to save money.

Back then, a vape cost about the same as a pack of cigarettes, but it lasted for about a month. I eventually vaped more than I smoked because I didn’t need to leave my house to vape.

In June 2024, my cousin’s girlfriend introduced me to Kpods. She told me: “This thing is stronger than cigarettes.”

I didn’t think much of it, but when I started visiting KTVs and clubs with my cousin, he would share his Kpods with me.

At first, I used it only when I went drinking with him, but later on I started visiting the clubs without him. At the clubs, I met people who were using and selling Kpods, and began buying from them.

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ST ILLUSTRATION: CEL GULAPA

I started using Kpods more frequently – at home and on the way to work at the bubble tea shop.

I was chasing the high that the Kpods brought me.

While at work, I would contact my dealer on Telegram and ask him to deliver the pods to my void deck.

By August 2024, I noticed my addiction was getting worse, partly due to the stress I was facing at work. To prevent others from finding out, I quit my job.

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ST ILLUSTRATION: CEL GULAPA

Things started going downhill from there. I would vape up to three pods a day.

I used up my last pay cheque on Kpods, and borrowed $5,000 from licensed moneylenders and the bank to feed my habit.

Although my mother has helped me to pay off about $4,000, I am still more than $7,000 in debt, after including the interest on the loans.

On Nov 19, 2024, I almost harmed myself while I was high on Kpods.

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My mother, a single parent, clung on to me as I walked towards a window in our HDB living room. I struggled with her and pushed her against the wall. The neighbours intervened and called the police. I was arrested and detained for one night.

I wasn’t thinking much during that period.



Over the next few months, I tried to stay clean, but relapsed several times. In my mind, I wanted to use Kpods, but also sober up. I thought I could have the best of both worlds.

However, from November 2024 to July 2025, I noticed that the time between each relapse was getting shorter and shorter, from four months to two months, and then one month.

The turning point​

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On July 31, 2025, I argued with my mother about my Kpods. She locked me out of the flat, and I tried to enter through the window by climbing over the parapet. We live on a high floor. My mother called the police on me, and I was arrested a second time.

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ST ILLUSTRATION: CEL GULAPA

I was admitted to the Institute of Mental Health (IMH) for two weeks because my mother did not want me back until I kicked my addiction. While in IMH, I thought about my previous attempts to get clean. I did not have any resources and support then, and I wanted to see what rehab had to offer.

I attended the rehabilitation programme at the National Addictions Management Service (Nams), where I stayed for three weeks.

When I called my mother to tell her I wanted to go for rehab, she was overjoyed.

While in rehab, I had counselling and lessons on how to manage my addiction and emotions. In one of the memorable sessions, a counsellor asked me: “Have you had enough of this behaviour?”

His question struck me, and I told myself enough was enough. This addiction was suffocating me. I wanted my life back.



My month-long stay at IMH and Nams cost about $8,000, which was paid with MediSave and MediShield Life.

After I was discharged on Sept 3, I went to support group sessions every weekday at We Care Community Services, an addiction recovery centre.

I deleted Telegram from my phone, and cut off contact with my friends who use Kpods.

I want to earn back my mother’s trust, and be well enough to apologise to her for what I did.

Helplines​

Mental well-being​

  • National helpline: 1771 (24 hours) / 6669-1771 (via WhatsApp)
  • Samaritans of Singapore: 1-767 (24 hours) / 9151-1767 (24 hours CareText via WhatsApp)
  • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019
  • Silver Ribbon Singapore: 6386-1928
  • Chat, Centre of Excellence for Youth Mental Health: 6493-6500/1
  • Women’s Helpline (Aware): 1800-777-5555 (weekdays, 10am to 6pm)
  • The Seniors Helpline: 1800-555-5555 (weekdays, 9am to 5pm)
  • Tinkle Friend (for primary school-age children): 1800-2744-788

Counselling​

  • Touchline (Counselling): 1800-377-2252
  • Touch Care Line (for caregivers): 6804-6555
  • Counselling and Care Centre: 6536-6366
  • We Care Community Services: 3165-8017
  • Shan You Counselling Centre: 6741-9293
  • Clarity Singapore: 6757-7990

Online resources​

 
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