Now grown up, ex-bullies open up on what drove their behaviour and wish they could turn back the clock

[niefeng80]

u mean those drug addict that turn influencers but at the same time neglect his daughter as well ??

got 2 case like that already.

 

[glarerder]

Now grown up, ex-bullies open up on what drove their behaviour and wish they could turn back the clock​

Why do some children turn pain into cruelty, while others rise above it? Psychologists and reformed bullies unpack how early emotional wounds shape behaviour, and what it takes to effectively tackle the issue.

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/tod...-violence-schools-students-anger-pain-5408301

What is the point of this interview so that we can empathize with the current bullies?

 

[zoossh]

U just see the authorities rhetoric on bull lee issues. It's mostly concentrated on giving them a chance. Counsel them to turn over a new leaf.

But the victims alr got trauma, scars in d heart n mind for life due to them.

I dun disagree giving them a chance

but not before they payback 10x first and their deeds transparently made known to whoever who wants to know.. and after that they can do whatever counseling they want

protecting the bully from immediate consequences = hurting the victim twice.

And bully is bully; if bully is bullied by another bully, it is just a bigger bully vs a smaller bully, not a bully vs victim.

We dun get this point straight and then we will see a 22 year old killed others due to loss of debate and people will just say “this is a child”. a 22 yr old is not a child. In fact a 14 year old can also stab a 16 year old 200x, does that mean I need to care more about the 14 year old?

 

[Helpall]

Why never interview the victims if they are going with life well?

Great comment
Spotlight should be on the victims, not the bullies!

 

[Helpall]

What is the point of this interview so that we can empathize with the current bullies?

Maybe because whities are bullies so this behaviour is encouraged

 

[dushensiao]

forgive but dont forget that blue bird name

 

[dambio]

I dun disagree giving them a chance

but not before they payback 10x first and their deeds transparently made known to whoever who wants to know.. and after that they can do whatever counseling they want

protecting the bully from immediate consequences = hurting the victim twice.

And bully is bully; if bully is bullied by another bully, it is just a bigger bully vs a smaller bully, not a bully vs victim.

We dun get this point straight and then we will see a 22 year old killed others due to loss of debate and people will just say “this is a child”. a 22 yr old is not a child. In fact a 14 year old can also stab a 16 year old 200x, does that mean I need to care more about the 14 year old?

Agree...there needs to be consequences. Cannot let tis off lightly. They hv to be answerable.

Plus some hardcore culprits might just go with d flow n act remorseful just to get off d hook. N still nv change.

Tis type of behavior needs to be prevented n dealt with b4 it happens. Rather than just paying lip service to it after it happens.

N trying to act d good guys n say they're still young n doesn't know wat their actions bring.

 

[zoossh]

once a bully always a bully. they're only afraid of bullies bigger than them, coz its human nature to 欺软怕硬.

That’s when the balls shrunk and then say 不能誰拳頭大誰說了算

But you dun see them say the same thing when they bully others

baseline is such people have twisted logics, fragile ego, selfish, manipulative and opportunistic. And they are often then more successful and still want to look good. Playing victim is their way of looking good

They do it because they think they can get away. never ever at any time let them get away the slightest is the most effective way to deal with them. This can be done in tandem with the counseling, prevention and other measures but must not be skipped or lessened

 

[runny yolk]

Lol featuring bullies telling their EXCUSES for being a bully instead of focusing on victims who got bullied simply for existing

 

[zoossh]

The article would be ok if 51% they talk about punishment, 49% or less about understanding and preventing

inappropriate proportion is just one way to distort the narrative as we can see in many topics

 

[zoossh]

Lol featuring bullies telling their EXCUSES for being a bully instead of focusing on victims who got bullied simply for existing

Forgive Liao then no need to payback

that is the gist

 

[keywin]

bullying happens in our parliament also... how to stop it in society??

 

[Taloona]

unpopular opinion, but i always felt bullying was an essential part of growing up for kids.
learning how to manage and resolve conflict is one life skill that should be taught when young, even if the perpetrator may end up going home bleeding.

Resolving conflicts is different from bullying. Some bullies can go too far and result in death or injuries.

There is also workplace bullying. So end of the day, teach your child to be resilient and assertive. Allow him to experience failures and learn from it. Teach him to say, "Stop it! If you carry on, I am going to report you to the....!" Or use reverse psychology and make fun of the bully!

 

[Taloona]

Great comment
Spotlight should be on the victims, not the bullies!

I think it is good to interview the bullies so as to understand why they did what they did. The underlying root seems to be an unmet need and social acceptance. One of the bullies said their teachers always looked down on students in the Normal Tech class. So if people dont respect them, why should he respect others?

 

[Taloona]

Forgive Liao then no need to payback

that is the gist

I think they were already punished. Caning or suspension from school.

 

[zoossh]

I think they were already punished. Caning or suspension from school.

Then u have to ask the victims

is that enough