Parenting teenager

[toothy1]

Any parents with teenagers in this thread? I have 2, one sec 1 and one sec3, both are literally driving me up the wall everyday, they are totally unmotivated in their studies and are below average academically and both have different sets of behavioural issues...anyone with past experience to share?

 

[yioslip]

Hi Toothy, well I have one who is teenage and academically she is not performing well. But I dont blame her. I'm sorry to say that her prime age of knowing the right things to do, I neglected my parental duty since she was a bright kid at her tender ae, I assumed things would be so moving forward, to cut the long story short, she no longer like her books and talking about studies makes her sick. The good news, knowing what your kid likes can help you win them back. In my case she like swimming so she knows is he doesn't impress with her studies, she will be grounded. Sounds like an intimidation approach but it works for me.

 

[mingingerrday]

I am a teacher of 10 years. Great in a way that you have accepted the situation - so often I see this situation where we have a child that is not geared towards academic study yet the parents fight against it. More often than not it is better to accept it and find the field that you child is really interested in. The danger can be that they reject everything - so it’s difficult for parents and teachers to find the balance

 

[alamin2]

Any parents with teenagers in this thread? I have 2, one sec 1 and one sec3, both are literally driving me up the wall everyday, they are totally unmotivated in their studies and are below average academically and both have different sets of behavioural issues...anyone with past experience to share?

the early stages of kids till pre-teens, you're always their best friend and someone to turn to. when puberty strikes, freinds mean the world to them more than you do. make friends with their friends. they'll listen more to their freinds than you. have a positive influence on their friends. invite them over for study sessions. get to know how school is.

more often than not, kids can be unmotivated because of school environment. teachers pushing them too hard or bullying.

i do youth counselling (yes im a counsellor) and the kids i meet, 40% blame their teachers, 40% home environment, the other 20% other reasons such as bgr, friends etc. this number is just a rough gauge.

find something that your kids love . spend time with them as a family and individually.

one thing to always remember, NEVER EVER compare between siblings cousins or friends

 

[occifer]

Any parents with teenagers in this thread? I have 2, one sec 1 and one sec3, both are literally driving me up the wall everyday, they are totally unmotivated in their studies and are below average academically and both have different sets of behavioural issues...anyone with past experience to share?

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[Amy Gan]

Any parents with teenagers in this thread? I have 2, one sec 1 and one sec3, both are literally driving me up the wall everyday, they are totally unmotivated in their studies and are below average academically and both have different sets of behavioural issues...anyone with past experience to share?

a couple of years late to this thread, but i thought this thread is interesting as someone who was once in your child's shoes - unmotivated to study and got poor results. i'm not sure if its going to similar to my case, but i did do some searching on google and found out a couple of potential reasons:

1. Boredom - they could be bored and maybe one way would be to see if they're still interested in their favourite sport/activity?
2. Sleep - are they staying up playing games or lacking sleep in any way?
3. Bullying - is there a possibility they're getting bullied in school or online?

i got some of the reasons from this article, but i do hope its not anything serious!!
i guess sometimes its hard as parents to approach our kids and have them open up to us - there are a couple of hotlines in the article! i think its also ok to call them up as parents hope this helps....!
8 Warning Signs That Your Child Or Teen Might Be Depressed

 

[MixterMaster]

Someone similar to your child maybe they have other interests? If they are doing well enough to enter a poly/ite course of their liking i dont think its a huge issue.

 

[MixterMaster]

Sometimes when they go through the longer journey they learn more about themselves as they mature.