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Hi. I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety problems, hence temporary down pes to C2L9 for 6 months. I have been transfered to another unit as a clerk


However, ever since i've come to this new place, i feel that my fear and anxiety has increased tremendously, even worse
than how i felt in my previous infantry unit. I asked myself "why am i so afraid of such a good place? I'm just a clerk, 8-5 job, the disclipine standard here is nowhere as bad as the previous place, but why do i still have this fear?"

I'm so scared of the place to the point that i tend to hide myself in the nearby toilet cubicle for more than half of the day. Crying, Vomitting, Trembling and the urge to end this painful life on mine has been on my mind for the past few days, as i have to return to work 7 days from now.

In the office, even when i'm not doing anything, just staying in the office itself gives me the utmost fear and i kept trembling and shaking very badly.I skipped all my lunch meals in camp. Partly because i have no appetite, and also the thought of simply walking to the cookhouse, where it will
be filled with army personels gives me such a horrific feeling, so i hide inside the toilet cubicle during the whole 1 hour lunch time. The 4 walls of the cubicle makes me feel safe from all the scary things outside.The feeling is so horrible that there has been many times ive thought of ending my life, but i don't have the guts to as i thought about my family.
Even now at home, just the thought of returning to that place is makes me cry.I don't dare to talk to my parents about it, as they seem to be extremely stressed about my situation already. I promised them that with the help of my doctor, i will try to recover. But asking myself honestly, with
the current condition, i have absolutely no confidence at all that i will recover within a short time.

I cant sleep at night for the past few days, relying on my sleeping pills to get the little bit of rest i can get. And even now, i don't have the feeling to do anything. I just sit in a corner in my room, shiving and fearing the thought of going back. It's like a countdown to my death sentence.

I know some of you might be thinking "why is this guy complaining of such a relaxing job. Other ppl chiong sua until wan die alr." But i really am suffering inside, to the point that i'm actually crying while typing this out.

Can someone advise me on what to do? I don't want to make my parents worry anymore. And i don't dare to talk to the psychiatrist that SAF has appointed for me. He seems to think that my case isnt thatserious, even after telling him all my problems.

I would extremely appreciate it if someone can advice me or help me on this. This really isn't keng one. I can swear. Really need some advice.
 

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If you don't help yourself by talking to the SAF psychiatrist, nobody can help you, period.
 

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You need help bro. Maybe go to IMH instead? They might have more experienced staff to help you deal with your situation.
 

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If you don't help yourself by talking to the SAF psychiatrist, nobody can help you, period.

I've actually told my SAF Psychiatrist about these sympthoms during my last medical appointment a few weeks back. As he's also sort of an army personel, i'm also pretty scared of him. So i wrote down the symthoms and how i felt on paper and gave it to him to read. He just increased the dosage of medication and gave me 3 weeks MC, after that he ask me to go back and try again next week.

But its like, i haven't even stepped into the office yet and i'm already breaking down. I cant possibly tell the psychiatrist "Sir i can't do it". I really have no idea what to do

@Arbalest I don't really think i want to go to IMH. Since going to a public hospital would mean like my illness will be recorded down. I don't want it to affect my future prospects.
 

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People ask you to go to SAF psychologist you say you are scared. People ask you to go to IMH you are worried ppl laugh at you and your future is ruined. Then what do you want? :s8:
 

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People ask you to go to SAF psychologist you say you are scared. People ask you to go to IMH you are worried ppl laugh at you and your future is ruined. Then what do you want? :s8:

Don't liddat la, I genuinely want advice. As in, I'm already seeing a SAF Psychiatrist already. But he doesn't seem to think my condition in that serious even though I told him all the above stuff.
 

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Don't liddat la, I genuinely want advice. As in, I'm already seeing a SAF Psychiatrist already. But he doesn't seem to think my condition in that serious even though I told him all the above stuff.
Am not bashing you for fun but seriously lah you ask yourself. People give you different types of advice but you reject for a variety of reasons. Then how you expect people to help you?

You don't even try and straight away give an excuse. How do you know it wouldn't work?
 

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Am not bashing you for fun but seriously lah you ask yourself. People give you different types of advice but you reject for a variety of reasons. Then how you expect people to help you?

You don't even try and straight away give an excuse. How do you know it wouldn't work?

Yeah it's ok I get what you're trying to tell me. I've thought of going to IMH, but how exactly can they help me? Not saying I don't want to go la. My current SAF psychiatrist is just giving med and mc awhile, then go back try again.
 

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@Arbalest I don't really think i want to go to IMH. Since going to a public hospital would mean like my illness will be recorded down. I don't want it to affect my future prospects.

Your medical records, be it with private or public doctors, are private and confidential.

You have indicated that you feel apprehensive when approaching an NS doctor, so why not try seeing another doctor outside NS?

To be able to receive the best treatment for your condition, you yourself must be comfortable with the people treating you.

Staying with NS doctors, when you feel they don't understand your issues, will not help your situation.
 

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Your medical records, be it with private or public doctors, are private and confidential.

You have indicated that you feel apprehensive when approaching an NS doctor, so why not try seeing another doctor outside NS?

To be able to receive the best treatment for your condition, you yourself must be comfortable with the people treating you.

Staying with NS doctors, when you feel they don't understand your issues, will not help your situation.

Actually the doc SAF assigned to me isn't a NS doctor. He's a doctor at public hospital, but he used to be a high ranked NS medical officer.

I understand that I should treat him like a normal doc instead of an NS one. But he just scares the living daylight out of me. Plus the treatment he's adopting.. It's just medication and MC, then asking me to go back camp and try. But I'm really really scared to the point when even outside as long as I see a uniformed person from SAF, I will start shaking and have all those thoughts.

I've seen a private psychiatrist before, but it was short term. Just until I got posted to the current unit, cause everyone thought I was just having severe adjustment issues. Even I didn't expect myself to have depression and anxiety disorder now.
 

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Actually the doc SAF assigned to me isn't a NS doctor. He's a doctor at public hospital, but he used to be a high ranked NS medical officer.

I understand that I should treat him like a normal doc instead of an NS one. But he just scares the living daylight out of me. Plus the treatment he's adopting.. It's just medication and MC, then asking me to go back camp and try. But I'm really really scared to the point when even outside as long as I see a uniformed person from SAF, I will start shaking and have all those thoughts.

I've seen a private psychiatrist before, but it was short term. Just until I got posted to the current unit, cause everyone thought I was just having severe adjustment issues. Even I didn't expect myself to have depression and anxiety disorder now.

Ok, so your present treatment is just medication and MC? Any thoughts about trying cognitive behaviour therapy?
 

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Ok, so your present treatment is just medication and MC? Any thoughts about trying cognitive behaviour therapy?

Yeah. His method of treatment is like

- mc + medication, finish mc, go back camp try
- if got improvement, adjust medication bit by bit
- if it doesn't improve, increase medication and mc again.

At least this is how i interpret it...

I don't know whats cognitive behaviour therapy, but all i know is just the thought of going back next Friday is torturing me and i would rather die than go back to there. It isn't the physical torture (i mean, clerk nothing much), but the huge psychological torture and pressure i get everytime i go in, i honestly truely feel like ending my life.
 

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Yeah. His method of treatment is like

- mc + medication, finish mc, go back camp try
- if got improvement, adjust medication bit by bit
- if it doesn't improve, increase medication and mc again.

At least this is how i interpret it...

I don't know whats cognitive behaviour therapy, but all i know is just the thought of going back next Friday is torturing me and i would rather die than go back to there. It isn't the physical torture (i mean, clerk nothing much), but the huge psychological torture and pressure i get everytime i go in, i honestly truely feel like ending my life.

Check your PMs
 

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Yeah it's ok I get what you're trying to tell me. I've thought of going to IMH, but how exactly can they help me? Not saying I don't want to go la. My current SAF psychiatrist is just giving med and mc awhile, then go back try again.
I don't know about now but when I was a NSF back in the mid 90s, the MOs sucked. I reported sick for sore throat and got ponstan. A bloody painkiller for a sore throat! If SAF's medical standards are still the same, IMH is definitely a better option.
 

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Due to the large number of kengsters, when you report sick be it for a physical ailment or in this case a mental ailment, first thing ANYONE assumes is chao keng.

That is why an outside doctor might be better. Out of curiousity do you get this fear when you see ANYONE in uniform? Even like say a security guard or postman?
 

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I wouldn't say any uniform la. Just anything related to SAF.

Eg. When i see a person downstairs at my coffee shop wearing a green smart 4, i would just get so scared that i would immediately walk away.

But they won't think i'm a chao keng cause i've already been proven to have such an illness by 3 doctors.
 

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Tell me what you like to hear I will say what you like to hear.

You ask people for advice, and when people give you advice you have 101 excuses.

Do you only want to hear what you like to hear? If so tell me what do you like to hear I will repeat.
 

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Tell me what you like to hear I will say what you like to hear.

You ask people for advice, and when people give you advice you have 101 excuses.

Do you only want to hear what you like to hear? If so tell me what do you like to hear I will repeat.

I just want advice on what can I do now for my situation. No need to put it so harshly on me...
 
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