Serious Relationship issue

[JLowX13]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

Separation means? she moved out of house or sleeps in 2 different bedrooms? Maybe she found new love in new company since all started in a new company with all these complaints.

 

[Laneige]

Ask her go for counseling?
Tell her what u said here?
U go for counseling too?
Why u don’t let her go pub
How old is she like no gd pub cannot

Don’t jump to conclusion
All these abt what new job etc
That one yr suggestion tend to make others wonder if got third party but is that the point ?
The point is the marriage itself is not giving her the freedom she wants hence she said controlling

Once u gave her chance to complain or no see open n if anyone else come near n offer listening ear etc, it might make rs vulnerable

So I think is u need to work on her n the marriage first
If u keep thinking abt or guessing anyone else involved , that’s taking focus out?

Sometimes she’s also crying for help but ppl don’t see it

 

[drkcynic]

Lol, so far zero mention about the kids.

Poor thing.

 

[Laneige]

got time go fly kite.

relationship is like flying kite, u still want to maintain the string attached but u don't want the string to break.

so when the string tension is too tight, release a bit more string.

when the wind is not so strong, roll back the string a little

Didn’t know edmw has such wise old man ard

 

[GhostZM]

Yup like what many people have concluded in here..she has someone outside..

It's a complicated matter and it's hard for us 3rd parties to advise the appropriate action/s. You'll need to have a good talk with your wife.

Hope you can salvage your marriage. If not, it's not the end of the world anyway.


CheerS!!!

 

[archie7]

go marriage counseling first

 

[GenXYZ]

go marriage counseling first

No point if she already has her eye on someone else.

 

[_zeph_]

Ask her go for counseling?
Tell her what u said here?
U go for counseling too?
Why u don’t let her go pub
How old is she like no gd pub cannot

Don’t jump to conclusion
All these abt what new job etc
That one yr suggestion tend to make others wonder if got third party but is that the point ?
The point is the marriage itself is not giving her the freedom she wants hence she said controlling

Once u gave her chance to complain or no see open n if anyone else come near n offer listening ear etc, it might make rs vulnerable

So I think is u need to work on her n the marriage first
If u keep thinking abt or guessing anyone else involved , that’s taking focus out?

Sometimes she’s also crying for help but ppl don’t see it

A reasonable adult will communicate their issues instead of telling their partner that they want to seperate. When someone tells you that, give them what they want. Do not convince anyone to stay. ’Work on your marriage’ is feminist nonsense from the West.

 

[JohannSu1864]

Got kids still want chiong?

 

[Roid Rage]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

Gone case

 

[kenne79]

woman heart change le mean bye bye le.
pointless le.. plan for exit ba..

 

[NuaMan]

No point forcing the wife to reconcile if she liddat.
TS, please plan long term for taking care of your kids; kids are innocent.

 

[articland05]

prepare for Woman Chartered

 

[Bui Kia]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

that is the reason why i am still single and very available ....
you should have sit down and talk to her 1- 1....

u not allow her to go out late night
to you : is caring ... worry
to her: controlling her freedom


BUT if assuming another way ....................

when you never ask and bo chup her go out late night or with who etc
to you : she got her freedom as long she come back
to her : you are not caring enough


* that why here still many BBFA

 

[kan-kon]

it takes two to clap..

has she completely distanced herself fr the family?

how is she with the kids? if she's okay with the kids, maybe the problem only with you?

first step as everyone suggested go for counseling..

 

[fandango]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

She chio or not?

 

[Joseph12]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

Separated who takes cares of kids
You never say

 

[jinsadndepress]

TS sign on infantry ?

 

[BlackWing1977]

Sad to say... TS... be prepared for anything... my first thought upon seeing your post is the same as many others...

 

[Lchlch]

I have been married to my wife for six years, and we have kids. Recently, we had a quarrel, and she suggested a separation. Her stance on this seems very firm. According to her, the argument stemmed from what she sees as me being overly controlling—for example, not allowing her to go out with friends to pubs late at night. She finds my behaviour unreasonable and controlling.

This isn’t the first time we’ve had a quarrel, and usually, we manage to resolve our differences by the next day. However, this time, she has been ignoring me for about two weeks and has been sleeping in another room. She also goes out until late at night, saying she has work. All of this started after she joined a new company.

I do not wish to divorce her, as I still love her. However, I don’t know how to resolve the issue now. Should I try to convince her to come back to me, or should I give her the space to live the lifestyle she wants?

U should try to talk to her about ypur worry n see your wife respond first.