Will Storage

[sohguanh]

I have a different line of thinking …

We only live once and to experience this journey called life to its fullest, we have to live in harmony with respect towards one another (especially the elderly) and without any hatred, anger, resentment, etc. The journey comes to an end for everyone and when it ends, we leave behind everything that we craved to acquire during the journey. The earlier we understand this, the better our experience.

Like you I have different line of thinking. Why should the elderly give more if not all share to the first son when they never do work? Give becuz they are first son biggest? If elderly have such mindset then they cannot fault those not in first son status to think likewise. Their mindset is like everyone must help but if you are first son status don't help also ok becuz I like you more I die give you most if not all the monies. Then others not first son not your children is it? That is why in ancient times, siblings plot against each other to plan to remove the first son so can share the monies isn't it?

 

[razoreigns]

Alot of bitterness. Not sure why relationship is calculated and measured in $. Look after parents out of love, unconditional.

 

[reddevil0728]

Alot of bitterness. Not sure why relationship is calculated and measured in $. Look after parents out of love, unconditional.

Different strokes for different folks.

some parents don’t want to leave a single cent to their descendants, and want to full spend all their money.

 

[sohguanh]

Alot of bitterness. Not sure why relationship is calculated and measured in $. Look after parents out of love, unconditional.

A wise man say "Life is suffering" I dunno what it really mean until I reaching 50 and see broke red horizon. If the old fogey do not have those mindset everyone happy correct? But some of them have those mindset so to counter their mindset and protect oneself is a must.

 

[razoreigns]

A wise man say "Life is suffering" I dunno what it really mean until I reaching 50 and see broke red horizon. If the old fogey do not have those mindset everyone happy correct? But some of them have those mindset so to counter their mindset and protect oneself is a must.

Life is very tiring to have to counter against your family member and loved ones. If you can afford to give to parents, that alone is a blessing from above. For me, parents can keep money for themselves. I just do my part, according to my ability. If I can't afford, then not much I can do anyway.

 

[sohguanh]

Life is very tiring to have to counter against your family member and loved ones. If you can afford to give to parents, that alone is a blessing from above. For me, parents can keep money for themselves. I just do my part, according to my ability. If I can't afford, then not much I can do anyway.

There is nothing to counter if the elderly do not have those traditional mindset. They have so we counter it is only human normal reaction to protect oneself. Elderly scare no one take care of them hence the need to give monies so children will do work. But in their planning some have obvious biased favoritism for first son and this is when it make other siblings super unhappy. Do work distribute to all children but distribute monies first son get largest or most share what kind of logic is that? This is their mindset and hence those not first son status must do what they can to protect themselves.

 

[qhong61]

There is nothing to counter if the elderly do not have those traditional mindset. They have so we counter it is only human normal reaction to protect oneself. Elderly scare no one take care of them hence the need to give monies so children will do work. But in their planning some have obvious biased favoritism for first son and this is when it make other siblings super unhappy. Do work distribute to all children but distribute monies first son get largest or most share what kind of logic is that? This is their mindset and hence those not first son status must do what they can to protect themselves.

If me, I will will all to charity.

 

[sohguanh]

If me, I will will all to charity.

I mention this much earlier. No monies no disputes. Disputes always appear when there are monies left behind by the dead. My later post I say try to spend finish your monies so later no disputes among your descendent. If they don't come and sweep tomb also ok. Now is new era times do not get bind by old traditions and carry those mindset generation after generation.

 

[reddevil0728]

I mention this much earlier. No monies no disputes. Disputes always appear when there are monies left behind by the dead. My later post I say try to spend finish your monies so later no disputes among your descendent. If they don't come and sweep tomb also ok. Now is new era times do not get bind by old traditions and carry those mindset generation after generation.

When you mean disputes, do you mean by there’s contention of whether the will is real?

or just unhappiness about the distribution?

 

[qhong61]

I mention this much earlier. No monies no disputes. Disputes always appear when there are monies left behind by the dead. My later post I say try to spend finish your monies so later no disputes among your descendent. If they don't come and sweep tomb also ok. Now is new era times do not get bind by old traditions and carry those mindset generation after generation.

Don't need to spend finish.
If finish still haven't die, how?
Just advise him to will to charity.
Also the flat and bank money to be included in the will.
Get a trustworthy executor.
Need two witnesses who are not beneficiaries.
Cpf made nomination.
Insurance policies nominate beneficiary.

 

[sohguanh]

When you mean disputes, do you mean by there’s contention of whether the will is real?

or just unhappiness about the distribution?

What I have witnessed is the latter about distribution. From there onwards siblings relationship very strained. Some later normalize becuz the first son automatic after get the monies re-distribute evenly among siblings. But those who swallow everything no give out incur the wrath of their siblings lor. They never go sweep tomb also since elderly biased towards first son. Hatred runs deep when talk about monies.

 

[reddevil0728]

What I have witnessed is the latter about distribution. From there onwards siblings relationship very strained. Some later normalize becuz the first son automatic after get the monies re-distribute evenly among siblings. But those who swallow everything no give out incur the wrath of their siblings lor. They never go sweep tomb also since elderly biased towards first son. Hatred runs deep when talk about monies.

actually this 1 has no legal effect can don't care.

 

[sohguanh]

actually this 1 has no legal effect can don't care.

That is correct to govt it is not their problem. So it become family issue and dispute. And I can tell this is happening in reality not just we see show on tv only. Family bonding is weakened. This is the social aspect govt cannot handle so let it fester and pass from generation to generation.

 

[reddevil0728]

That is correct to govt it is not their problem. So it become family issue and dispute. And I can tell this is happening in reality not just we see show on tv only. Family bonding is weakened. This is the social aspect govt cannot handle so let it fester and pass from generation to generation.

it is only a problem if you want it to be a problem, i.e., because there is a desire to keep the family together.

if there is no desire to keep the family together not like other family members can do anything about it.

 

[sohguanh]

it is only a problem if you want it to be a problem, i.e., because there is a desire to keep the family together.

if there is no desire to keep the family together not like other family members can do anything about it.

The problem source is the elderly mindset. If they do not have those mindset then where got come out so many problem? So to nip the problem in the bud is to eliminate those mindset. Since elderly do not want to change we pray that batch faster go. New batch take over change rules and traditions which is what I post also.

 

[reddevil0728]

The problem source is the elderly mindset. If they do not have those mindset then when got come out so many problem? So to nip the problem in the bud is to eliminate those mindset. Since elderly do not want to change we pray that batch faster go. New batch take over change rules and traditions which is what I post also.

but you are saying the disputes only happen for the distribution right?

So if the elders pass already.

then distribute.

someone not happy.

but legally nothing they can do

What's there to dispute?

 

[sohguanh]

but you are saying the disputes only happen for the distribution right?

So if the elders pass already.

then distribute.

someone not happy.

but legally nothing they can do

What's there to dispute?

I mean the dispute and quarrel among the siblings. Maybe you feel the English word dispute is used inappropriately. You can replace this word with any other word in your own English vocabulary

 

[reddevil0728]

I mean the dispute and quarrel among the siblings. Maybe you feel the English word dispute is used inappropriately. You can replace this word with any other word in your own English vocabulary

Quarrel only ma. just don't partake and nothing will happen.

You can quarrel when only 1 party is talking

 

[sohguanh]

Quarrel only ma. just don't partake and nothing will happen.

You can quarrel when only 1 party is talking

Becuz I imagine if it happen to me soon, I not first son I confirm quarrel and dispute with him until he cough up and distribute evenly. He can kwailan don't since not legally binded then ok lor I learn from HK use slippers beat small man keep beating until it works.

 

[reddevil0728]

Becuz I imagine if it happen to me soon, I not first son I confirm quarrel and dispute with him until he cough up and distribute evenly. He can kwailan don't since not legally binded then ok lor I learn from HK use slippers beat small man keep beating until it works.

your big bro just don't partake you can do whatever you want, you also LLST