Totally no common interest, should divorce anot?

[MoeLanYong]

my friend asking. married less than a year

My wife and me have zero overlap in our interests. Yet we are happily married 20 years

 

[atamavision]

Had dinner at a szechuan restaurant at Lavender today
After ordered, a fat lady, in her 40s, walked in with an angry face, 3 kids tagged behind, age about 5-14
Sat down on a table across mine, and talked loudly to the kids 每次出来吃饭都要被我骂

I told my gf, 应该有好戏看
Sure enough, after about 5min, a man in his 40s, walked in and sat down.
I assume is the father and he probably went to park car.

After the lady had ordered (without talking to her hubby or asked him what he want), she started scolding the kids, and the youngest one cried silently. The man on off talked softly to the 3 kids, not sure what he said but should be comforting them or asking them to listen to the mum, but throughout the dinner, zero communication between the couple.

At one point, she swing her arm and it hit the drink bottle cap, down the floor the bottle cap go. The woman didn give a damn to it, just continued scolding. The man look very embarrassed, took a glance around the restaurant, probably trying to see anyone looking at them, before he stood up to pick up the cap.

when the food came, the man never touch the food, kept his mask on. I assume he doesn like Tiong food. He only took down his mask off once to try one of the dishes when his daughter said its too spicy. After he tried, he put back the mask, and said, 不是很辣， 可以吃.

After dinner, my gf asked me why man can accept a wife who is so unattractive and uncultured, scold non stop in a public place (she only stop when the food was served, and from then on its non stop eating), and based on the nil interaction, probably not much love between the couple .

My reply to her - 你现在知道为什么越来越多新加坡男人找外国女人了咯！
To the poor chap - 人生就一次， 别忍了， 赶紧做个了断吧

 

[CSNation]

Faster annul or faster get a kid.

Option A is far less damaging. But Option B does work for some people.


Sent from my toilet bowl

 

[Krabs.]

women's charter

alimony

split asset

 

[onegoal]

If both like to piak, it is considered common interest.

 

[rayzhon]

my friend asking. married less than a year

common interests can be developed. broken relationships while cannot be restored to 100%, can be repaired to a certain extent. most importantly is, do they still want to be together or not? if yes, they will be able to do whatever it takes to stay together. if not, nothing they will do will save their relationship.

instead of just looking at "common interest", how about their values, principles, and their perspective regarding finance? if not aligned or cannot find compromise, hard to get along also.

 

[ballastic90]

Depends on chiu

 

[boyinhersense]

get ready to surrender half your assets.

don’t be silly

 

[Laneige]

how to maintain the relationship without common interest?

Frequency n communication Shld b ard same waves
Can communicate n improve one another? Grind n grind tempers
Disputes inevitable
Towards friends n family Shld b same pattern else maybe first thing quarrel over family

 

[Ethan_]

how to maintain the relationship without common interest?

Not expert but think many couples will tend have some similar interests then will come together one bah. If not, hardly will meet in the first place. But don't think many will have that much similarity. Come together liao then develop more.

Then think there is a saying which goes something like, too similar usually won't be together one. Got difference then got interest in each other.

 

[Laneige]

Not expert but think many couples will tend have some similar interests then will come together one bah. If not, hardly will meet in the first place. But don't think many will have that much similarity. Come together liao then develop more.

Then think there is a saying which goes something like, too similar usually won't be together one. Got difference then got interest in each other.

Maybe Only got two types after love is over
To pay debts
To get debts

 

[clearwhitesky]

are you both vaccinated? if yes, at least have some common interest?

Who do they vote for can consider common interest?

 

[Ethan_]

Maybe Only got two types after love is over
To pay debts
To get debts

Not expert but think like it or not, the financial foundation and frequency is one key to maintain a decent relationship bah.

It may be love that brings many together in marriage. But often after marriage, its mostly bread and butter issues that take up much of many life. It may not be that the former is lost, but that the latter is too overwhelming, that it cover over the former.

Thus think money can often become a divide in the relationship, if not on somewhat similar frequency.

 

[Multiversal]

This one is see photo then straight married ah?

sinkieby or jhbu, see photo then marry.............problem will come because both can speak Chinese or English. And end up fierce quarrels if not compatible, cannot see eye to eye on many things.

Marry vietbu is the same. See photo or see face one time, then ask agent, how much? $8K? OK, here's the cheque. And then bring her home. But language problem...man cannot speak more than ten words of Vietnamese. Woman can only speak a few sentences of Mandarin...learned from a textbook, and speak like robot. Very formal type of sentences. No quarrels because cannot talk very much between man and woman. Just piak piak or use body language, sign language, today eat what...

Moral of the story.
Language barrier can be a blessing.

 

[Multiversal]

Who do they vote for can consider common interest?

Thish huan can break up a marriage.

 

[propertyinvestor40]

my friend asking. married less than a year

No photo no video. U imagining ?

 

[goldnut]

Hire gigolo to seduce her, film everything then accuse her of adultery. Problem solved.

 

[cleffa3000]

haha ts tio wc or not

 

[middleclass]

Single is the best

The mistake you made is to get married.

 

[Eat_rice]

my friend asking. married less than a year

Why ur fren wife thing always ask u..

Last time ask u piak piak dont wan chewren..

Nw ask u want divorce or nt