That’s why what Coffeelix said makes sense.. if keep quiet and not mention it again then can reconcile. If so vindictive and damaging then how to repair back the rship that was already broken?
thing is... you are asking a person to suffer in silence for mistake another two person made.
people who don't know what's happening, will inadvertently add more hurt to her, like asking her husband to speak about commitment to marriage on video for public, saying that he's a good committed husband, how good she is at maintaining the relationship, how loving they are, etc...
it's all unnecessary and the affair has been on going for 1.5 years and he's already reducing his spending on the family for the affair, so what next, wish them all the best and she tank the family by herself while still staying married in name?