Actually most friendships dun last

[Nevereatrice]

now then u know.

 

[sanukboy]

Actually hats off to my father...
He is in his 80s already...

But everytime I bring him around town,
he always seem to run into
his friends...

I thought most of them should up lorry already
but they are still hanging around...
while I have went to so many funerals of
friends and peers from my age group.

I guess it is way easier to make friends
back during the old days and these guys last longer.

 

[BusyBeeWorker]

at different stages in life we are interested in different things, so it's normal that friendships become acquaintances to strangers. When we're schooling we spend so much time together playing, studying and talking cock. But as we grow up maybe some want to focus on studies while other like the party hard lifestyle, it's natural to drift.

Similarly when we grow older and join the working force, our priorities change our view of the world changes too, some may focus on family others may focus on material wealth and others might prefer to choing. It's normal to drift and it's ok, I'm just happy to have met my friends along this journey and I wish them well.

 

[standarture]

Most friends are only friends due to fun or someone who leads the group. Once your interests shift, won't meet up liao. Only a few are the type can sit together just talk cock all day or just accompany each other without talking much.

 

[Tloslm]

Try reading on confucianism concept of an ideal friendship. 君子之交淡如水。

From my understanding, this concept first come from Taoism school of thought

 

[coyote]

Looking back at my past photos, I realised I dun keep in contact with alot of them anymore..just drifted away

Most gotten married and have kids... Where got time?

 

[parchiao]

It is becasue we are friends

that we understand their wives need them more for positive things

than us because we have just been wasting time together doing unproductive things

that we allow friends to go their way

 

[CanIsayNo]

People move on. Interest shift, priorities shift. No animosity. But I see people keep in contact with secondary school friends and every meetup is always gossiping about ex schoolmates and reminiscing about sec sch times. And these people are already like late 30s. At some point, can see some of them also sian. Meet up but no common topics as all work in different fields, some got kids some no kids, some married some not, some talk about buying landed some talk about bto.. all on different wavelength already

 

[Can Or Not]

Nothing is forever in life…

 

[Tloslm]

Nothing is forever in life…

Agree. true love too.

 

[rachoon]

at different stages in life we are interested in different things, so it's normal that friendships become acquaintances to strangers. When we're schooling we spend so much time together playing, studying and talking cock. But as we grow up maybe some want to focus on studies while other like the party hard lifestyle, it's natural to drift.

Similarly when we grow older and join the working force, our priorities change our view of the world changes too, some may focus on family others may focus on material wealth and others might prefer to choing. It's normal to drift and it's ok, I'm just happy to have met my friends along this journey and I wish them well.

people last time seem to be much friendlier

 

[icebleue]

depends one... if you have 100 good friends... chances are you have less than 3 today.
if you have 10 earlier on, chances are you still have 6 today.

 

[maleisme]

most married n hv kids liao, wher got time to frens. ur whole time occupied by werk n famileee.
at most, text or phone call wit them onliii. meet ups unlikey lorr

 

[Spike]

After wedding normally no more contact

Usually is reconnected for a funeral wake then disappear again until the next one.

 

[coyote]

After gotten married and have kids, my world is filled with work, wife, kids, my parents and hardly even have time for my hobbies. Meeting up with friends will unavoidably talked about kids. For those who have kids, they resonated well. For those who are single, hard to discuss more... So, it's natural that singles will get alienated ....

 

[yperic]

I disagree i still in contact with most of my secondary school friend we do meet up regularly.

 

[havetheveryfun]

once married and have kids hard to arrange same timings to meet up

 

[dushensiao]

no forever friends, only common goals at a point

 

[xcodes]

in before true friendship is only with left hand and right hand ...

 

[trumperater]

Nowadays people don't even make their marriages last. Many people are taking things for granted in today's society and that includes trivalizing the meaning of friendship.