Divorce Procedure -

[Duapui-ti]

TS did your wife knows about your plan for divorce? Or was it spite of your own anger?

 

[fandango]

Will look for new rs but unlikely to remarry. Just cohabit at the most. Pretty sure got other divorcees will have same thinking and want the same..

In fact alr thinking getting one rm condo lol.. Anw my soon to be ex wife is overseas with another man rn on holiday as I typing. So honestly no feelings alr. No point to salvage.

Wah, she chio or not?

 

[fandango]

After 5 pages of EDMWers replies.. moi surprised noone said...

1. Who did you vote for
2. Siam diu for life, Siambu for wife

Now viet wife more popular

 

[Jude Raphael]

Kid in P1 knew daddy take care of him. And super stingy to them as not to spend a cent on them like buying books for kid, bring him out n play with him. Each time son plays in house, dad would stare at him and find him noisy. Son said why mum doesn change a new father for him. He said he wants to move out when he is an adult. Son is very sensible n obedient. He is super close to my friend. There was once dad threw temper at my friend for no reason. Son told his dad tat he is richer than mum cause he is working . Why keep saying mum is rich as she works as a dish washing helper in cafe

Wow, so at least the son is sensible to appreciate what the mum has done for him. She has really brought him up well.

Sadly, the children have to bore the brunt of the consequences of the adults’ actions.

For her situation, I think that the guy deserves the full brunt of the Women’s Charter. In fact, I wonder, why have your friend not thought of this?

 

[Heriophant]

A lot of divorced bros here… TS is in good hands

Theres one guy here with frog profile pic... Hes the real divorce GOD le

 

[KPO_SAHM]

Wow, so at least the son is sensible to appreciate what the mum has done for him. She has really brought him up well.

Sadly, the children have to bore the brunt of the consequences of the adults’ actions.

For her situation, I think that the guy deserves the full brunt of the Women’s Charter. In fact, I wonder, why have your friend not thought of this?

She has old generation mindset (是命就认命） n most importantly no parents' support as parents passed away before aged 20. She used to stay at rental flat throughout her life. Very tough , diligent n honest lady.

I always tell her that GOD is fair . At least she has a child who is like her. Honest , no temper n sensible .

 

[Duapui-ti]

Ya never say never, esp if you meet one whom had never been married… you maybe pressured to tie the knot again.

Will look for new rs but unlikely to remarry. Just cohabit at the most. Pretty sure got other divorcees will have same thinking and want the same..

In fact alr thinking getting one rm condo lol.. Anw my soon to be ex wife is overseas with another man rn on holiday as I typing. So honestly no feelings alr. No point to salvage.

 

[nasfieldjohn]

Sounded like my friend. Hubby dating times super stingy. Everything on dutch. Now married with kid for 10 years. Hubby has a car n earning quite a good pay. Hubby wants my friend to be stay home. Hubby refuses to take care of son , but not giving my friend any money . She falls sick she has to pay for her own medical. She used up all her saving and could not even afford to buy pad. Now working part time in cafe to earn money for her own self. After work still need to fetch son from school . Hubby doesn even allow her to use household CDC voucher. Friend said she would divorce her hubby when child is an adult. Currently she just tolerate such living as she was born in a very poor family which used to stay in rented flat all her whole life. Parents passed away at young age but her bro financially supports her too.

Yr fren like being take advantage of by her hamsab hubb for so mani years
Chiu should advice her talk to aware for help

 

[Emperor_Hippo]

3 years...

Then it's annulment within 3 years, not divorce. Unless its a shotgun.

https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/how-to-annul-a-marriage/

P/S: Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. If only within 3yrs "feel drained", you are gonna feel that way with every single marriage you land into subsequently. Start asking yourself what went wrong, what did she do and what did you do. There's a diff between complete incompatibility vs petty squabbles.

 

[Emperor_Hippo]

Divorce by mutual agreement don't need split assets right? Especially if dink? I just worried my stock Portfolio need share half lol.. if really like that I can faster liquidate put my parents name or smth lol

Mutual agreement = both of u have to come to terms even when it comes to splitting assets.

If she has zero designs on your stock portfolio, etc, and have that integrity to say, "I don't wanna touch a single thing that's with your name on it." even after you'd declared your stock portfolio, then yup, you are safe.

 

[*Sisyphus*]

Very spoilt and sensitive. Cannot communicate at all...

And don't tell us before marriage not like that lor.

 

[charliebrown]

Very spoilt and sensitive. Cannot communicate at all...

i lazy to read every post.
can share why u nv see these red flag before marrying her and despite these steel proceed to marry her?
priest share so can help all e bbfa brahs here.. thanks.

 

[Emperor_Hippo]

Very spoilt and sensitive. Cannot communicate at all...

Spoilt as in? Stamp feet and pout if can't get her way?
What do most guys deem that as during courtship? Cute?

Sensitive? Overthinking everything? Everything has got to do with "your ex" and everything is always "you aim me one"?

 

[Mecisteus]

Talk Liao, usually quarrel. I stop trying for children even since I had intentions of breaking up....

Ok good thing no children.

If have children, thinking of their welfare makes the marriage stronger.

 

[Teyemittisi]

If she agrees. If she doesn't?

Make her agree.. tell her as a woman she has more to lose.. time and youth is priceless for women.. why waste 3years when the end product is the same?

 

[A Better Tomorrow]

A divorced woman has a lot to lose when her divorce is completed, her love affair lover will be the first to ditch her off and all the promises become empty.

Esp when she has the access and care for the kid.

 

[ChuppaChups]

TS sounds like a responsible man. He knows things aren’t working out and decided to end it properly instead of dragging it on.

Even giving up the matrimonial home shows he just wants to close things nicely and do what’s right as an ex-husband. It’s definitely not easy, must have taken a lot for him to come to that point.

At least both didn’t run away from the problem by starting an affair and making things ugly and messy. That already says a lot about their character.

As for the wife, maybe there’s more to her behaviour than what we read here… sometimes outsiders will never know the full story.

Hopefully both can heal, find peace, and move on to better chapters in life. Ending something the right way takes courage too. JYJY TS.

 

[Yuripa]

The only thing she is concern is about her face value. I feel. Like today got gathering, she asked me coldly if I am going... I told her no, then later changed my mind, and said I going.
I dunno man. Am I am pushover?

I understand how you're feeling.

You're feeling tired and you're afraid of hurting yourself.

That's why you need to give urself a chance to seek counseling from trained professionals, they are there to assist and support you in times like these.

Its good you're posting here to get some feedbacks but ultimately you will need to be braver and stronger and render correct help from family service centers etc.

There are many things to resolve but the 1st and foremost is to settle your emotional conflicts. At the very least, you owe this to yourself.

 

[Jude Raphael]

She has old generation mindset (是命就认命） n most importantly no parents' support as parents passed away before aged 20. She used to stay at rental flat throughout her life. Very tough , diligent n honest lady.

I always tell her that GOD is fair . At least she has a child who is like her. Honest , no temper n sensible .

Our upbringing and environment mould our character, I understand. God has His own plans for all of us, I agree.


He may be stingy towards the wife but in the eyes of the law, a parent has the moral obligation and duty to care for and maintain the well-being of a child. This is also deeply rooted as a biological fact.

Hopefully, he doesn’t inflict other forms of abuse on his wife and kid.

 

[alex22]

I think this is how the new mutual agreement rule evolved ba. Both parties agree, easier to resolve. You agree to what I file. I agree to what you file. I put we separated 3 years, and that I stayed with my parents. You agree to what i wrote. We file to dissolve the marriage. Judge approve. But I do think emotional separation is not a legit path coz it is not built in the law. More like a hack?

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