Divorce Procedure -

[EdenHazard]

going to look for a new relationship after that?

or jus remain single?

Will look for new rs but unlikely to remarry. Just cohabit at the most. Pretty sure got other divorcees will have same thinking and want the same..

In fact alr thinking getting one rm condo lol.. Anw my soon to be ex wife is overseas with another man rn on holiday as I typing. So honestly no feelings alr. No point to salvage.

 

[KPO_SAHM]

Please think carefully.
Especially if you hv kids.
Dnt rush into divorce.
Try to reconcile if possible.

TS has no kids easier. With kid like my female friend, home maker with no financial n parents' ( passed away at young age) supports has to bear n tolerate till kid is an adult.

 

[GoodEnergy]

This, I am surprised. They went the mutual agreement path?

No..divorced more than 5 years ago before the latest "no blame" divorce rule comes into play.

Even in the past, you can divorce mutually but one party still need to be plaintiff and defendent. (The new rule, no need for one party to be plaintiff as it is " no blame" mah.)

When I said they divorced mutually, i meant they agreed on the terms of the asset divide/ maintenance and the lawyer will draft this agreement. "mutually", means no need to go courts to fight this and contest that. Such mutual divorce also can be done in 6 months. The "drag out" is when one party does not agree to the terms and then has to go courts to fight it out.

My friend said the lawyer asked if they have lived separately and she honestly said no. Then the lawyer asked about their their communication and interaction. Their communication is only limited and only on a "have to" basis and more like housemates, then lawyer said it is emotional separation liao. The lawyer clearly stated that separation does not need to be "physical", emotional separation is acceptable. I remember this very clearly as I was also very surprised when my friend told me.

 

[EdenHazard]

Divorce by mutual agreement don't need split assets right? Especially if dink? I just worried my stock Portfolio need share half lol.. if really like that I can faster liquidate put my parents name or smth lol

 

[MoeLanYong]

im also on the same path.

gave me and my wife 6 months to work things out. 4 months has passed and its just me trying, likely the marriage is gg alr.

This is what they all say. Husband tell his friends I am trying but she is not. Wife tell her friends I am trying but he is not.

I think what each means is YOU change, not me.

 

[Cowbellc]

wont probe the reason why u choose to part.
get a lawyer instead of asking here.

bless u

 

[MoeLanYong]

Will look for new rs but unlikely to remarry. Just cohabit at the most. Pretty sure got other divorcees will have same thinking and want the same..

In fact alr thinking getting one rm condo lol.. Anw my soon to be ex wife is overseas with another man rn on holiday as I typing. So honestly no feelings alr. No point to salvage.

Ya. I think no sane person will want to merry again. Like seriously. Haha. Cohabit suak.

 

[ChuppaChups]

im also on the same path.

gave me and my wife 6 months to work things out. 4 months has passed and its just me trying, likely the marriage is gg alr.

Married for how long and what age?

 

[Yuripa]

1) Speak to family service centre counselors 1st for therapy sessions to figure out what you want.

2) Engage a lawyer to protect yourself. Not complicated cases probably +/-sgd$3k at best. Complicated cases up to 5 figure amount also can.

3) Lawyer will ask you to obtain a certificate that states you wanna divorce, this is usually issued by the family service centers. You will have to go for a short seminar beforehand.

Goodluck and all the best TS.

Go counseling for yourself. Its alot better to have a professional to help you out in times like this.

Please stay strong and protect yourself. Don't give in to unreasonable demands.

Its good to be a nice guy but dont fall prey to toxic negativity.

You shouldn't be alone. Gather support from ur family and close friends who are non toxic.

There is life in marriage. There is also life after divorce.

Learn from this marriage experience.

Life is like a story book. This is just 1 chapter of your life story.

There will be better and nicer chapters in it as you keep writing.

 

[Mephist0pheLes]

This is what they all say. Husband tell his friends I am trying but she is not. Wife tell her friends I am trying but he is not.

I think what each means is YOU change, not me.

i think u have been pretending to know what other ppl are going thru in this thread, whether it is TS, me or other ppl.

if i care enough about ur opinion, i would post screenshot of my wife acknowledging that in her message, but i dont.

 

[Fightfat]

TS , my advice is just follow your heart accordingly.
It is very difficult to stay with a princess syndrome lady , once you have ideas of divorce, the chances of it happening is very high.
There is no need to give her the matrimonial asset since she earns more than you and I believe she has belittle and berated you on your lower salary.
You have shown enough kindness by enduring her temper and display great generosity by giving up the flat.
Please don't do it.
Don't think of giving up the flat as compensation to her or whatsoever you will regret it since you are earning lesser than her.
Keep calm and composed .
Feelings of the day should not be Equate to future financial decisions that would affect you.
Good Luck

 

[Kuudere]

Will look for new rs but unlikely to remarry. Just cohabit at the most. Pretty sure got other divorcees will have same thinking and want the same..

In fact alr thinking getting one rm condo lol.. Anw my soon to be ex wife is overseas with another man rn on holiday as I typing. So honestly no feelings alr. No point to salvage.

1 room condo enough space to cohabit? I think need at least 2 rooms or more

 

[Mephist0pheLes]

Married for how long and what age?

less than 3 years. 35 yo.

and before you ask, yes, saw the red flags but didnt know the extent of how much it would affect the relationship.

 

[iam7377]

Go counseling for yourself. Its alot better to have a professional to help you out in times like this.

Please stay strong and protect yourself. Don't give in to unreasonable demands.

Its good to be a nice guy but dont fall prey to toxic negativity.

You shouldn't be alone. Gather support from ur family and close friends who are non toxic.

There is life in marriage. There is also life after divorce.

Learn from this marriage experience.

Life is like a story book. This is just 1 chapter of your life story.

There will be better and nicer chapters in it as you keep writing.

The only thing she is concern is about her face value. I feel. Like today got gathering, she asked me coldly if I am going... I told her no, then later changed my mind, and said I going.
I dunno man. Am I am pushover?

 

[Jude Raphael]

TS has no kids easier. With kid like my female friend, home maker with no financial n parents' ( passed away at young age) supports has to bear n tolerate till kid is an adult.

Actually, what does the kid think too? Kids may be more sensitive and perceptive than what adults give them credit for.


Imagine a kid growing up in a toxic environment and watches how his dad has been treating his mum? The more sensible one would treasure his mum more and protect her.

The less sensible one would probably think that it’s the “norm” to subject the weaker party to such treatments.

 

[ChuppaChups]

less than 3 years. 35 yo.

and before you ask, yes, saw the red flags but didnt know the extent of how much it would affect the relationship.

assuming no kids right? Hang on there.. it shall pass

 

[Fightfat]

Will look for new rs but unlikely to remarry. Just cohabit at the most. Pretty sure got other divorcees will have same thinking and want the same..

In fact alr thinking getting one rm condo lol.. Anw my soon to be ex wife is overseas with another man rn on holiday as I typing. So honestly no feelings alr. No point to salvage.

Bro, just see open
Hope everything is fine with you
you are strong to be able to type the story here

 

[ChuppaChups]

The only thing she is concern is about her face value. I feel. Like today got gathering, she asked me coldly if I am going... I told her no, then later changed my mind, and said I going.
I dunno man. Am I am pushover?

On surface does friends and family see u guys as a loving couple?

 

[MoeLanYong]

No..divorced more than 5 years ago before the latest "no blame" divorce rule comes into play.

Even in the past, you can divorce mutually but one party still need to be plaintiff and defendent. (The new rule, no need for one party to be plaintiff as it is " no blame" mah.)

When I said they divorced mutually, i meant they agreed on the terms of the asset divide/ maintenance and the lawyer will draft this agreement. "mutually", means no need to go courts to fight this and contest that. Such mutual divorce also can be done in 6 months. The "drag out" is when one party does not agree to the terms and then has to go courts to fight it out.

My friend said the lawyer asked if they have lived separately and she honestly said no. Then the lawyer asked about their their communication and interaction. Their communication is only limited and only on a "have to" basis and more like housemates, then lawyer said it is emotional separation liao. The lawyer clearly stated that separation does not need to be "physical", emotional separation is acceptable. I remember this very clearly as I was also very surprised when my friend told me.

I think this is how the new mutual agreement rule evolved ba. Both parties agree, easier to resolve. You agree to what I file. I agree to what you file. I put we separated 3 years, and that I stayed with my parents. You agree to what i wrote. We file to dissolve the marriage. Judge approve. But I do think emotional separation is not a legit path coz it is not built in the law. More like a hack?

 

[Reznik]

All the best to you Ts