Why It's Better to be Single

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I had a chat with my son when he was in late 20s. He shared that many of his male friends, himself incl, subscribe to the above - to go through 'probation' period before deciding on one. Once if feel 'not right', then break it and look further.

Then my girl's friends more into the idea that once they decided on a man, then die die will be fixated on the man. Any rough edges then the couple needs to try to adjust for each other else it is not 'Love'.

Interesting to hear their differences.
women think they have more to lose if they chose the wrong man, they are not wrong about that, being that asian society is just more conservative at its core.

men are more likely to try out other women, so the idea of probation sounds right ...
 

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better to have someone

someone to share each other happiness with so that happiness can x2

when got anyone sadd got each other for accompany so that saddness divde by 2
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That is what you fantasize. The reality (as told by relationship experts) is that whatever problems and sadness you have in life as a single, it will x10 once you get married. GPGT.

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With the way the current gen Zs are staying single, AIDS could have a chance to dwindle out of nothingness
Not really

There are a lot of singles

but rich handsome playboys up a lot of single females, so these playboys can still spread aids to many females, while there are a lot of single males

with woke mindset, more male pink dots may not be so hesitant to come out of the closet as well.
 

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The video argues that many modern relationships drain men of peace, freedom, and focus, and that choosing to be single can be a deliberate path to power, self-mastery, and emotional independence. It frames solitude not as failure or loneliness, but as “sovereignty” for men who refuse to base their worth on romantic validation.

## Core message

- The narrative challenges the belief that a man is incomplete without a partner, claiming that tying identity and happiness to a woman’s approval becomes “emotional slavery” and leads to loss of self.
- It promotes solitude as a way for men to reclaim time, energy, and purpose, directing love inward toward growth, discipline, and brotherhood instead of constant emotional negotiation.

## Relationship and dependency critique

- The video portrays many modern relationships as financially, emotionally, and spiritually draining, with rising expectations that push men to sacrifice dreams, identity, and health just to preserve harmony.
- It highlights divorce, legal systems, and emotional chaos as major risks, arguing that dependency disguised as love can destroy a man’s wealth, stability, and access to his children.

## Solitude as power and peace

- Solitude is presented as a “teacher” that strips away illusions and fear of being alone, allowing a man to build peace, focus, and physical and mental discipline without drama or emotional blackmail.
- The single man is described as owning his time, money, and decisions, using them for skills, business, travel, training, and legacy, instead of spending them on constant reassurance or conflict.

## Self-reliance and emotional sovereignty

- The script emphasizes self-reliance: handling pain alone, facing insecurities head-on, and no longer needing a “savior,” which creates a calm that betrayal or breakup cannot destroy.
- It claims true freedom begins when a man no longer seeks escape through romance or external validation, and that only a self-sufficient man can love freely because his affection is a choice, not a survival strategy.

## Final takeaway

- Being single is framed as liberation rather than isolation: love becomes a choice, not a lifeline, and the measure of a man becomes how little he depends on others rather than how many depend on him.
- The closing idea is that once a man fully embraces solitude and lives intentionally, dependence “feels like death,” because no one can take away a man who truly belongs to himself.

Hope this brings some solace to @Dinoboyboy staying involuntarily single 😌
 

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Note the operative word. "Right".

What did the expert say if one married the "wrong" partner?

Another expert say if merried wrong partner, it is pain x 8, happiness ÷ 25. ☹️

Ownself choose wrongly rush to BTO earn money, blame who?
 

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The video argues that many modern relationships drain men of peace, freedom, and focus, and that choosing to be single can be a deliberate path to power, self-mastery, and emotional independence. It frames solitude not as failure or loneliness, but as “sovereignty” for men who refuse to base their worth on romantic validation.

## Core message

- The narrative challenges the belief that a man is incomplete without a partner, claiming that tying identity and happiness to a woman’s approval becomes “emotional slavery” and leads to loss of self.
- It promotes solitude as a way for men to reclaim time, energy, and purpose, directing love inward toward growth, discipline, and brotherhood instead of constant emotional negotiation.

## Relationship and dependency critique

- The video portrays many modern relationships as financially, emotionally, and spiritually draining, with rising expectations that push men to sacrifice dreams, identity, and health just to preserve harmony.
- It highlights divorce, legal systems, and emotional chaos as major risks, arguing that dependency disguised as love can destroy a man’s wealth, stability, and access to his children.

## Solitude as power and peace

- Solitude is presented as a “teacher” that strips away illusions and fear of being alone, allowing a man to build peace, focus, and physical and mental discipline without drama or emotional blackmail.
- The single man is described as owning his time, money, and decisions, using them for skills, business, travel, training, and legacy, instead of spending them on constant reassurance or conflict.

## Self-reliance and emotional sovereignty

- The script emphasizes self-reliance: handling pain alone, facing insecurities head-on, and no longer needing a “savior,” which creates a calm that betrayal or breakup cannot destroy.
- It claims true freedom begins when a man no longer seeks escape through romance or external validation, and that only a self-sufficient man can love freely because his affection is a choice, not a survival strategy.

## Final takeaway

- Being single is framed as liberation rather than isolation: love becomes a choice, not a lifeline, and the measure of a man becomes how little he depends on others rather than how many depend on him.
- The closing idea is that once a man fully embraces solitude and lives intentionally, dependence “feels like death,” because no one can take away a man who truly belongs to himself.

Sinleg income cannot lar
 

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Spreading STDs ?

My son told me 'new era' young adults before having sex with a new partner will go for STD checks before proceeding.

My girl told me in Europe, sexually active people do weekly STD check (a simple kit available from pharmacies). Both need to show own kit with a 'Pass' before proceeding. No Check No Do basic common agreed principle (if want to use fake result then no choice).
 

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Still believe in fairytale ...

Talking about 'fairytale'.

I have a 60 yo high-flyer friend recently fell in love with a mid-30 man she met via online app. I recongised it as a love scam but she is so into the relationship that I have to keep my mouth shut (she is a highly intelligent woman).

Then I told her recently I watched the below movie which I find it's nice:

 

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Another expert say if merried wrong partner, it is pain x 8, happiness ÷ 25. ☹️

Ownself choose wrongly rush to BTO earn money, blame who?

Not everyone will be able to come across the right partner, and translate it into a marriage.

So if the right person don't come along, better to stay single.

1/3 of marriages ended in a divorce. And out of other 2/3, how many are truly happily married?

The stats simply don't work out.

BTO just made the situation worse.
 

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I actually still feel it’s better to be able to find the right partner

but I know I’m not rich,not handsome, boring, have family commitments, no woman will want me de.

so being single might suit me more.

but never have gf my entire life could be one regret I have when I leave this world la
 

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The video argues that many modern relationships drain men of peace, freedom, and focus, and that choosing to be single can be a deliberate path to power, self-mastery, and emotional independence. It frames solitude not as failure or loneliness, but as “sovereignty” for men who refuse to base their worth on romantic validation.

## Core message

- The narrative challenges the belief that a man is incomplete without a partner, claiming that tying identity and happiness to a woman’s approval becomes “emotional slavery” and leads to loss of self.
- It promotes solitude as a way for men to reclaim time, energy, and purpose, directing love inward toward growth, discipline, and brotherhood instead of constant emotional negotiation.

## Relationship and dependency critique

- The video portrays many modern relationships as financially, emotionally, and spiritually draining, with rising expectations that push men to sacrifice dreams, identity, and health just to preserve harmony.
- It highlights divorce, legal systems, and emotional chaos as major risks, arguing that dependency disguised as love can destroy a man’s wealth, stability, and access to his children.

## Solitude as power and peace

- Solitude is presented as a “teacher” that strips away illusions and fear of being alone, allowing a man to build peace, focus, and physical and mental discipline without drama or emotional blackmail.
- The single man is described as owning his time, money, and decisions, using them for skills, business, travel, training, and legacy, instead of spending them on constant reassurance or conflict.

## Self-reliance and emotional sovereignty

- The script emphasizes self-reliance: handling pain alone, facing insecurities head-on, and no longer needing a “savior,” which creates a calm that betrayal or breakup cannot destroy.
- It claims true freedom begins when a man no longer seeks escape through romance or external validation, and that only a self-sufficient man can love freely because his affection is a choice, not a survival strategy.

## Final takeaway

- Being single is framed as liberation rather than isolation: love becomes a choice, not a lifeline, and the measure of a man becomes how little he depends on others rather than how many depend on him.
- The closing idea is that once a man fully embraces solitude and lives intentionally, dependence “feels like death,” because no one can take away a man who truly belongs to himself.

There is no soulmate in the vocabulary of singles...
 

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The video argues that many modern relationships drain men of peace, freedom, and focus, and that choosing to be single can be a deliberate path to power, self-mastery, and emotional independence. It frames solitude not as failure or loneliness, but as “sovereignty” for men who refuse to base their worth on romantic validation.

## Core message

- The narrative challenges the belief that a man is incomplete without a partner, claiming that tying identity and happiness to a woman’s approval becomes “emotional slavery” and leads to loss of self.
- It promotes solitude as a way for men to reclaim time, energy, and purpose, directing love inward toward growth, discipline, and brotherhood instead of constant emotional negotiation.

## Relationship and dependency critique

- The video portrays many modern relationships as financially, emotionally, and spiritually draining, with rising expectations that push men to sacrifice dreams, identity, and health just to preserve harmony.
- It highlights divorce, legal systems, and emotional chaos as major risks, arguing that dependency disguised as love can destroy a man’s wealth, stability, and access to his children.

## Solitude as power and peace

- Solitude is presented as a “teacher” that strips away illusions and fear of being alone, allowing a man to build peace, focus, and physical and mental discipline without drama or emotional blackmail.
- The single man is described as owning his time, money, and decisions, using them for skills, business, travel, training, and legacy, instead of spending them on constant reassurance or conflict.

## Self-reliance and emotional sovereignty

- The script emphasizes self-reliance: handling pain alone, facing insecurities head-on, and no longer needing a “savior,” which creates a calm that betrayal or breakup cannot destroy.
- It claims true freedom begins when a man no longer seeks escape through romance or external validation, and that only a self-sufficient man can love freely because his affection is a choice, not a survival strategy.

## Final takeaway

- Being single is framed as liberation rather than isolation: love becomes a choice, not a lifeline, and the measure of a man becomes how little he depends on others rather than how many depend on him.
- The closing idea is that once a man fully embraces solitude and lives intentionally, dependence “feels like death,” because no one can take away a man who truly belongs to himself.

But solo cannot 2x happiness and 1/2 sadness leh

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