Educated ladies: “If the guy cannot add value to my life, why should I marry him?”

[plpl20]

This might last a while or even for several years.. there will come a time that this feeling will subside and start to fade after you realize that the situation is not improving despite your efforts.

Fairy tale endings are possible but rare.

Yes difficult, my longing to be with her grow stronger esp when I see her. It's juz timing, when I met her, she alrdy met a guy she like and she's the ti ki type in this.

If she give up on that guy and give chance to others, good. If not, I'm not in a hurry, not as if she or I am leaving the company. If so, I go all out before that since not going to be awkward after she or I leave. Fairytale ending or not, at least tried and have no regret.

 

[plpl20]

acherly imma was given the -ve treatment of ghosting and paggro attitude by such a "nice girl". it's why imma got so traumatized. never thought such a person could show such an attitude.

Actually the girl didn't do anything wrong in ghosting. Maybe not comfortable pending on guy behaviour or juz busy, forgot but for sure not interested. What kind of attitude she show? Was she rude?

 

[mickey88]

Yes difficult, my longing to be with her grow stronger esp when I see her. It's juz timing, when I met her, she alrdy met a guy she like and she's the ti ki type in this.

If she give up on that guy and give chance to others, good. If not, I'm not in a hurry, not as if she or I am leaving the company. If so, I go all out before that since not going to be awkward after she or I leave. Fairytale ending or not, at least tried and have no regret.

Timing?? Time waits for no one. Cut the loss and move on with life. Wat u cun get always seem the most desirable but might not be the best for you

 

[doratch]

She is scholar so she can think of solutions other people can’t!

U r right. She was testing if I could accept her not shaving regularly. Her hair was already nice but she kept arranging until her short sleeve dropped down and she saw that I saw and then she stopped tying her hair. Obvious she wanted me to see. If I could accept it and still ask her out, she will know I am at peace with her stubbles.

In fact, this is the third time I come across such tests. Got one from NUS and early 30s. Wore white spaghetti for our first date. The moment I approached her table, she raised her arms to tie hair and showed off 2cm of hair. I was stirred for two seconds. I failed her test.

You guys think too much liao...

You only know that you failed her test when you tried to date her again after the incident and she rejected you.

So, you tried to date her again after the incident and she rejected you?

 

[plpl20]

Timing?? Time waits for no one. Cut the loss and move on with life. Wat u cun get always seem the most desirable but might not be the best for you

No issue. I plan to stay single anyway until I meet her. Dated other girls before, not interested. If I get her, good. If not, I juz enjoy my single life.

 

[plpl20]

Let me give you an analogy.

Assuming I am a car enthusiast, and saw this ultra rare Ferrari at my workplace.

I can think about it day and night. I might end up becoming friends with the owner, and he might bring me out for an occasional spin.

But the truth is that I cannot afford the car, and he is not going to bring me out for spins forever.

Appreciate what you are trying to share with me bro. But different case. The issue is timing (and other factors) and not money. I can't afford the Ferrari in this life but I can afford the time, since I was planning to stay single anyway until I meet her. Not interested in "other car models".

 

[Rodimusprime6113]

You guys think too much liao...

You only know that you failed her test when you tried to date her again after the incident and she rejected you.

So, you tried to date her again after the incident and she rejected you?

She is overseas now. See my mood when she is back. Not say I really gian her. But I am also curious if she will put me to a test again.

 

[doratch]

She is overseas now. See my mood when she is back. Not say I really gian her. But I am also curious if she will put me to a test again.

Don't think too much.

 

[Rodimusprime6113]

Don't think too much.

I am thinking of wearing t shirt with very short sleeve and stretch upward during my next lunch with her…. Scully she finds me manly

 

[doratch]

I am thinking of wearing t shirt with very short sleeve and stretch upward during my next lunch with her…. Scully she finds me manly

Don't think too much.

 

[doratch]

If one doesn't like the other, one just need 1 reason to reject him/her.

 

[batniss]

hard to believe 1st class honours graduate has no career ambition and career drive at all....

Tell me about it.

 

[Rodimusprime6113]

I have found the reason why educated ladies find it hard to settle down.

Educated ladies pick on traits that they don’t like in their dates. In other words, they find reasons not to be with the guy.

Not so educated ladies, including kampung and many overseas girls, pick on traits that they like in the guy. They focus on the traits that they like, instead of traits they don’t like.

You ask an educated lady what they don’t like in the guy, they can tell u many reasons. Even if the guy has desirable traits.

 

[SayPorkGuy]

I have found the reason why educated ladies find it hard to settle down.

Educated ladies pick on traits that they don’t like in their dates. In other words, they find reasons not to be with the guy.

Not so educated ladies, including kampung and many overseas girls, pick on traits that they like in the guy. They focus on the traits that they like, instead of traits they don’t like.

You ask an educated lady what they don’t like in the guy, they can tell u many reasons. Even if the guy has desirable traits.

acherly only got 2 reasons:

1. they marry up.
2. they assume they are same level once the higher status guy is secured.
3. Repeat 1 again.

lower level guys automatically dontch exist or become furniture.

 

[Mclairs83]

I have found the reason why educated ladies find it hard to settle down.

Educated ladies pick on traits that they don’t like in their dates. In other words, they find reasons not to be with the guy.

Not so educated ladies, including kampung and many overseas girls, pick on traits that they like in the guy. They focus on the traits that they like, instead of traits they don’t like.

You ask an educated lady what they don’t like in the guy, they can tell u many reasons. Even if the guy has desirable traits.

simple reason.

life is already difficult, if the other partner bay kan, why should i make my life even more difficult?

similarly, if the guy or girl has nothing to offer, settle down for wad?

 

[JustForFun]

My only thought is education makes many many many infertile

 

[Rodimusprime6113]

simple reason.

life is already difficult, if the other partner bay kan, why should i make my life even more difficult?

similarly, if the guy or girl has nothing to offer, settle down for wad?

Even if the guy is desirable and eh Kan, educated ladies will still focus on traits that they don’t like in him. They amplify undesirable traits more than desirable ones.

Not so educated ladies focus more on desirable traits and are more forgiving of undesirable traits.

 

[feeltherain]

Yes difficult, my longing to be with her grow stronger esp when I see her. It's juz timing, when I met her, she alrdy met a guy she like and she's the ti ki type in this.

If she give up on that guy and give chance to others, good. If not, I'm not in a hurry, not as if she or I am leaving the company. If so, I go all out before that since not going to be awkward after she or I leave. Fairytale ending or not, at least tried and have no regret.

Pardon me for being rude and blunt.

I think she has no interest in you.
And she is not the 'Ti Ki' stubborn type.
It's evident she has no interest in you romantically, and you are deluded.

 

[feeltherain]

Even if the guy is desirable and eh Kan, educated ladies will still focus on traits that they don’t like in him. They amplify undesirable traits more than desirable ones.

Not so educated ladies focus more on desirable traits and are more forgiving of undesirable traits.

So what are you going to do about it?
whine here about your failures on why girls don't accept you and hoping to get sympathy here?

Suck it up and be a man, drop your ego!

 

[feeltherain]

She is overseas now. See my mood when she is back. Not say I really gian her. But I am also curious if she will put me to a test again.

You talk as if all women should fall at your feet. you need a mirror or an ego check lol