Actually what's the benchmark? And what's the point?

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I been longing for some but only got chance as bbfa.

Go market vegetable stalls and find options

 

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Go market vegetable stalls and find options

@IAmChiobu12M don't angry la

 

[Vinda99]

Met my partner when I was in my darkest period of life and generally v negative and pessimistic.. dunno how he managed to tahan me then.

Now my temperament shifted to become more positive and even tempered.

Even tho I am a stranger, I feel happy for you.

All the best to you and your partner

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

@IAmChiobu12M don't angry la

Then chiu say something funny

 

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Then chiu say something funny

I go 天牙海脚 there n see what funny things I see there, then GPGT

 

[Aunt Dino]

You have been around long enough to have read all types of advice, and replies.

Yes, but usually people ask other types of questions, coupled with the fact that there are also a lot of troll posts, half-joke replies. I don't read most posts if I'm not the TS

This is untrue. I know several females who do way better than their spouses (above 10X difference). They don't really "outshine" them by offering to pay for everything, pay much more, go for expensive meals or holidays all the time etc. More often than not, the relationship is a consultative type. Would typically ask for their spouses for their opinions before a major purchase if that involves them or their families. Having said that they also have their own preferences, and are not submissive per se.

Then again, these are females older than me.

This is interesting to note, because almost all older females I know are housewives for decades. They and their husbands decide on major things together

As long as character is dubious or calculative, need not waste time. This applies to everything.

Are guys saying they "they want to save money for the future" the same as being calculative? I have problems differentiating between the two and came across many who said this.

I thought as long as one knows how to spend within a certain amount, should have savings for the future already no?

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Yes, but usually people ask other types of questions, coupled with the fact that there are also a lot of troll posts, half-joke replies. I don't read most posts if I'm not the TS


This is interesting to note, because almost all older females I know are housewives for decades. They and their husbands decide on major things together


Are guys saying they "they want to save money for the future" the same as being calculative? I have problems differentiating between the two and came across many who said this.

I thought as long as one knows how to spend within a certain amount, should have savings for the future already no?

Actually being prudent and calculative is a thin line to me.

And calculative may not be bad but is not always good too. Everything has 2 sides.

 

[Spike]

Yes, but usually people ask other types of questions, coupled with the fact that there are also a lot of troll posts, half-joke replies. I don't read most posts if I'm not the TS


This is interesting to note, because almost all older females I know are housewives for decades. They and their husbands decide on major things together


Are guys saying they "they want to save money for the future" the same as being calculative? I have problems differentiating between the two and came across many who said this

I thought as long as one knows how to spend within a certain amount, should have savings for the future already no?

I recommend you read more then.

At your age, no good reason to know many older females outside your social circles. I am way older, and I come into contact with way more people than you.

"Save money for the future" is too vague a statement to understand one's character. Need to delve deeper into the topic to understand the purpose better, or whether this is simply a convenient excuse to avoid the topic or avoid paying meals. What financial instruments they dabble in to grow that money can be quite telling of their risk appetite, rationalization, type of character etc.

 

[couch.potato]

Actually being prudent and calculative is a thin line to me.

And calculative may not be bad but is not always good too. Everything has 2 sides.

I know my BIL for 16 years, I have never seen what his wallet looks like.

Give eg we went to Taiwan as a family, my partner buy a Xiang Chang, he ask if use group pool or own money.

my MIL however thinks he’s a gem who’s very financial savvy and lihai. (His LNY angbao to my MIL is $68 lol$
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The tip is to see if he’s only frugal on himself or frugal on everyone else. The good ones is frugal on themselves and very generous to others. The ones that pretend to save for future but giam siap with others are super red flags. Dont need pretend, i see through you.

lots of men can treat their partners well enough and still save money very well.

 

[Aunt Dino]

I recommend you read more then.

At your age, no good reason to know many older females outside your social circles. I am way older, and I come into contact with way more people than you.

"Save money for the future" is too vague a statement to understand one's character. Need to delve deeper into the topic to understand the purpose better, or whether this is simply a convenient excuse to avoid the topic or avoid paying meals. What financial instruments they dabble in to grow that money can be quite telling of their risk appetite, rationalization, type of character etc.

That's true. Well I'm not them, so I guess I won't be able to fully understand their actions and behaviour cos a lot of what goes behind is also personal stuff. On the surface, they do come off as penny-pinching.

 

[trd_charlie]

How to know if it's the right person before marriage? Any type of test? Other than travelling and living together

Need to test? Usually woman knows if she wants to marry the guy. If you aren't sure means it's not the right one.

 

[Spike]

That's true. Well I'm not them, so I guess I won't be able to fully understand their actions and behaviour cos a lot of what goes behind is also personal stuff. On the surface, they do come off as penny-pinching.

The simple answer is that if there's no decent interest during a first meeting. Simply cut contact or leave things be.

No need to fully understand a random person or a friend.

As long as never borrow money from me, I don't care! no meet no problem.

 

[XiaoChilli]

Even tho I am a stranger, I feel happy for you.

All the best to you and your partner

Thank you!

 

[boyinhersense]

Nowadays is, u dunno wat she has done b4 in d past. Let who go in b4 Liao.

Esp some uni girls now. Some r sugar babies or do tat type of part time. So if they nv tell their potential other half n kept him in d dark abt Her past. Then good luck.

Or as some woman likes to say now. My past doesn't matter!

I guess for a lot of guys, this sums it up

 

[PikaPika33]

what happen to good old love and mutual attraction?

humanity is doomed

 

[MangoCAT]

BBT will be nice to talk on friday, sat and sun relax with the person loh.

 

[freshvibes]

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

what happen to good old love and mutual attraction?

humanity is doomed

Since when humanity got hope?

 

[IAmChiobu12M]

Wah then I must be a guy. Caz I'll run and make sure it don't hit me too. I never once try to run and catch for it. I always stand the most behind and let all the girls go snatch.

 

[jinsadndepress]

Got money, got new problems, but definitely better than without money.

New problems like those family drama over inheritance all that, my family experiencing that now leh

I wan sexperience chiur problem pls ...

I no inherit debt steal laugh already