Does any man here feels tired?

[grevq80o]

As I grow from a boy to become a man, I just realised it is tough being a man. Woman and children expect you to provide. Country expect you to protect. It seems like everything you do is not for yourself, but for everybody else. Not gonna lie, I honestly am tired.

Then u stop. Who ask u to guai guai give on demand.

 

[TiedInsurer]

Define lousy..

Middle aged man in his 40s. Divorced. Not particularly rich. Not particularly handsome either. Claims he is traumatised from his previous failed marriage, and so will never marry again. But still want a girlfriend for sexual release.

Managed to snag a music teacher XMM in her mid 20s who is aware of all his circumstances. Stuck with him all the way til her mid 30s before giving up because she wants to get married and have kdis one day. XMM is aware the man is cui, and hid the relationship from her parents for the entire duration.

 

[XiaoChilli]

Middle aged man in his 40s. Divorced. Not particularly rich. Not particularly handsome either. Claims he is traumatised from his previous failed marriage, and so will never marry again. But still want a girlfriend for sexual release.

Managed to snag a music teacher XMM in her mid 20s who is aware of all his circumstances. Stuck with him all the way til her mid 30s before giving up.

Music teacher not very smart..

 

[Goodshot]

Ya this few days beat too much meat. Very tired

 

[Aunt Dino]

Time, energy, money. If your quality of life didn't deteriorate, then you were either contributing a lot to your birth family, such that the decrease in your obligations to your birth family was offset by the increase in obligations to your new family. Or you were lucky and your spouse has tanked all the increased responsibilities for you.

It's very common for sinkies to continue living with their parents until they get married, and it's also very common for them to do less then their fair share of chores as their parents will still continue shouldering outsized responsibility for chores. They can't depend on parents anymore after they get married and have their own home. The problem compounds when the first kid arrives, and the wife takes a hit to her health from the rigors of chilbirth, along with the increased mental and physical strain of caring for the kid.

Then there's all the additional bills to pay, that comes with getting your own place, and providing for the kids.

Oh all these are quite expected actually, I don’t see it as a deterioration in the quality of life. I'm very surprised that there are people who go into marriage without considering all these.

Even if they are DINKs means they now need to learn how to work together to manage finances and household. Before married, is parents handle everything. If got children, of course there's even much more responsibilities and somehow need to juggle all at the same time. Lifelong juggling of responsibilities in fact

It is indeed normal. But nowadays i think people watch too much Disney and K-drama. Expect roses but get thorns instead. My wife was also like this. But thankfully we talked about life after marriage, before we actually tied the knot. She was horrified when i told her that i expect both of our quality of life to dip, after marriage. At first, she was like "You siao ar? If my quality of life going to decrease, then i marry you for what?". Took her a few mths to come around to the fact that life isn't a K-drama.

Then your wife married you expecting to become a tai tai?

 

[Medicated Oil]

One day, you will **** care about what the world expect and think of you.
That is the day that you can be yourself.

 

[gilcrest]

Men provides sperms too

It is the job scope of men to provide

If a man cannot provide, then no more job, no more purpose. Useless man?

When financial commitments mounting and no revenue or jobsto sustain eben deem useless by women. This one even Skills future cannot help

 

[glarerder]

What he is saying is, these people have a prostitute mentality. They're looking for a transactional relationship, they would have to be offering something as part of their end of the transaction too.

I suspect one reason they deny providing sex is because subconsciously they deny they are actually looking for a transactional relationship. What they're looking for is a non-conditional one way transaction. It doesn't help sg marital law or marital law at large only covers monetary, physical violence and custody related affairs within marriage. Other than the initial consummation, they don't cover duties within marriage such as sexual affairs. That's also why many would think marital law protects largely women and children. I'd say none of the provisions in marital law is specifically for men except maybe alimony in the event men are disabled and unable to self provide which is ridiculous because women can claim alimony even when she's of good health. Misandry and outdated is what I'd describe the current state of our marital law.

 

[fandango]

Middle aged man in his 40s. Divorced. Not particularly rich. Not particularly handsome either. Claims he is traumatised from his previous failed marriage, and so will never marry again. But still want a girlfriend for sexual release.

Managed to snag a music teacher XMM in her mid 20s who is aware of all his circumstances. Stuck with him all the way til her mid 30s before giving up because she wants to get married and have kdis one day. XMM is aware the man is cui, and hid the relationship from her parents for the entire duration.

This guy really wasted the xmm's time.

 

[Racking2322]

My side is ppl expect female to provide. Got a few hubby stay home take care kids

 

[TiedInsurer]

Then your wife married you expecting to become a tai tai?

I dunno. Seems like it. I blame social media, especially the China based ones like XiaoHongShu. A lot of poison chicken soup on those.

 

[cosmothecat]

When financial commitments mounting and no revenue or jobsto sustain eben deem useless by women. This one even Skills future cannot help

Hard truth

 

[Icychemist]

Understand that as a Man in this era, any attention or value you have or love is always conditional. Nothing to complain to be tired about. Its just the game setttings.

yeah which is why I say, a lot of what we do is not for ourselves.

i hope more women can see this and start appreciating man more.

don't need them to take over our tasks, just need them to recognise, acknowledge and appreciate us.

 

[Jude Raphael]

don't need them to take over our tasks, just need them to recognise, acknowledge and appreciate us.

Okie bro, so how would you expect the females to do any of the above? If you could provide an example, probably we may start with the female members here in this Forum. In your opinion, how should they "recognise, acknowledge and appreciate" the male members here for a start?

 

[Kia7200]

yeah which is why I say, a lot of what we do is not for ourselves.

i hope more women can see this and start appreciating man more.

don't need them to take over our tasks, just need them to recognise, acknowledge and appreciate us.

Dont be too demanding