Have you ever consider before,

[wulu1_69]

when will you take a backseat in life?

like every day chiong. Work so hard.

I see some people, got 1 car, not enough. go for a sport car.
Got 1 house, not enough, go for 1 more condo.

when will they be satisfied?

and more importantly, when will you take a back seat in life? Is there like a $$$ figure? or a age number? or certain ambition or achievements?

please share!

for me, i think if i got house/car, no debt. i wanna take backseat liao. enjoy the peace in life.

For me remain bbfa stay 2r bto do security guard can lay flat liao

 

[cosmothecat]

That’s the reason why …

Poor people are happier

 

[buttbERry]

sounds like lie flat

 

[EDMW-Hates-Me]

Jskm. Now you 33yo afford buy hdb? 35 single leh

Buy a cheap one, no need expensive prime location.

 

[Icychemist]

so i take it u havent found? and why?

the woman i want don't exist. it's only a fantasy.

i want a decent looking woman, who dresses well, is emotionally mature, doesn't suddenly explode over small things, good values, character, personality & moral, is loyal and doesn't cheat, and is smart & wise. that's about it.

LOL. don't exist trust me.

Let's jus say I want a woman, but most are out are just over aged girls.

 

[Icychemist]

sounds like lie flat

no la, sit up right and enjoy life. drinking cocktail at the beach. go overseas holiday. or can even do "a job" that you're passionate about.

instead of (slog - receive salary - pay bills) x 40 years - and then - die.

 

[Icychemist]

Wah, this one really hit deep sia. In SG, it’s like we always on hamster wheel — run, run, run… then suddenly realise, for what? I also see people like that — keep upgrading, always want more, never stop. Not saying ambition is bad, but if you don’t know when to slow down, you’ll burn out or miss out on life itself.
For me, I think once I have stable income, no debt, maybe can travel a bit, spend more time with loved ones, I’d be happy to just take a backseat. Don’t need to be rich-rich — just enough to live comfortably and have peace of mind. Life not just about chasing goals lah… sometimes must also stop and enjoy the view.

wise man spotted!



yeah there's no point chasing actually. you'll never be contented. (which is why i ask if there's a figure/number/goals that can make one contented).

you flash your car, you think people care, you think people look up to you, but truth is, people don't care.

at best, they'll only be in awe in front of you when they see your car/condo or whatever.
after the meet-up, life returns to normal. some may even say you just wanna show-off la.

remember, at the end of the day, your life, belongs to you. no one else. you are the one living it, your are the one experiencing it. how you want to experience it, what type of experience you want to receive, largely depends on your wisdom, character and thoughts.

if you are the kind that love to hao lian, then you get what you deserve. continue working hard, buy more and more.

if you are the type that is afraid of being looked down upon, then you also gotta work work work, and buy buy buy, so you won't get look down upon.

Truth is - we are all living in our own world. Your world is yours, my world is mine.

 

[Icychemist]

For me remain bbfa stay 2r bto do security guard can lay flat liao

are you reaching your goal already?

 

[Icychemist]

im always in the backseat. i can afford condo and car, but i choose to stay in hdb and take mrt.

another wiseman spotted.

yeah, that's how i will spend my money too if im rich like you.

i like to have buffer, for my own comfort and breathing space, instead of strapping myself tight, to make others feel envy/jealous/be in awe.

the formal brings good to everyone, the latter makes everyone feel shitty.

now that you've lots of buffer, i'm sure you don't feel stressful at all.

 

[Icychemist]

if the man dont want then no matter how the woman throw also no use.

ya la, then it's the values of that guy le lor.

sad thing is, "know body, know face, dunno heart" 知人知面不知心

 

[dereth]

You married? Got kids?

Married. No Kids.

 

[Vincentlow82]

Is this enough?

 

[cyke69sg]

when will you take a backseat in life?

like every day chiong. Work so hard.

I see some people, got 1 car, not enough. go for a sport car.
Got 1 house, not enough, go for 1 more condo.

when will they be satisfied?

and more importantly, when will you take a back seat in life? Is there like a $$$ figure? or a age number? or certain ambition or achievements?

please share!

for me, i think if i got house/car, no debt. i wanna take backseat liao. enjoy the peace in life.

Got house cars no debt no mortgage monthly passive income that more than covers all expenses one day a week work activity with salary 5 times monthly expenses. Far away in Canada. No one to compare with. Contented.
Yes taking backseat.

 

[Kaylin]

the woman i want don't exist. it's only a fantasy.

i want a decent looking woman, who dresses well, is emotionally mature, doesn't suddenly explode over small things, good values, character, personality & moral, is loyal and doesn't cheat, and is smart & wise. that's about it.

LOL. don't exist trust me.

Let's jus say I want a woman, but most are out are just over aged girls.

u need to be that person 1st, coz we always attract our reflection

 

[TimsTom]

I have no debt - Just a fully paid BTO.

Retired in 2018 at 40 years old.

I didn't even go into the backseat... Straight into the boot.

Tang ping 躺平 already. Useless liao.

The mthly expenses u get from passive incomes? I myself spend v little ($1k/mth can liao. Stay with parents but give allowances, pay house bills and just nua using internet no outside entertainment) , but still long term cannot be totally go into boot n do nothing. Still gotta have some income somehow.

 

[Icychemist]

u need to be that person 1st, coz we always attract our reflection

so untrue. i was that person, but it became ultra hard to find.

why? because when you're, say, at 90%, you seek? the same. 90% of better!

I was at 95%, couldn't find that 5%

so i downgraded myself, suddenly I feel i've more girls interacting with me.

that's why if you are at 0%, you basically can accept just anyone.
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if you are talking about law of attraction, like poles repel, opposite poles attract.
the better you are, the crappier person u will be attracting. also kenna before. zzzzzzzzzz

 

[cyke69sg]

so untrue. i was that person, but it became ultra hard to find.

why? because when you're, say, at 90%, you seek? the same. 90% of better!

I was at 95%, couldn't find that 5%

so i downgraded myself, suddenly I feel i've more girls interacting with me.

that's why if you are at 0%, you basically can accept just anyone.
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if you are talking about law of attraction, like poles repel, opposite poles attract.
the better you are, the crappier person u will be attracting. also kenna before. zzzzzzzzzz

Just be you.
You are good enough.

 

[Kaylin]

so untrue. i was that person, but it became ultra hard to find.

why? because when you're, say, at 90%, you seek? the same. 90% of better!

I was at 95%, couldn't find that 5%

so i downgraded myself, suddenly I feel i've more girls interacting with me.

that's why if you are at 0%, you basically can accept just anyone.
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if you are talking about law of attraction, like poles repel, opposite poles attract.
the better you are, the crappier person u will be attracting. also kenna before. zzzzzzzzzz

coz u did all those things without boundaries, like they say nice/people pleasers are actually manipulative at the core so they're not genuinely nice but coz they want ppl to reciprocate their niceness.

i cant emphasize enough the importance of firm boundaries coz without it, it will be like what u said, the better ur, the crappier person u will be attracting.

respect yrself 1st & others will do likewise coz if they dont, u will filter them out.

 

[JohannSu1864]

when will you take a backseat in life?

like every day chiong. Work so hard.

I see some people, got 1 car, not enough. go for a sport car.
Got 1 house, not enough, go for 1 more condo.

when will they be satisfied?

and more importantly, when will you take a back seat in life? Is there like a $$$ figure? or a age number? or certain ambition or achievements?

please share!

for me, i think if i got house/car, no debt. i wanna take backseat liao. enjoy the peace in life.

Why u care other people how. Just do whatever u like.

 

[Icychemist]

coz u did all those things without boundaries, like they say nice/people pleasers are actually manipulative at the core so they're not genuinely nice but coz they want ppl to reciprocate their niceness.

i cant emphasize enough the importance of firm boundaries coz without it, it will be like what u said, the better ur, the crappier person u will be attracting.

respect yrself 1st & others will do likewise coz if they dont, u will filter them out.

yes that is right. i always fail to do that. i don't know how to say NO to people. too nice liao. :'(